I am realy shy, and Always have been, but i cant get over it. An example would be like when I try to say things around a group of people, or people I dont know real well, i almost whisper, even if I try to speak loud. I dont have any problem with people I get to know, but new people I have trouble making friends with because I am so shy. Especially Girls, i have the worst problem with them, I have liked way too many girls and let them get away because my shyness.
Can someone please help me?
2007-08-23 15:37:45 · 5 answers · asked by Me!! 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If your comfortable with your friends and people you know, maybe you're not so much shy, as you are scared?
it makes sense, especially if its around the opposite sex.
I used to have a best frined how was the same way; she would try to speak up, but she coudln't. And she had the hardest time with new poeple. The reason? Because she was scared that she'd say something they didn't agree with or think was funny, and she was afriad she'd embarass herself by saying the wrong thing. That was a huge problem with her and boys! She never knew what to say. You just need to be more confident with yourself. You're probably a really nice, interesting person. Just find a subject your comfortable with talking about, or that you know a lot about (i.e-hockey,baseball,animals,science.anything!) that you know a lot about, or feel confident talking about, because you know the facts. Then you'll gradually just be more confident in general! Also, try to talk about things your actually interested in; don't ask them about their school if you aren't interested. Stick to stuff you want to hear about!
2007-08-23 15:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be more confident. You have something to offer people. Don't be embarrassed to speak up. I had the same problem as you. I had to get over it when I went in the Army. Now I can talk to just about anyone, but remember there isn't anything wrong with being a little shy. It is kinda cute when a guy is shy, I think. It shows sensitivity. Just be you and things will work out. Remember you are great and have something to offer to the conversation.
2007-08-23 22:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by Strong w/ Jesus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very common. It takes practice to try reaching out. Some people join groups focused on a topic (picture taking, etc.) where through the process of what you are doing you in time talk to the people who are also getting into what ever it is you are doing. It could be worth talking with someone, not because of mental illness, but as a "coach" to give you assignments and then talk about what happen, the positives and negatives. It takes practice. You definitely can get better.
2007-08-23 22:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be so shy that i wouldnt go for a cup of coffee on my own. It took me a lot of practicing the exact things i was afraid of. And i joined Toastmasters International where i learned to speak up. You may want to give it a try.
2007-08-23 22:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by petra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im really shy 2 u juss have 2 get 2 kno da pple more be4 u tlk 2 them i guess itz really hard but i think i should kno since i am shy it works 4 me it juss takes a while u sound like a prety nice person so u should have no problem
2007-08-23 22:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by kelsey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋