We have been dating 2 years. His wife passed away 3 years ago. He says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, although he says he does not want to marry again. I have never been invited to a family function, or anything to do with his 19 yr. old daughter and 23 year old son, who are both unemployed and live at home. I have met them 2 or 3 times, and they were really snotty. Am i kidding myself to think he is serious about me. There is not one photograph of me in his home, and if I ever call him when he is with the kids, he sounds like he answering a telemarketing call, and leaves the room to talk. He has also said the most important thing to him about our relationship is the sex. He also says he loves me. Is he just stringing me along? I did catch him on several internet dating sites last year after I googled his "handle". He says they were outdated and that he had not been using them...except for match.com which I saw he visited daily. Is he playing me for a fool?
2007-08-23 15:34:35 · 8 answers · asked by partly cloudy 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This man is not in-love with you.
You've pretty much answered your own questions.
When you love someone its the persons happiness, you are proud to have them around and to introduce them to your family and friends. You do not go hiding out to chat with them on the phone, you have photos, and you definitely do NOT keep on shopping for future mates. And sex is NOT the most important thing in a TRUE relationship. You're being used until he finds the woman that will replace you.
Baby girl .... get out!
Wish you the best ... take your time & look for someone who is truly into you.
2007-08-23 15:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect there is not a big difference in ages between you and his kids.If that is the case,he might be hiding you because he doesn't want to be accused of robbing the cradle.Or he could be hiding the kid from you because they are not the best kids and he is ashamed of them,He could also be dating another woman that the kids know about and approve of,In addition, he is visiting single sites on the Internet which is a no-no if you love someone.I suggest that you back off a romantic relationship with this guy and find a man who can devote his attention to you.This is not the guy though and you will be wasting your time with him.
2007-08-23 22:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 2 years, you ought to have moved through the "taking it gently" phase. He's using you. His "I want to spend my life with you" is only the first part of the sentence. The unsaid bit is "until I find someone else." I'm sure you can do better!
2007-08-23 22:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve been together 2 yrs no pics of you and to him the most important thing in your relationship is the sex yep your wasting your time break up and get with someone who will love you and think that you,not the sex, are the most important thing
2007-08-23 22:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by wvgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats what it really sounds like,just trying to keep you around for the sex.Move on and find someone that really loves you and cares for you hun.Good Luck!!
2007-08-23 22:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by heather s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is stringing you along till something better comes along. You have the proof and behaviour. Sorry to break it to you.
2007-08-23 22:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Leave him and his snotty unemployed children to it.
2007-08-23 22:38:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
run , find someone thats proud of you and respects you
2007-08-23 22:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by wilco254 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋