okay my boyfriend is 22. we grew up best friends for 11 years and never dated. we were always like brother and sister.. now were dating. he got a divorce with his ex wife sometime between last summer and march.. he recently dated a girl who knew back in the day and dated for 3 months starting in march.. he never kept her comments on myspace and everytime shed tried talking to him hed ignore her. he keeps my comments and even writes me on his aim profile.. and puts in a relationship on myspace where as for the girl of 3 months he had it then changed it to single before they broke up. he told me recently she was a rebound and he was sorry but she was.. and he never talks about his ex wife.. unless i bring it up.. and when i asked him how he felt about her.. he started cussing about how he wants her to die.. i want to know if im the rebound as well as the 3 month girl. he says he loves me and im the greatest girlfriend ever.. and if yall think im the rebound girl.. how can i change that
2007-08-23 16:45:28 · 8 answers · asked by britt4life718 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you could be but i hope your not just ask him and tell him how you feel.
2007-08-23 16:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by betty m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your a rebound g/f but it seems as if he has some anger issues with the ex wife maybe he should go to counseling or you both go together. I would also stop bringing up the ex also. If you were best friends for 11 years that is a great start to a wonderful relationship. Maybe the other girl was just someone he called when he was lonely and wanted to be "serviced". I would focus on what you have and not worry about the exes I mean their exes for a reason right.
2007-08-23 16:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by McLovin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously isn't over the ex wife,,,He dated someone for 3 months after wards, she she more than likely was a rebound. Now you two have been friends for 11 years prior to this, this may work in your favor...If i was you i would be very careful still, seeing he isn't over the wife...Also here's a piece of advice, do not bring up his ex wife, ask no questions...If he brings it up just listen to him....You bring up the ex wife, will keep her in his head, he may have not even been thinking about her at that moment...She needs to be left out of you twos relationship, she doesn't matter anymore....Just keep an eye out on things he does and says, i doubt he would do anything to hurt your forever friendship...Saying that it depends how bitter he is.
2007-08-23 16:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say- how does he speak about you to his friends? Divorce takes along time to get over. Even when you believe that you have worked through all of your issues, more come up or others resurface. Most of those hurts and issues are carried into other relationships for a long time.
Every break up has fault on both parties- he's expressing his anger about his ex, but has he discussed his part in the break up? Or was he Mr. Victim? Be leery if he plays the victim role.
Best wishes!
2007-08-23 16:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by rmdybles30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by leaving his ex wife and ex gf out of the conversations!!
I am thinking if he knew the last one was a rebound, that he would be smart enough to not do that again, expecially with a friend like you have been for him.
Give him the benefit of the doubt....and find something else to talk about!!!
2007-08-23 16:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you are another rebound or not, but I wouldn't go near a guy who says stuff like that about his ex-wife. He's bitter, and is just as likely to say the same stuff about you later on. You can't change him.
2007-08-23 16:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are just rebound girl and he will stay for a small time and then leave you .....
2007-08-23 16:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by PHD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time will tell if your are or arent!!!
2007-08-23 16:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by MiZz SaAk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋