am i too young for him? help plz?

Question

iv been going out with my boryfreind for like 6 months almost 7.. we have gotten real close and i feel like i love him and care about him alot.. we have talked about sex alot and ii feel that im too young,, oh and by the way im 15 and hes like 17 were like 1 and a half year apart,, and wel truth is that were both vigens, and i feel that i can wait more longer than him but hes 17 and a virgen so he gets more anxious for sex.... i just dont kno wat to do... am ii too young for him.. he has alreadi told me he that he would not force me,, but he has assked me and i have said no,, but im just afraid that he would not keep up with me and would not like how im waiting,, welll nit till marage but when im ready im also afraid to lose a great guy like himm. he respects me alot i mean more than anyguy,, and i just dont kno am i too young for himm.. and im still a virgen.. i dont kno wat to do,,, i feel like i also have tto give him somthing frm me like my virgenity..HELP!

Answer 1

The age difference is not bad at all. My husband and I are high school sweethearts. I think that its great that you are both virgins. He sounds like he is a great guy. He already said that he would wait until you were ready. Don't force yourself to do it because you think that he will move on. If he is to impatient to wait then he isn't the one that you should share your innocence with. He needs to wait until he has proven that he will be responsible with such a fragile gift. Enjoy each others time build your relationship with him. If you are wanting to wait until marriage then he needs to respect and honor that and not guilt you into making hasty decisions.

Answer 2

It's not the age difference...it's the fact that you're feeling pressured to have sex-which you're not ready for! Who knows-maybe he isn't ready,either-but, peer pressure is much harder on a guy, than on a girl. It's probably all he can think about now.

It's not an easy situation, but please-don't let yourself be pressured into anything you feel you're not ready for!

Sad to say, you'll probably end up breaking up-for the time being, at least. Try and find guys who aren't as pressured-and who respect a girl's feelings. You might also spend time developing other interests. It's just the nature of the difference in genders-far from being 'too young' for your friend,you show a great deal of maturity. What would be immature would be to have sex, just to keep a guy-it compromises your values, lowers your opinion of yourself...and usually, doesn't work, anyway.

But don't take yourself out of circulation, completely. You want to grow more comfortable with boys and men-so that, when you are ready, you'll be more likely, to know what you want in a partner-he may turn out to be someone you're already dating!

Answer 3

I can only tell you this... most of us women have been where you are and when you're that age, you think this is going to be THE GUY - but if you're like many people these days, you're going to live maybe 50-60 more years and you'll probably look back on this and wonder why it was so important to you - and usually it's so important because you don't want to lose "THE GUY" but believe me - he's just the guy that wants to get in your pants, there will be a few other guys before you really meet 'THE GUY' so take it slow and do what you want for you. Remember there are always consequences so consider them - pregnancy, AIDS, etc. and after sex... this guy will probably take a hike... no matter what he says... it happens more often than not.

Answer 4

I'm from a country where it's not common for teenagers to lose their virginity at such a young age though I have an american friend that in the US it is pretty common to have 14 year olds having sex, but when it comes down to it no matter what a country's culture is, decisions fall down on the people themselves, in your case just follow what you're mind is telling you, if he's willing to wait then let him wait, remember if you two are really going to be together you're going to have a lot of years in front of you that you could use for having sex, if he really means to marry you and remain in love with you for the next 50 or so years

Answer 5

You don't have to give him anything if he really cares about you like you say then he will wait. Are you too young for him if he can't wait to have sex then by all means yes. He really is not that much older than you though but things can get a bit hairry if he goes off to college and your in highschool still. You just stand on your moral ground. You have plenty of life ahead of you and once you give your virginity away you can't get it back. So wait take your time and find the right one. 7 months is really not alot of time to get to know someone. Good luck.

Answer 6

virginity is precious and i'm sure there's a reason why you wanted to wait till the day of your marriage..you can give other things than your virginity.. you're still young and your bf too.. You wouldnt know what would happen in future..you cant guarantee that this is the guy who would propose to you and give you a good life..So keep it for your husband..
Moreover, the trauma of being pregnant, having more respnsibility.. I'm sure it isnt what you want yet.. So dont let that sudden urge take over you..Making out is fine but to really have sex, i suggest you to wait for a few more years...

Answer 7

if you do decide to pick him do know that its going to be hard to let go of him because hes taking your virginity from you and girls get very sensative when it comes to that and hes a virgin as well so that makes it more special soo if u think u guys wont last dont do it cause if u guys break up its going to be a horrible break up for u cause that was your first so be sure your really ready ! and the only reason you feel like you want to give your virginity to him is because you think if you do he will love you more well i dont think it should be like that at all he should love u no matter what u dont have to give him anything and plus theres other things besides sex you guys can do but its all up to u i lost my virginity when i was 15 and my bf was 16 and we were both virgins and at times we really fought bad and i thought i would lose him i would feel devastated to lose " my first " cause i was so comfterable with him and i didnt care if he saw my body and thats how your going to feel so make sure this guy isnt someone you will regret doing it too

Answer 8

I don't think the age is as big of a deal as you not being ready. Don't rush in to it. Don't allow ANYONE 15, 16, 17, etc. to pressure you into doing something you can't take back. If he's not willing to wait for you, than he's not worth it and that will prove he's not as great a gut as you thought. I hope you do the right thing! Good luck!

Answer 9

when the time is right you will know it. If he cant wait then he really doesn't respect you as much as he says. The last thing you want is your first time to be a regret. You are only fifteen and g-d willing you have a long life ahead of you and plenty of time for sex and other things. Stay young as long as you can because you never get that back.

Answer 10

just wait. i'm 15 as well & know just what pressure you're going through because i was involved with a boy a year & a half older than me as well. all he wanted to do was use me & for you that doesnt seem the case since he respects you but i still say wait. coming from someone your own age trust me just wait because if he doesnt approve of your decision then would you honestly want to keep him around anyway? you're still young & new at dating just take it slow because it's a fact that once it's gone you'll never get it back. just be smart.