I don't think i'm too old. Of course i don't like getting spanked, but i don't see how it's any worse than other forms of punishment, and whenever i get spanked i always behave well for a while afterwards! But anyway, i got spanked recently, and i mentioned it to my friend, and he freaked! He said i was way too old to get spanked, and how it's sexual abuse at my age. He told me to call the police on my parents, and he said that spanking is primitive and barbaric and that it's a terrible form of violence, and that my parents must be living in the dark ages if they still spank. He said that my parents ahve no right to discipline me, and i shouldn't have to listen to them. He's never been spanked (and as far as i know never disciplined at all!) but sometimes i think he could use it, he's always been spoiled rotten, he never listens to his parents, and he even smokes and drinks alcohol! I don't see why spanking is inappropriate at my age, but most people seem to. What do you think?
2007-08-23 17:43:31 · 35 answers · asked by VITCH 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well if spanking is effective, then i don't see any age limits. Some places they "spank" (more painfully btw) adult criminals instead of put em in jails and such.
But with kids usually spankin becomes less effective as they get older. Cuz what kid wouldn't rather get spanked (which is over with quick and only hurts the bum for a bit) compared to gettin grounded or deprived of priveleges (which lasts longer and u suffer more).
2007-08-23 17:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Well, your parents do have a right to discipline you. Are you into drugs, smoking cigarettes or alcohol? Do you have any body piercings or tattoos? Are you promiscuous? What are your grades like in school? Do you talk back to your folks or disrespect them in any way?
If you are not a problem child like most, then I would say that your parents are doing pretty good. Respect your parents. You will thank them one day. They love you and they don't want you to be like the buddy you talk to on the phone. That boy doesn't have any sense. I'd stay away from him if I were you.
As for your parents, have a talk with both of them and tell them if they can tone down the punishment a little. Maybe ground you or take away privileges. Let them know that you love them and respect them, but spanking you is a little degrading. See what they say. -Good luck and God Bless.
2007-08-30 15:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that your friend has been raised by a family that thinks its alright for their children to control whats going on. That is the problem I have with all these people that say spanking should never happen, it's abuse or sexual assault. If you break the rules at your house and you know that it will lead to a spanking that is the choice you have made. My daughter received her last spanking at age 16, about two weeks before her seventeenth birthday. She knew what the consequences for her actions were and decided to choose the action that led to her butt being tanned. She wasn't abused physically or sexually like so many parents believe today. And unlike your friend she will be very successful in life knowing that there are consequences for her actions. As far as a parent not having the right to discipline a child at home. Only a child raised by parents that teach them that discipline is wrong would say that. If my kids live under my roof they will abide by my rules.
2007-08-23 21:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by dsrtrat 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Spanking is most appropriate to teach principles. At 16, you know the principles and choose to break the rules. I'm sure you do prefer the spanking to any other form of punishment, its over with a lot quicker. Your parent's aren't abusing you, they are simply taking the easy way out for both of you.
2007-08-29 15:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by pickles1720 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People told you that spanking is barbaric? I had worse then that while growing up. I believe that if we misbehave we must face consequences. I got my good beatings when I use to go out and roam with my friends causing a menace to the neighbors. I can say out of all my friends in high school I never did drugs. I don't have a child without being married. I'm in college finishing up and looking for my career and enjoying life knowing that I haven't done anything to jeopardize my freedom. You think that this guy who smokes and drinks will get any where in life? You need your parents to keep you in check and that is precisely what they are doing. Believe me you don't want parents who don't care.
2007-08-23 17:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by missdontgivafukusa 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
16 is still young...
My son is 19 now, and I believe that he is a successful young man because of the likens
They don't hurt long enough to be abuse, and when done out of Love then yes it works... There is NO age on correction...
I liked what STEVE H said that God Loves us sooo much that he too spanks us... It helps remind us that were going the wrong way (redirection) turn back this way is the wrong way...
I personally think that if more parents stood up for what is right then we would have less of our children in trouble... (drugs,premarital sex,alcohol) In days pass you didn't see all of this dumb stuff, but now parents take a passive role... Wanting to be friends with there children instead of actually parenting them...
God help us!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-23 18:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by HoTTTcarmel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it still works for you then your parents have every right. The reason it is not normal at age 16 is because parents are trying to prepare their kids to make good decisions on their own, not for fear of punishment. But like I said, if the spankings are not overly "abusive", then it is OK.
When I was in high school, 25 years ago, we would get paddled by the principal or school coach for bad behavior. Let me tell you something, it worked. I got paddled by my coach one time for a skipping school. It made an impact on me, I did not do that again.
In our society there is so much inappropriate behavior and abuse that discipline has a huge black flag draped over it, but read your Bible, discipline is one of God's favorite forms of LOVE.
2007-08-23 17:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by Steve H 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
if my dad was alive and i done some thing he disapprove of he would still spank me and i'm 29. i wish more people would discipline there kids. i was at the store the other day and my daughter (2) bite me and i spanked her. this old man told me that i was being mean to the baby. i told him that i bet his mom would have spanked his *** too and to mind his own business. i don't believe in beating (hitting) a child but i do believe in discipline (spanking on the but only) them.
2007-08-30 15:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16, aren't you a little old to need a spanking?
They're generally reserved for 'dumb & dangerous`
kind of offenses.
Yes, it's not politically correct to spank anymore,
and you could make a lot of trouble for your folks,
but you seem OK with them & the reasons you are
punished.
It is inappropriate,
- so don't anything else to get spanked.
2007-08-24 01:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Too old to be spanked? NO. Plenty old enough to not need to be spanked? YES.
If you are willing to accept a spanking [age-appropriate and all] and if your folks figure you need a spanking and that it is, all-in-all, as effective a method as other ways.
Maybe your friend NEEDS a few spankings too.
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FenderKing says: "just say "y dont we just talk this out???....i think im a little to old to be spanked"
And if dad says NO, maybe try TALKING a month or so later, about other forms of punishment. Unless, maybe, you think the other punishments would be worse than a spanking!
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JUST WHAT is a typical "spanking" for you at sixteen years of age?
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2007-08-25 02:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by Jim 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋