My parents are ill. I lost my job and bf. My life is a mess. I hate myself and I know if I wasn't under meds, I'd be crying really hard right now. This sad feeling is still here despite the meds though. I try to take care of my parents as best as I can but I am sad that I disappointed them (lost job, bf).
2007-08-23 15:41:17 · 13 answers · asked by little bear 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I feel like an elephant because I can't stop remembering the bad times and losses in my life.
2007-08-23 15:43:05 · update #1
despite what you think I can bet that your parents don't think that your any kind of disappointment. They will understand full well that these things happen from time to time and sometimes things are just out of our hands. You can't make your bf stay with you and people loss there jobs every day. your parents will also know that you care for them and love them very much and they love you. Look after a loved one is harder then people think so please don't put yourself down so much. I think that you could do with a little therapy to help you along the way and feel that you need to be going back to the doctor and telling him/her that things are still not at there best and how you really feel about everything. You might need your meds adjusting a little. take care good luck.
2007-08-30 07:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be real. Look at you. There is no reason to hate yourself - you are awesome. Even if I don't know you, I know that you are worth a lot more than you are giving youself credit for.
I understand depression. I have felt the same way, a lot. I feel like I let a lot of people down (especially myself) because I was not able to grow to be the person that had always planned to be.
So now what . . I'm not what I thought. The way I feel is really in my control. Do I want to hate myself? No, I want to love myself. Can I do that, without lying to myself? For a long time, I thought I couldn't, but with time I am learning that I am a great guy who deserves respect - and even love.
See a docotr and be tested for a chemical imbalance. You may be helped by a drug to stabilize your moods. As far as the emotional turmoil, I don't know what to say to make you feel better, except I'm so sure, speaking for experience, that you are a lot more than you think you are. Life is wonderful, YOUR life is wonderful and you are a great person. Don't you think that's possible?
The way out of the hole is by reaching out to others. Offer your time and energy to an effort for a cause that you believe in. Work at it and understand the power that you have inside of you to make good things happen. That will help you start to see how great you are, at least have the potential to be.
2007-08-31 21:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it rains, it pours. I don't think that you hate yourself, though. I think you hate your situation. You and your bf broke up, but think long and hard about it and you'll probably find that it was a blessing in disguise. As for the job, losing a job in this country is nothing to be ashamed of because it's a daily occurence throughout all of the states. Yes, it always feels like hell to be rejected from a job, but you will find another one. Your parents love you, no matter what. Focus on spending time with them right now and forget the boyfriend and start the job-hunting tomorrow after a good night of sleep.
2007-08-23 22:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It´s not your fault about things you have been lost in your life. It´s not your fault your parents are sick or whatever you take care of them for. Everything you do with your life is your decition ... with convenient or not convenient results. Everybody have had bad or good moments in life. Be patient and wait... Nothing is forever. Good and bad things have an end, it´s as a cicle. Do not demmant from yourself more than you can give. See yourself as a human able to be wrong sometimes... or always, who cares?? Pardon yourself for the things you believe you made wrong and start to repeat to yourself¨¨¨ I am unique (nobody is like you) I am special (is there another people same than you in the world?) If I am here its because as a purpose... I am patient... Everything is perfect¨¨ )(It´s in the way as it has to be)
When you repeat it again and again you will start to accept yourself as you are... does not matter if at the beginning you feel weard doing it... keep doing it.... and know what?? that is true... You are special, unique and really important, you are valious... Someday you will discover that... and you will understand many things also... Know what? I do not believe you have had more lost in life than me... but I understood I can noth change the things that happens... The only things I can change are my thoughts, perceptions about things...And believe me, do not trow your life to the garbage thinking in the way you are doing... Do not waste your time... Use your present to change your future... Live your life and do not be so demanding with yourself.... Divine love for you!!..Take care!!
(Sorry for my English redaction.. I hope you got what I meant)
2007-08-31 21:49:12 · answer #4 · answered by Awareness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not qualified to address your other life issues, but jobwise, I can offer some concrete advice based on my experience.
(I snooped around your profile and you seem like a smart person because you answered some math homework problems.)
When I was out of work, I volunteered tutored at the local community centre and helped kids and adults at the HS level. It gave me something to do, a sense of worth and also resume material. Plus it was easy to find a place to volunteer and the few hours a week doesn't prevent you from looking for "real" work.
Anyway, I hope you feel better, even if my idea doesn't fit with your plans.
2007-08-23 23:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by looking in the mirror and saying "I love you".
Done that?
Now, do it again.
K, so you should get a notebook or journal and start writing down things that you are thankful for each day, even if it is some silly little thing like your favorite t.v. show was on. Then, after a couple days, also write down something good that happened that day, but make it something different.
Every day, at least 5 times, look in a mirror and say, "I love you". It really does help.
2007-08-23 22:52:17 · answer #6 · answered by MissFloor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Force your body to move. Walk. Ride a bicycle. Swim.
It helps build positive brain hormones, and is very healing as it give your mind the opportunity to process some traumatic events. As you are out and about, one day a job opportunity will present itself that is perfect for you. And then one day, you'll look up and catch the eye of a really cute boy.
2007-08-31 21:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by DW2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds to me that you have a lot on your plate, and I don't think that you deserve being hated. You need support. Give yourself a break. If you are in a position to see a therapist, you might be able to sort through all this and make some decisions about what you want out of your life.
2007-08-23 22:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even healthy people are perverse. There is a strange devil in all of us that actually LIKES to be depressed. It was none other than Sigmund Freud who discovered this.
Have you ever had the urge to quit taking your medication? I was once prescribed medication for panic attacks. The attacks were intolerable to me, but I refused to eat the damned valium. It's as if I wanted to be miserable.
Anyway, if you truly want to quit hating yourself, just go to group therapy.
2007-08-23 22:58:20 · answer #9 · answered by larry L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should b proud of yourself.U feel so bad but yet take good care of ur parents.I bet they love u more than u know. U are brave. The job an boyfriend can b replaced. But you taking care of them cant.
2007-08-27 04:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by cupcake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋