My real dad wants to walk me down the aisle, but one time when I was angry with him I asked my Mum's boyfriend who she's been with for ages, he's more of a dad to me than my dad, I sometimes refer to him as dad2 as a joke, anyways both are under the impression that their walking me down the aisle, if I deny my dad the duties of FOB it'll hurt him and the other one will get offended, can both walk me down the aisle or is there some rule that only the father can do that?
2007-08-23 15:06:18 · 49 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
1. both guys dads don't get along
and an after thought what do you guys think of my biological parents walking my down and steps parents behind
2007-08-23 15:37:14 · update #1
1. both guys dads don't get along
and an after thought what do you guys think of my biological parents walking my down and steps parents behind?
2007-08-23 15:37:25 · update #2
Sit them down and let them know that they are both very special to you and you would love if they would both walk you and give you away.
Traditional was only dad does it, but times have changed and between the bilogical father, step fathers, uncles, mom's bf's, etc. there is countless ways that it is now acceptable. They both played a role in your life, and if you care enough for them that you would be happy with either, go with both. It's your day, there are no set rules, do what you want and enjoy it!
2007-08-23 15:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jenni P 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I actually had a similar problem many years ago. For awhile I considered being walked down the aisle by both. I know a few people who have done that and it was very touching.
I opted for my father eventually. My stepdad at the time was close but we did not remain that way so now looking back I know it was a good choice. My father died only a few years later and it makes me glad when I look back on it all that the choice went that way.
Oh, also I heard of the mother walking the bride with both fathers walking behind. When the bride is presented to her groom the mother steps back to her currrent husband and they take their seats and the dad takes his seat.
In todays day and age, it is not so much protocol, it's what works for you. Think out of the box with some ideas...but in the end no matter what follow your heart.
2007-08-23 15:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by suzmarda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like the idea of your bio parents walking you down and the step parents coming behind. It shows that they are all a part of your life. The downside is that with all those people walking in with you, you might not be getting all the attention as you walkdown the aisle. You can still have both dads do it, or your parents could all walk in in front of you and you could walk the aisle alone. As others said, it's your wedding and there aren't rules for this sort of thing. Do whatever you're most comfortable with.
2007-08-23 15:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by muriel12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of these men have been like a father to you, let them each have an arm and walk you down that aisle! You shouldn't have to choose which on you like more or wants to be in the wedding more.
My best friend has a step dad who she has lived with since she was little. She is also still very close with her real dad. She calls them both dad, because they both are. When she gets married they will both be walking her down the aisle.
2007-08-23 15:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by qwerty 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My friend just got married two weeks ago & she was in the same boat. She had her step father make the entrance with her & walk her 1/2 way, then her real father was standing 1/2 way down the middle isle as the step father & bride approached the real father the step father stepped aside while the biological father walked her the rest of the way & gave her away. This made both fathers feel important because one made entrance & was shown first with the bride while the other gave her away to her husband. It was very different, & typically traditional. Congraluations on getting married i hope the father thing works out for you, They should be very mature about the situtation & agree to get along for you. After all it is your day!!!! make it wonderful.
2007-08-23 16:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by The Brat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are no rules for a wedding. Its your wedding you can do what you want. Both dads should walk you down the aisle, and they should get along with each other for one day for your sake. Your step parents should not walk behind you. Your mom and step mom should be seated in a pew in the front and they should stay there. The only time any of them should participate is if you light the family candle, and then only have the parents who have taken care of you the most light it.
2007-08-23 15:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by crzygal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step daughter just married last month. Once upon a time she asked me to walk her down the aisle as her and her natural father weren't seeing eye to eye at the time. I gracefully refused and suggested that it is in reality her natural father's place to walk his little girl down the aisle. Ended up he did and all was well. But as far as having both men who have played the father role in your life, I do not believe that there should be a problem with this at all. Hopefully both are mature enough to get along and want only the best for you. Best of luck and happy marriage.
2007-08-23 15:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They can both walk you down the aisle!
Traditions like that are from times when things were not so complicated in the world..
Both men have been in your life and had a part in raising you to be the woman you are now, so why not have both give you away?
If you are worried that either will not feel as important just make sure you explain it like that, they should understand.
2007-08-23 15:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by zimba 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything goes!!!
It is your wedding, and the only thing that *has* to happen that day is you have to say "I do".
Do whatever will be meaningful for you.
I had my mother and my father both walk me down the aisle, and they have been divorced for over 30 years. They don't get along but hey, I figured they could both be adults for one day...
In the end it turned out perfect. The memory of them walking me down the aisle together will be one that I cherish for the rest of my life and I am glad we did that.
Best Wishes on the new marriage sweetie :)
2007-08-23 22:35:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the demise of the average nuclear family, wedding ceremonies have become more flexible to make it easier on the non-traditional families. If you're close to both of your fathers, I don't see any reason why you can't have them both walk you down the aisle. You'll want to make it clear to the person you have doing the ceremony so there isn't any confusion but they'll probably be fine with it.
Weddings are supposed to be a time of joy, the less conflict surrounding the ceremony, the better.
2007-08-23 15:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by twilightmoondancer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋