i was adopted when i was 5.grew up in alberta and bc,found my mother in 99 and kept in contact by phone all these years.
i broke up with a man i been with for 6 years and flew to nova scotia to be close to her.
i went out for a night and she rumaged through my stuff and stole things.i feel so lost hurt and devistated.but i am so soft hearted that i can not just walk away and never talk 2 her
2007-08-24 00:52:33 · 8 answers · asked by kpearle23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I will not pretend to understand your pain/agony that you must be dealing with surounding these multiple issues. However you are an adult and should address this with her accordingly. She did something very wrong and you need to have a sit down with her so those feelings you are having dont fester. Tell her exactly how you feel about what she has done. Now she will either be defensive, and standoffish. Or she will except that you are adult enough to address her face to face and see that you want this relationship to work, but on the terms of honesty,and love. It's never right to take other peoples things and you will not tolerate it from strangers or her. good luck hunni
2007-08-24 01:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to not take responsibility for your mother. No matter what the reason good or bad; it's not your fault she put you up for adoption: and you are not unwanted or unlovable.
You are a beautiful, confident woman... who has been hurt but will no longer allow people to walk over you, take advandage of you, or treat you with less of a respect than you give.
Read that about 10 times a day.
Alot of adopted kids go looking for thier parents, I'm still unclear as to what thier hoping to find. Parents who put thier kids up for adoption, almost never stack up to the parents who adopt kids.
2007-08-24 08:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by ~MB~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she has some issues that need to be dealt with. Say to her, well you have some serious problems and I'm willing to forgive you and help you through some stuff that are hiding if you are willing to come to the party in helping yourself. If you don't want to help me understand you and us get along with understanding whats the use in me being here. Say you make me feel terrible and its not my fault, your problem is mine now and I want it to be dealt with.
2007-08-24 08:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in your question ,it sounds like you live together. Either move out and find a place near her. or put a lock on the door and keep the key with you at all times
2007-08-24 08:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by hiba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a similair situation. It just won't ever work out. You might be just like me. I have been fighting for my Mothers approval and attention for years...I just can't get it.
2007-08-24 07:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by bums75595 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to give you back your **** or you'll call the cops on her. What's she gonna do, tell them that you demanded your **** back because she stole from you?
2007-08-24 08:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel and see what she says . i think thats awful that she went threw your bag and stole of you dont think i could forgive .
2007-08-24 08:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by marie n martinuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets add this up............
First she abandoned you.
YOU sought HER out, ...at some cost.
Now she's violated your trust.
You owe her what?
Take better care of yourself.
You deserve it.
2007-08-24 09:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by Irv S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋