im 22, have 1 yr old baby,working & still living at home( pathetic, i know, but that's a long story for another day). i've gotten a good & high paying job in another state, i hadn't told any1 that im planning to move, i must leave in a month& planning to take my baby with. my parents are very attached to my baby that's why they didn't want me to go and live alone in the first place. how do i tell them nicely without hurting them? i don't have much time, mind u!
2007-08-23 21:36:41 · 6 answers · asked by babybear 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No single mother is pathetic for living at home. Family is important. The most important thing in life other than the other things we love in life. Our society praises independence which, has us feel like we are pathetic for relying of family in our times of need. Our societies focus on personal Independence and money has put our Independence first and our families last. With that said, you are not pathetic for living at home with your son. When it comes to moving out on your own try saying you want some Independence and learn to raise your child on your own to learn to be a mother and have some Independence for your personal life. Say you will visit often. This way you will be able to keep family close to you and your son and have Independence of your own.
2007-08-24 01:38:20 · answer #1 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to step up and let them know you appreciate everything they have done for you, but that you are moving so that you may give your child and yourself a chance for a better life. That didn't sound like I thought it should, I am a parent of two wonderful kids. My daughter moved out at 17 to live with her grandmother. My mom needed some help and my daughter planned on attending college out of state. So she is finishing her senior year out there and will have residency established for college. It wasn't easy but we all sat and talked about it and it was better for her. Parents understand that and I'm sure your parents will accept you choice. Good luck with you move and new career.
2007-08-24 05:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by dsrtrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you say your parents are going to be hurt. The main thing you need to concentrate on is yours and your childs future. It's so easy to keep in touch with people with email, text and IM. Be sure and send your parents lots of photos so they can see the baby growing up and good luck to you!
2007-08-24 10:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents, explain to them what you just did hear to us. Explain how grateful you are that they helped you by taking care of you and their grandchild, but that there is a wonderful job offer than you just cannot pass up in another city. You want to be independent and be able to take care of yourself and baby. Let them know that you will be fine, and reassure them that your first priority will always be your baby. Tell you parents they can visit you anytime..... anytime. And mean it when you say it.
2007-08-25 07:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to them and say that you want move because of the job and not them tell them that you wanna stand on your on 2 feet and its going to be hard be far away but let them know how mush this mean to you ..............I wanna say I move way from home about 4 year ago and its still hard because i can run home to my comfore zone which is my mom so remember that your goin to need a lot of help with a new city where to stay how to get around and a babysitter keep that in mind be safe a GOD bless u
2007-08-24 05:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by lbel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank them for everything that they have done for you, then tell them that it is time for you to move out on your on. Tel them that you hope that they will visit you often and you will keep in touch and send pictures of the baby via e-mail. (Make sure that you have arranged for daycare, and sitters for the baby before you go. It is very touch being alone in a place with no family to depend on. Make your arrangements in advance)
2007-08-24 04:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋