well my boyfriend works first shift, but he doesnt go to bed when i do he stays up on a game online, and doesnt go to bed till the am hours till its almost time for him to be at work and it pisses me off to no end that he can stay on a game for so long that he calls a hobbie well its not its a addiction, he says he luvs me but if he cared at all of my feelings wouldnt he not do the game so much? its like hes pushing me away for this game and to chat with a woman online on this game , do i have every right to be jealous or is sumthing wrong with me?? what do i do about all this ?????
2007-08-23 20:04:29 · 49 answers · asked by stillyoung 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I asked my fiance, and he said you have every right to be pissed off. If I think my fiance is spending too much time doing whatever, then he will give me attention. You could also learn the game...but what girl wants to do THAT!? :p Like my fiance said, you have every right to be pissed off, your bf is being a lame little boy, no offense, you deserve better! :)
2007-08-23 20:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by ananswerer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is only your BF then you should look for another guy that doesn't play too many games or doesn't have very bad habits. Your life wont end if this guy's vice is to play games instead of paying you some attention. Just look for a new BF that will give you the time to be with you caring for you like you deserve. After you leave him he will realize how much of a sad boy he is without you, but if he acts like it's nothing then he didn't deserve you in the first place. I mean I'm not saying guys shouldn't play games at all, I'm a guy I play games but I still make the time to have a real social life with friends and family and a girl I'm beginning to go out with. Good Luck, if you dont want to feel jealous anymore then find a better BF.
2007-08-23 20:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by D S♦T♦A♦R♦S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds addicted to me. Maybe you can secretly hack his account and change his password.........Just joking. That wouldn't be good at all, but if he doesn't forgive you then it proves that he isn't worth it if he likes a game more. Anyway, to stop babbling on and help with the problem.......You should talk to him. Tell him that this is bothering you. Just talk it out and try to set things straight, whether it is to have him quit the game, stop talking to that woman, minimize the time he has for the game, what ever it is, you need to talk about it, because if you don't, this relationship will end pretty soon. And don't worry, you have every right to be jealous.
2007-08-23 20:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by matthew s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit down with him and have a serious one on one. It sounds like you really care about this guy or you wouldn't be asking. It's ok for him to have a hobby, but not when it takes up all his time and keeps his attention. It's almost like he wants you there when he wants to get a little lovin, but not there for you, when you just want to spend time with him. Maybe you just need to lay it out and say that you are tired of being ignored by him, and being put second behind some game. Put him on the spot and make him make a decision you or his game. Spend less time on the game and more with you or spend all his time by himself with his game. Why are you there if he chooses the game over you. To help him pay the bills. You sound more like his roomy than his girlfriend. Sorry you are going through this girl! Hopefully you can make him see that he has to pick you over his game!
2007-08-31 17:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it, tell him what you just told us, if he is a understanding boyfriend, than he will stop to talk to you.
Keep in mind some games get really addicting, so advice him to maybe cut short about 30 minutes everyday from the game so maybe in a week he will only play the game for about an hour a day. I'm sure it's probally best for his health too.
And your completely right, there is nothing wrong with you, if it is a game i understand but if he is on to talk to a girl than that is just retarded when he has one right in front of him!
2007-08-23 20:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by SSS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...try to stay away for a while like it doesnt matter at all what's he been doing... Some say absence makes the heart grow fonder.
...make him realize that your relationship isn't working out at all because (to its best, at least) he's all hooked up on an online game. tell him maybe it's better that he marry his addiction whatsoever...
...just a try, if he comes running after you when he realizes what really matters for him then good... but if he'll stay with his addiction, better for you to find another person worth being with... you're better off with that I guess...
...he'll be at a losing end anyway, do the games care about him? definitely not!
2007-08-23 20:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jan C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first inclination is that he must be a younger guy, maybe in his early twenties. If this is the case, it sounds like a maturity issue to me. He is acting like a little boy who is rebelling against his mommy by staying up late and playing vids. In other words, he's not paying attention to the obvious and inevitable consequences of his actions (i.e., being tired the next day and being unable to perform up to standard at work.) Bottom-line: He's acting irresponsibly and you seem like you are looking for someone who is able to take on the role of being a grown up. Video games are the outlet for the underlying problem, not the cause. For this reason, maybe you should consider ending the relationship. I think that his behavior with regard to video games shows his lack of maturity and responsibility. It is for this reason that you should think about letting him go. If he is feeling rebellious and reveling in the freedom of staying up late, then he will react to your attempts to curb his behavior with even more rebellion. You can't try to control his behavior. That won't work. All you can do is put limits on what you are willing to put up with, and then stick to your guns. Maybe if he was alone, playing video games all night would seem as pathetic to him as it does to everyone else. I hope that helps!
2007-08-23 20:25:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No now I want you to think on this, what is the difference if he uses the television to play his Nintendo or whatever or if he uses it to watch television shows.
There are different ways to use time and what you may find a waste with using television for video games you might not think it a waste to sit a watch television shows and movies all night?
So there are lots of people that do not have games but they spend the same amount of hours sitting in front of the television.
2007-08-23 20:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by Wade C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be jealous. You should always come first. And, don't let him kid you....video games are very addicting, I doubt he'd be stupid enough to stay up late to chat with other women.
Stand your ground, and tell him that you want, at least, equal time with him....starting today. Don't give him an ultimatum, or restrict the game completely....he'll wind up resenting you.
Good luck.
2007-08-23 20:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by imrt70 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh, yea don't let this guy choose video games over you! Just let him know that you don't mind him playing the game, but he needs to make time for you too, you are his girlfriend, and that you just are looking out for his health making sure he gets enough sleep. As for the "chatting with the girl", if thats the main reason why hes playing the game, you do have a right to be jealous. but make sure you confront him with the problem and not hold it in.
2007-08-23 20:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by asdfjfks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋