women are to confusing how should I approach this?

Question

Ok so about a year ago I met this woman who was pregnant she worked at wendy's we talked laughed and had a good time for like 10 or 15 mins then I left and ate. I ran into her on friday of last week at wendys again no longer pregnant of course she remembered me I remembered her we talk laughed for a little bit then I left. Then tuesday I went back and saw her again we talked she mentioned she was a single mother which I knew she had a kid just not single. I asked he if she wanted to go out sometime i gave her my number and myspace. She added me on wensday night and I'm already in her top friend list. Now I e-mail her told her I liked her and would like to go out with her some time in the near future and to let me know when she want's to do it. She sent me a thing back saying that she just wanted to talk online for a little while and take things from there. We texted all day long thursday and at the end of the day she asked me if I wanted to go for a drink with her told her I wasn't

into the hole drinking scene and she mentioned going to play pool so we agreed on a time. I asked her if this was a date and she told me why does it need a classification I told her because I like to know so I don't make an idiot out of myself and she said I don't want to classify it why can't it just be pool so we went and had a great time there was laughing talking sexual inuendos were flying we kept starring at each other .... ok maybe I Was starring at her and she was just starring back or something but still it seemed like she liked it. we playfully bumped into each other a couple of times. At the end of the night that to me seemed like it was so long yet so short at the same time I walked her to her car we talked for a little bit more I mentioned how if this was a date this would be the point of the date that I would normally kiss her and she said she thought we should wait but she gave me this really big hug. I texted her after she left saying I really wanted to kiss her and she

said she kind of wanted to kiss me too but she never kisses right away. She seems to wanted to go out again but wont tell me when. she's busy being a single mom and all. But from what I gather she's only had a couple of real relationships and from what I understood about her kid was that it was a drunken one night stand I don't know for sure though didn't want to poke and prode to much. Now I really like her and really want to start some type of relationship with her ... other than friends but she seems to not want to do it even though for some reason I seem to be reading her like she wants me to kiss her and wants me to ask her out which is not normally how I am for some reason I really like her I'm 20 and she's 25 I make like 7 times the amount she does in a year you don't make much at wendys and owning your own car restoration business gives you a lot of money if you do it right. Some point soon I would like to start settling down and I really like her and want to know more about

her and her life sorry this is so long but any one have any idea how I should approach this situation?

and yes I could have made it longer but thanks for all the informative answers

and trust me I want to run but after every time I've saw her I couldn't stop thinking about her for a long time and she was pregnant when I first saw her and she isn't really pretty I mean I think she is but you know not in the hollywood type

I've told her how I like kids and take care of my sisters kids often and can't wait to have some of my own and I also just found out we have a mutual friend who is going to tell her how I take care of her kids once in a while which is true not to mention I have a great job one that can give her everything she needs including time to stay at home with her kids if things work out. I mean despite my looks I'm almost the perfect guy lol. she just doesn't know it yet ... not to toot my own horn or anything but I've been told that before by ex's after I broke up with them for them cheating on me or what ever reason I had

and her kid's just shy of a year old

the thing is about me waiting for ever is that I make a lot of money but I also travel all the time and time is money so I can spend as little time traveling as possible if I have a reason but I can't just sit here and wait for a month or two while she decides if she even wants to date me then have to go through the dating process which I will stay around even longer for and before you know it it's 6 months before I really start working again I've been in this situation before ... where I wait and then always end up with the I see you more as a best friend than someone I can date. It's not like I'm rushing her to get into a serious relationship but I mean as of now were just friends then from friends you go to dating then from dating you become boyfriend and girlfriend it's a long process

Answer 1

Yikes, take it slow. It sounds like she doesn't want to be hurt and that she is looking out for her child. If I was a single mother I would be doubly careful about who I date and eventually take home. I'd want to be a good role model and not a revolving door that various men walk thorough.... children pick up on that stuff and could end up doing the same.... If you really like her don't be in a rush, she'll guide you "in" when she's ready....

EDIT:
It is a long process. Tell her about your job. Let her know that you travel quite a bit. Then go and do what you need to do for your job. I'm sure she has a phone, you can call & text her while you are gone. Once you are back it'll be even nicer to see her and vice versa. I don't recommend you put your life on hold waiting for her. She needs to know what to expect of your work routine if you are to have a relationship that works. I think if you let things progress as they are while NOT putting the rest of your life on hold will work out better for you both in the long run....

Answer 2

WOW thats is long .. I started to drift off at some point. So, I could be wrong with what I am about to say..

My guess is that she could have been hurt from her last relationship. ( guessing that the father of the child is not really in the picture) She probably just wants to take things slow and is probably a little afraid of getting to involved. She could be feeling you out as well making sure your not just asking her out out of some kind of pity. If you are into her just take it slow and really get to know her. It sounds like you have only meet a few times before anyway.

Answer 3

I think you need to just give her some space and don't rush into it right now. She is being honest about how she feels and telling you she wants to wait. If you are serious about pursuing a relationship with her, then wait and see what develops. Set a time limit though because you don't want to be waiting around forever. Your young and make alot of money. Women will come to you even if most of them say money doesn't matter. Good luck and I hope it works out for you. Peace.

Answer 4

She's a single mom... She's taking it slow because obviously she kinda got screwed over before (in more ways than one). She just had a baby. Let her take it slow. She just wants to make sure it's right and that you're going to stay around and not get her pregnant then leave her as a second time single mom. It's not the same for single mom's to "just date". They aren't only thinking of themselves anymore. They have another one to consider too.

Answer 5

i did not read it all ---- from what i gather you both had a good time so why try to classify everything --- ask her out again --- go somewhere nice and just talk or go out during the day --- sightsee shop do things you would not do on a "date" --- i would suspect she is cautious --- she just got dumped with a permanent reminder in her child so she wants to take it slow and see how things develop --- who care what you call the relationship??? it does not need labels all it needs is two people that have fun together and in time care for each other

Answer 6

Relax. Relax. Relax.
Accept what she has to offer at the moment.
Realize that being a single parent is quite difficult.
Be nice, not pushy. If her car breaks down, offer to pay for the repairs.
Sounds like she likes you, but may have a problem with a) your age, or b) with men in general because the father of her child isn't around.
Those can be overcome with time and familiarity.
Best wishes.
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Answer 7

If you really like her, then keep seeing her. Getting to know her better... spending more time with her....even meeting her child. I dont see what the problem is. She wants to take it a little bit slow probably because she has had some bad experiences in the past because things went too quickly. just respect that and she'll respect you.
Good luck!

Answer 8

She probally likes you but I don't think she wants to rush into something, because she does have a kid and all, and I think she wants whats best.

Get to know her and talk to her, tell her you want to meet her child and that maybe you can take him/her to a park to get to know him/her or something so you let her know that you don't just wanna get laid. (hopefully)

Be yourself you seem like a good guy, considering you aren't in the drinking seen. Get to know her a bit more, I'm sure she will appreciate it.

Answer 9

She just had a child and may be afraid of getting caught up in a situation she isn't ready for. So if you really like her slow down and get to know each other.

Answer 10

Give her time.Sounds like you are wanting to just jump right in and get married.She needs time to get to know you.If you seem too "needy" it will push her away.She is just being cautious and doesn't want to jump right in & end up doing the same thing she did before.