so ive been dating this guy for some months. ive known him for a while but we took our time. i really care about him and feel that i love him. however there is one thing that i hate about him. its the way that he acts at times, his attitude. so should i stay or leave?
2007-08-23 19:33:02 · 8 answers · asked by plzr03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As I was first reading your question I thought..of course you can see past minor details when you are in love. Then I got to the details. His attitude and behaviour reflects on his personality and who he really is. If you hate how he acts sometimes that is a huge deal. HUGE. People don't change their personalities. While you think that now you can over look this, think about a few years down the road and all his other charms have worn off and he is just himself. Is it going to bother you then...when the honeymoon phase is over and you are left with who he really is?
Its not fair to either of you to stick around in this relationship. You can't change his attitude and he won't be able to do it anyways...in the long term.
Good luck and know that you will meet someone you are more compatible with.
2007-08-23 19:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by Morley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure that you love him...stay..If you leave him believe me there is going to be something else bothering you about the new guy.It is the way it is.You never find somebody you think he is perfect.Your love makes them think that they are close to perfection at the first months and then you start seeing more clearly in time that they have behaviors you hate.You can only try to change those behaviors by talking to him and telling him clearly what you don't like.Relationships take a lot of compromising.But there are some people who can never compromise and therefore never get marry or stay in a relationship too long.It is your call.Decide whether you can put up with it for years...i bet you can.
2007-08-24 02:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like the guy, then the first thing you should do is confront him. Let him know that at times the way he acts and his attitude aren't appropriate. Talk about it. Maybe he doesn't realize what he is doing is bothering you. If he chooses to ignore you or gives you attitude, then maybe it's not worth staying in the relationship. If it really bothers you, don't waste your time. Like they say, there are other fish in the sea, but make sure you are making the right decision. It all depends on how bad his attitude really is. Keep in mind, no one is perfect.
2007-08-24 02:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by putzinski 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hate him just only for his acts or attitude?
If the guy u love is a good guy and he swear will love u with no matter what, he willing to give u all he can give, then u should love him if u also love him...
If u really love one people, then u will love with no matter what...
Don't care ugly or pretty, fat or thin, tall or short...
If u love then u will love...
If u don't love then u will never love...
If u really love him but only hate him because some reason, then tell him to change, if he love u then he will change it just for u...
If somethings that is not a bad things but he is already used to be like that and cannot chance, then u just need to accept it if u really love him...
In love, just got love or don't love....
Good Luck...
Cheers...
2007-08-24 04:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by WindWalker 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would leave, because if you truly hate it, it probably won't change, it will just advance and eventually break up the relationship.
If you feel it can be helped stay, it's all up to you.
2007-08-24 02:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what it is and if he is willing to change ---- if he does not or will not change you must decide if you want the relationship warts and all (i would guarantee that there are some things he dislikes about you as well --- everyone has personal habits that can drive someone to distraction) ---- best wishes
2007-08-24 02:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on if you feel like it's something he can work on, you should talk to him if you think it will help, otherwise i would say move on. from personal experience, the saying leopards never change their spots is pretty true.
2007-08-24 02:41:08 · answer #7 · answered by pinup.sunset 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk 2 him about it and see what he has 2 say. part of love is accepting others good and bad traits, BUT not everything. so see what he says then decide? :)
2007-08-24 02:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋