Can someone help me out? I'm in a ditche?

Question

Alright here's the story. I was pretty well liked and had great self confidence right. Well then one day I went to a party and got wasted. Anyways some kids there I know stripped me and video taped it. Of course it was for like 5 seconds but still. Anyways ever since, I've been kinda nervous around the people cuz its embarrassing. And I lost some self confidence as well. And really have been thinking alot. More so then before. Anyone know why this is? And I cant get the thing outta my head, but it was like back in may. Anyone have any ideas how to get my self confidence back? Because like before I'd be great with new people. I wasn't nervous or anything, I mean because I could say stuff like " it's me I can do anything". But now when I meet new people when I think I'm like "yeah I'm pretty great. but I've been stripped that one time, so I'm not that great. "

Oh, the tape is gone I think. They deleted it from what I heard. It was on a cell phone

Answer 1

Obviously this was a very traumatic experience which is why you can't forget it. Also, you feel guilt for letting yourself get so wasted that you ended up in such a vulnerable position. It subconsciouly made you realize how easily this situation could have become even more harmful to you.

There are several things you need to do:
1. promise yourself that you will never get so wasted that you can become a victim
2. seek some counseling. It is obvious that you are going to need some help to come to terms with what happened and to deal with it so you can put it behind you and move on.
3. if you didn't get the tape, get it! It will help to know that it isn't out there somewhere for others to see.

Your nervousness around people now has to do with trust issues (after all, if "friends" can do this to you, what woudl a stranger do!) and the fear that others may have seen the tape (if you don't have it). If you have that tape, don't be nervous around others...they haven't seen it! I know that is easier said than done which is why I suggested you get some counseling. Counseling will help you deal with what happened, come to term with your feelings about it and help you rebuild your confidence.

I'm sorry this happened to you. Good luck!