I am so mad and upset. I just found this out tonight and I feel is way to riduculous! AND rude of them to have it the same day as us. We mailed our save the dates months ago and they received one to. And now I hear that they chose to have their wedding on the same day as ours?! We really feel that it is on purpose for whatever reason because their wedding was suppose to be in December of 2008 and hmmm....for some reason moved it up a couple months to April. We just couldn't beleive that they would do this to us. We are family why would you pick to have your wedding the same day? And they knew our wedding date months ago. Please tell me what you all think of this? There is 365 days in a year and they happen to choose our wedding date. Shouldn't we be angry at them? Now we don't know whos coming to ours and who will go to theirs instead. Which really doesn't matter that much though I guess. I will be happy with having the people who care at our wedding that wants to be there.
2007-08-23 17:31:59 · 15 answers · asked by TJ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
While this totally sucks...don't let it ruin YOUR big day. F*ck em. Continue on with your plans, make sure you sum up your RSVP's so you know how much food to order, etc. Don't let them take away YOUR joy and happiness. And by the way, CONGRATS!!!!
2007-08-23 17:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people are just born idiots! and every family has its share of them!
are these cousins someone you can talk to and ask if they could change the date?
if not, why don't you consider changing your date?
i know, i know, its a pain, and you shouldn't have to, but, if you change your date you can move it up a few weeks and still be married before them.
in fact, instead of asking them to change perhaps you should just go ahead and change yours. otherwise i could see them saying 'sure, no problem', and changing it to the day before your wedding which would still be a big problem!
change your date, send brief notes to everyone who you sent 'save the date' cards to, explaining that since your cousins were so keen on the original date you thought you would be gracious and let them have that date.
by doing that you come off as a sweetheart, and everyone will get the point that the cousins are what they are! petty!
good luck, have a wonderful wedding and an incredible married life!
p.s. if you are friends and in the same city the double wedding idea mentioned above just might be a good one!!!!!!!
2007-08-24 07:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by itsjustyouandmebabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sent out requests to save the day.
You can't stop them having their wedding that day.
Don't be bitter about it or hostile to those who choose to go to the other wedding.
You could get your fiancé to check with the blood-relative parent of his cousin as to whether there was some problem that meant that his cousin had to have the wedding that day. Your fiancé could say that he's sorry if the fact that you're having your wedding on that date causes difficulties, but you've had your wedding for that date some time ago and had even sent out "save the date" notices.
2007-08-24 02:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You have some jealous family members. Call them & ask them if they are aware you are getting married on the same day! Ask if they would be so kind as to change there day so you could enjoy each others wedding. or ask the girl (cousins wife whoever she is) if she wants to be in your wedding? HA HA HA HA like standing at the registry sign in. give it a shot maybe you will get good results if not make sure the important people are there I hope you have your wedding party together so they cant steal them too. good luck i hope it all works out for you.
2007-08-23 17:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by The Brat 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have your fiance talk to them. He should say something like...We would love to got to the wedding but will be busy that day;) He should joke about it then mention this may put the families in an awkward position, would they be open to changing the wedding to another day. We've sent out save the date and hope we can work something to accomodate "the family" Never say "you" or "I" mention "we" or "family" they won't feel like the finger is being pointed at them. And then leave it alone.
2007-08-24 01:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lyla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wrong and you have a right to be upset.
Then again, you are right. All that matters is those who do decide to show up to yours.
It is not just sad and wrong to do it to you, but your fiance's cousin just made everyone else in the family in a difficult spot. They will be torn of who to go to. Either way, they will have someone "upset" with them on whatever decision they make. so, please understand his family when they choose yours v.s your fiance cousin. They where brought into a middle of a situation of two weddings in one day to choose from. I honestly think they should let the fiance's cousin know it is wrong. However, I know family members won't always do that, even if they feel that way.
Just call to see who recieved their invites (incase got lost in mail or whatever) but in reality, you are actually kinda giving them the *hint* with out actually saying it, to either send you the invite back or not go.
2007-08-23 17:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm i don't know why they would choose to do that, but it is rude considering everyone in the family already knew that that was the day of you and your fiance's wedding. plus, think of his family: they're going to be forced to make a choice as to which to go to. that's not fair to them plus for years they might have to hear about "oh you went to their wedding instead of mine". (esp. if some of the family are competitive like that) i agree that you should sit down with them and ask why they chose that date. hopefully they sit their rudeness and choose another day. good luck and let us know what happens :)
2007-08-23 17:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is not just sh!ty for you, but sh!ty for all the family. Who really wants to choose between two family member's weddings!!
I also have a feeling the family will be pissed too! They all knew about your date, so they will know that these people are trying to "steal" your date by pushing theirs up?! I think they are going to think she's pregnant! Is she pregnant?
2007-08-24 19:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick with your date.
I would be pissed at them.
Make sure you get your invites out BEFORE they do.
Since it is in April, send out the invites January 5th with a Feb 1st deadline, that may be early enough for yours to get out before theirs do. Even though you sent a save the date, your day may be forgotten if they get your cousin's invite before yours.
2007-08-24 05:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really rude of them to do that to the two of you. Hopefully they will change their date. Yes you should be very angry about this and I would tell them so.
2007-08-23 17:40:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jai 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋