Here's the short story, me and this girl are friends...kind of. She's the most beautiful girl I've ever met and honestly, I can't imagine life without her. But everything seems to revolve around her.
When I say that, I mean, I can't go out to the store without thinking of something to buy her. I can't pick up the phone without hoping it's her. The thing is, while she's nice to me when we're "alone" if you will, with her friends, it's different. It feels like she's ashamed to know me, be my friend, everything. She just seems uninterested in me when people are around, but...I don't know.
Am I stupid for letting her get to me like this?
2007-08-23 16:07:01 · 8 answers · asked by Marty Kirra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's the short story, me and this girl are friends...kind of. We've had a relationship sort of but we've made it clear we want to stay friends. And to clarify, yeah, I still have feelings for her. She's the most beautiful girl I've ever met and honestly, I can't imagine life without her. But everything seems to revolve around her.
When I say that, I mean, I can't go out to the store without thinking of something to buy her. I can't pick up the phone without hoping it's her. The thing is, while she's nice to me when we're "alone" if you will, with her friends, it's different. It feels like she's ashamed to know me, be my friend, everything. She just seems uninterested in me when people are around, but...I don't know.
Am I stupid for letting her get to me like this?
2007-08-23 16:17:19 · update #1
Oh, and I kind of messed up on the details thing. Sorry, kind of new :P
2007-08-23 16:18:35 · update #2
No your not stupid for being a gentleman tell her about your feelings if she wants to be more than a friend that's great if not find other girl to return your love you have in your heart
2007-08-31 15:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are choosing to feel this way about her. If you feel that it isn't, then you need more self-esteem.
Secondly, when she's with others, are you sure that it's not your perception of what she's doing? Maybe because she's not treating you exactly the same as she usually does, you're taking it personally.
It sounds like you are hyper-sensitive when it comes to her. It probably feels great and you don't want to let that feeling go. However, until you quit being dependent on how you want her to treat you, you're just going to feel miserable.
Good luck my friend.
2007-08-23 23:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly think you need to get over her and find someone who does want to be with you. if she wants to ignore you while her friends are around then she is not giving you the attention that you need... she prolly realizes that you buy her stuff so maybe that is the only reason that she keeps you around... if i was you i would go out and start dating new people and maybe you will find some one who is right for you...
2007-08-23 23:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you are stupid for letting her get to you, but you do need to refocus yourself. She does not value you nor respect you if she can treat you equally in front of people as well as not in front of people. Spend time with other people and hey don't answer when she calls - she how she reacts then.
2007-08-23 23:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by geminijeanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a sweet guy,if she treats you badly around other people then she has no respect for you,move on and find a girl who will respect you
2007-08-31 20:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her out? If she accepts then I guess she isn't "ashamed" of you.
2007-08-23 23:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by Elt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so ask her out on a date, take it from there
2007-08-31 19:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r in LUST
u can get over it.
2007-08-23 23:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋