Where should a rape victim find counseling?

Question

Hell, I'm a 16 year old straight male. 6 years ago I was raped by one of my older brothers friends after a long string of sexual harassment. After supressing these memories for years they finally came back to me. I can't tell my parents what happened, that simply is not an option so don't suggest it. Does anyone know of any anonymous support groups or free psychiatrists who deal with this field? I've managed to talk this over with a couple of my close female friends, most were sympathetic but there are things i'm not comfortable telling them. Any advice in regards in where I could find counseling would be greatly appreciated.

Sorry, the opening was meant to say, "Hello". Not, "Hell". Sorry about that.

Answer 1

None of what has happened is your fault and your parents really need to know so they cannot only support you but help you get the help you need. There is an organization called RAINN. You can call 1-800-656-HOPE or go to www.rainn.org
There will be people that you can talk to but you really do need one on one Psychotherapy. There are also usually Rape Crisis centers in larger cities that have free groups and counseling. As you have stated you suppressed these memories only to have them come back but if you can get the help now you can get the help you need to work through these feelings you are having. I am terribly sorry you experienced this. Please reconsider talking to your parents. I understand the difficulty as I had similar circumstances but of course have no idea the full extent of what you are experiencing. I do know that I have been in therapy now for quite sometime and it has helped tremendously and my parents do not blame me. I, as you, was a child. You still are. This should never have happened. They love you and will want to help you. I wish you the best~

Answer 2

If you have a United Way Center, or other youth group
Center start there. Ask if they have a Councilor that you can trust with a confidence for counseling. (That way you can help
out an hour or so there while seeking help and no questions will be asked. ) Call a hot line listed in the phone book for
teens,. Go to a local Psychiatrist's office and check the bulletin board for discussion and support groups.
I wish you the best. The numbers the people above have supplied are a great place to start. If and when you feel at ease enough and strong enough, if you feel you can openly tell
about this person, report the crime. (Be sure to get a restraining order against him if you do.) Once someone has
committed this crime, he is more than likely to repeat it.
[C , you need to get help also--a turtle has a tough shell,
but is very soft without it!)

Answer 3

There are a number of places you can get counseling. I think the easiest place to start would be at school. See if you can make an appointment to see a guidance counselor. You could also talk to your doctor. If you belong to a church, they sometimes have counseling or support groups, and/or can refer you.

Are you near any hospitals or colleges? You can often find support groups and/or individual counseling.

Check out your phone book... look under mental health and see if there is a children's or families clinic.

Last but not least, could you enlist the aid of your parents by telling them that you need to see someone but not disclosing why? Probably pretty difficult but thought I would mention it.

I have to say that I think you're pretty smart to know this is something that you need to deal with... good luck to you.

Answer 4

I think you need to take the jerk to court because what's stopping him from doing this to another woman? But other than that... everyone deals with their pain differently. Not everybody needs special counseling. Good for you if you don't. But also, just recognize that there may be some underlying problems that haven't come to the surface yet. If that does happen (notice i said IF), hopefully you will seek out someone who can help you. Until then, God bless you and good luck.

Answer 5

Rape is a violent assault. I would start by notifying the police (there is NO statute of limitations and what if this pig has done this to others).
Call your local domestic violence center. They mostly deal with women but, they may have some answers as to where you can go to talk this out.
You should seek out a "professional" (therapist, clergy etc) so that you can work through the anger and betrayal that you must be feeling.

Answer 6

I found the counselor at our church to be very helpful with both individual counseling and group counseling. The counselor was very respectful and sensative to my feelings. There was a book we used for our lesson/discussions.

There is a phone number you can call. 1-800-NEWLIFE. They have counselors who can give you a call-back for a brief discussion of how you might best find help. They can tell you what the confidentiality laws / child protection laws are for under age 18. Sexual abuse or acting out is something they address every day. http://newlife.com

Answer 7

I cannot hardly write this without crying, i feel your pain.

I was raped by a cop when i was 17, i was scared too. & i was in a club on a fake id, & anyway,who would believe a sneaky 17 yr old against a cop?he still scares when i run into him..

I carried this around, til about 6 yrs ago, & i'm 50. one day we rented Death Wish w/Chuck Bronson, & i just went into panic, then i told my husband, he didnt know what to say.

then later, finally a dr, sent me to a pshyscr(head dr. I cant spell it) & she could tell. She told me it was not my fault , that he had Violated me, he did not ask me out, he imposed himself on me.

that helped some, but when i talked to a preacher about it, it raelly helped too. i now have a fear of being "madeto do something , " like "dorothy,you go to that or else" it creeps me out, & i say, dont emotionally rape me, i cannot handle it. Even if I dont telll them my story.

My family still does not know.

We started praying for this 'man' & when we did ,it wasnt but about 3 weeks & he got busted for sexual harassment at the subway, in town, he almost lost his job, he got a friend to write a letter to the local newspaper vouching for his 'integrity'.

Well , he got away w/it, he thot, but a few months later he has a massive heart attack..his temper & violence led to him loosing visitation right s to his children.

I can tell you 1st hand , it does help to find somebody to talk to.Your parents may be more understanding than you know, plus this will ban this creep from hanging out if he still does.a

Was your brother there? or is he not aware of what happened?

Is there a YMCA in your area, or an al=anon, they can refer you to someone, i'd just start calling institutions & asking for help. i'm here if you want ot e=mail me.

God Bless You sweetie, & may he give you peace.

Answer 8

Talk to your school counselor. They will have a lot of information to give you on matters like this.

Answer 9

See "sexual abuse: minors", at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 20.

Answer 10

dude you need to tell your parent i know i know you said dont
say that but rly they can help you.