My boyfriend and i have been going out for a month & now he wants to do it with me & i'm not too sure if i'm ready, it's not that i don't want to do it, i just feel like i'm too young. so i wanna know your opinion on if you think 14 years old is too young to lose your virginity? thanks =]
2007-08-23 16:56:56 · 119 answers · asked by luvdance92 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your asking the wrong question. It seems to me like you already know that the answer is going to be yes you are too young. Maybe it's the fact that you boyfriend has put some kind of pressure or thought into your head and you want to know if you should give into it. Well the truth is that your virginity is something very special, it's special to all women. It's a gift and it should not be wasted on the wrong person or more importantly at the wrong stage of your life. Now a days many don't save the gift for their husbands when they get married. They just throw it away because many women think that they need to be "experienced" enough for when they get married. This is not true and a terrible fact. Losing your virginity now is like opening your Christmas present a week before Christmas. Your parents tried hard to get you the perfect gift in exchange for the perfect reaction but now you have spoiled the gift for you and your parents. So please don't spoil the surprise and wait, trust me it will all be worth it when you are in the warm hands of you future husband.
2007-08-23 17:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion 14 years old is much too young even if you wanted to lose your virginity. Since you aren't sure then that is the deciding factor. You are not ready. It would be an awful, frightening experience for you. Making love should be a beautiful experience between two people who love each other and at 14 yrs old I don't see that. Wait for the right time with the right "man".
2007-08-23 17:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by winter715 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That age is very young but even more concerning is that you have only been together for one month. That is definately not long enough even more so at such a young age. 16 is the legal age and it is that age for a reason, you will be better able to deal with any situations that may arise from sex such as pregnancy etc. If everything is still going well in a year or more maybe then you should start to think about it, I know that you will still be young but Im being realistic, you can't keep teenagers from sex forever.
2007-08-23 17:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by SmEllY! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only YES but H___YES. A sexual relationship is a lot more than just that, or at least should be. Don't listen to your friends they are only saying what they think is cool. Your boyfriend is pressuring you because he cant help his hormones, and needs to grow up. You need to keep yourself out of a situation where you may get talked into it because you WILL regret it later. Ask any woman who gave up her virginity too young and she would tell you she would change it if she could and wait till she were older and in a real relationship that will last. That is something special, It sounds old fashioned I know, but its true.
2007-08-23 17:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by yaya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I was much too young when I lost my virginity and it absolutely haunts me now. I don't feel like a bad person because of it but after having had more life experience, I can say now that it would have been much better to wait. Once you lose it, it is gone forever. And trust me, losing it so young won't be ANY fun for you. He won't know what he's doing and neither will you. Have more fun with the puppy-love instead.
2007-08-23 17:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by emkayily 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Please wait. I was 15 and didnt wait and I ended up pregnant. If I could go back I would have not done that so young. And even if you didnt get pregnant you will have other possible issues to deal with. I have a 14 year old daughter and there is no way in heck I would let her sleep with anyone. Relationships that young usually dont last past a few months anyways. Take care. *hugs*
2007-08-23 17:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by ♦ AngelKyren ♦ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is too young. A lot of things have to line up to have sex. Sex was meant to be much more than an exercise. Sex should be between two people in love who are ready to have a family (together and forever). Before that happens they should be sure between themselves that there is no one else in the world for them and they should only have desires for each other. Before this happens each one has to mature to a certain level of handling responsibility that teenagers today just don't have. Don't be afraid of what others will think if you don't. You shouldn't. To give yourself to another person in that way (sex, sexual relationship) is the most important thing you can give to another person. It's a very, very personal thing to do, and the exchange of feelings has to be equal and very alike so that no one or the other gets hurt. It's a gift that can only be given once, to one person and can never be taken back, it's gone forever. Once a flower is picked dear it will never be the same. That is why it should be saved for that most important person who you will cherish all your life...Husband or Wife.
2007-08-23 17:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by Barney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, yes, yes, 14 is way to young! at this age you are not sure what love is and how to handle certain situations. Your question is proof of this because if you were mature enough to have sex you would be secure to make this decision on your own. You have your whole life to have sex, right now just worry about getting to know yourself and your body, not other peoples. Also, even if you were not 14 i would tell you since you have been only dating this guy for a month that it is still to early to be thinking about sex. You cant really know a person that quick... I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and am still learning new things about him.
good luck... your heart will tell you whats right... and it looks like its telling you no!
2007-08-23 17:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by wildflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! 14 is way to young - however it is a personal choice that you will make and live with. Think about it a lot before you make this kind of decision. Sex is a special and beautiful thing that you should want to experience when you understand the meaning of love and not lust. A guy that truly loves you will not pressure you to do something you are uncomfortable doing. And if you choose not to wait - be smart and rubber up.
2007-08-23 17:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling, wait. Very few people ever marry their boyfriend from age 14. Dating a month isn't very long either!
Don't let him pressure you. You actually have all the power in this situation, don't let him manipulate you or make you feel uncomfortable. You also don't have to do anything to 'prove' how much you love him. True love is willing to wait.
Once you "lose" your virginity, you can't get it back. It's really special to wait until you marry the man who is worthy of all your heart and the rest of your life. Then you will have a special gift to give your husband, and best of all, you will have no regrets.
2007-08-23 17:03:30 · answer #10 · answered by colorhappy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋