I found my debit card was missing, called bank to cancel it, and to my horror, discovered that over my paycheck had been drained from my acct. Only my son could have done it. thats 2 weeks with no food, gas, and unpaid bills. he is only 16 and already on probation for breaking into a garage with some of his friends. he stole over $1000 from checking acct.!! I guess i always suspected he was using drugs, his cousin/best friend is always in rehab. Now i am sure. do I turn him in to his counselor and probation officer?? I am sick about this..I love my son, but can't have him doing stuff like this!!! I work hard as a nurse. His dad and i are separated, but very good friends, there is no fighting, we are loving parents to our children and both of us are there for them always. we never had a problem like this before and are lost. Our older kids say have him arrested..I know he will be sent away. his father is very angry, i am more hurt. Help me !!!
2007-08-23 18:02:49 · 14 answers · asked by misty827 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Call his probation officer and have them drug test him with a blood drug test, this will either confirm what u know of make u look like a fool. but either way u have the answer and then press charges on him and have the bank trace the receipts off the debit card and make sure it is your sons handwriting one way or the other. but he needs help and u need to get it for him one way or the other or he will be in a adult penitentary for the rest of his life...
2007-08-24 02:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest favor you could do for your son and yourself is notify the authorities. Since he's had previous contact with the law a pattern is or has been established regarding his criminal behavior regardless of who the victim is. At 16, he is young yet and has an excellent chance at turning things around in his life. He won't do it on his own. He needs someone to do it for him and that is you and his father. Call the authorities and get him started in the right direction or believe me, you will regret it. There are some very good programs out there to help him and you. Please do not wait!
2007-08-23 18:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by wifilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start looking around the age of 8 now. It keeps showing up earlier and earlier, pretty soon they're just going to pop out of the womb with a cell phone and some kicksass shades.
2016-05-21 04:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by kira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for a little tough love & possibly an intervention.
If he's hooked he needs rehab & the whole works
You said you've been there for your son. Be there now and deal with this before he does far worse.
2007-08-23 18:13:14 · answer #4 · answered by Fixguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its important for kids of any age to have consequences for this kind of behavior. He committed a crime. Doing this to a stranger would have been bad but doing this to you his mom is worse. The sad part of it is unless a person feels bad for what he did they aren't going to change. But he needs to know he picked the wrong person to steal from and as the saying goes don't do the crime if you cant do the time. Good luck mom and as one mom to another take a stand or fall for anything. Dont make excuses for your son.
2007-08-23 18:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard 1 and im sorry about what your going through here if you turn him in you risk loosein him and if you dont he will always think he can steal from u and get away with it as you did nothin the first time around you need to atlest talk to his counselor and see what they say b4 you do anything else,
2007-08-23 18:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by angelz@princess265 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough love. Watch an episode of "Intervention" or a documentary of drug use and see where coddling kids when they first get in trouble gets them. Make him realize there are consequences to his actions and you will not put up with it. P.S. You can't always save your kids not matter how well you do for them. Do not blame yourself. Drugs are very powerful forces.
2007-08-23 18:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by Phoebe Finch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're sure it was him who did it, then by all means turn him in! He deserves it, and besides, it will be one less mouth to feed if he's in juvenile detention! Maybe he'll learn his lesson from getting arrested and won't ever do anything like that again!
Good luck.
P.S. i hope you can return whatever he bought and get a refund.
2007-08-23 18:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by VITCH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should file a police report, and let the police and the bank handle it.
My parents wwent through this recently with my sisters daughter, we turned it over to the police, and let them handle it. My parents had not guilt as it was basically out fo their hands. It she did it, she could pay the price.
Make mention of it to him, and let him know that the police are involved.
Tough love.
2007-08-23 18:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by Michael H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes because by turning him in. Your doing the best for him. Maybe he'll learn by the bullies in Jail. Sometimes you have to have something really bad happen in order for someone to change. Good luck!!!
2007-08-23 18:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by Successor 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋