Why can't I just snap out of it?

Question

I am very sensitive and get depressed easily. I feel empty as I lost my boyfriend and my job. I just want to snap out of it and start better care of myself. I just know don't know how. My doc is on vacation until next month. I feel like I can't wait that long.

I read 29 answers and I want to say thank you for all trying to cheer me up. I felt some relief that some people seems to care enough to answer and offer advice. I know some have suggested that I see another dr but the fact is, is that I am scared to see another dr and it's taken a while for me to get use to the one I was currently seeing. Maybe it's social anxiety. I also have a fear of calling those hotlines. I keep dreaming they will track me and lock me up in a mental institution.
I try to get up and shower and it's hard. Sometimes, I don't want to wake up at all and do nothing and I can barely eat a thing because nothing tastes good anymore.
Thanks so much again for the lovely, kind responses. It brings tears to my eyes that I am not just freak and only one who suffers like this.

Answer 1

Find another Dr.

Helping Yourself
Depressive disorders make you feel exhausted, worthless, helpless, and hopeless. Such negative thoughts and feelings make some people feel like giving up. You should realize that these negative views are part of depression, and typically do not accurately reflect your life situation. Negative thinking fades as treatment begins to take effect. Psychotherapy, especially cognitive psychotherapy, is specifically designed to change the negative thinking associated with depression.

In the meantime:

Do not set difficult goals for yourself, or take on additional responsibility.
Break large tasks into small ones, set some priorities, and do what you can as you can.
Do not expect too much from yourself too soon, as this will only increase your feelings of failure.
Try to be with other people; it is usually better than being alone.
Force yourself to participate in activities that may make you feel better.
Try engaging in mild exercise, going to a movie, a ball-game, or participating in religious or social activities.
Don't overdo it or get upset if your mood is not greatly improved right away. Feeling better takes time.
Do not make major life decisions, such as changing jobs, getting married or divorced, without consulting others who know you well and who have a more objective view of your situation. In any case, it is advisable to postpone important decisions until your depression has lifted.
Do not expect to snap out of your depression. People rarely do. Help yourself as much as you can, and do not blame yourself for not being up to par.
Remember, do not accept your negative thinking. It is part of the depression and will disappear as your depression responds to treatment.
Get help from a professional. No matter how much you want to beat it yourself, a psychologist can help you recover faster.

Answer 2

God is first and then there is YOU. I have been depressed, yes, severely depressed. I lost my husband when he was only 36 years old. He had congestive heart failure. The rest of his siblings APPEAR to be healthy to this day. They don't appreciate God's blessings. I don't associate with them. THERE IS A ROUGH TIME THAT ALL OF US MUST GO THROUGH. Being depressed is not something that a person can just snap out of. I lost everything at one time and had 33 cents left to my use. Truly, this is a fact. I refuse to let ANYTHING make me feel badly. I am too wonderful and so are YOU. Contact the American Medical Association at 1 - [phone] and get several references as to whom can offer you appropriate help. Seriously remember this, What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with benefits, even the God of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19. BEFORE you enter a home or any building, quietly say "Peace Be To This House." - Luke 10:5. The people within those premises will not know why they are so about peace. On a daily basis, read Psalm 35 (Plead My Cause) - It is a long-winded and very POWERFUL psalm that will cover that which is unknown and that which is known. The Lord will not let you deal with anything that you can not handle. Peace, Love and God Bless.

Answer 3

The person who suggested dancing may have been being facetious, but it really is a good suggestion. Physical activity like dancing or running releases endorphins, which will make you feel better for a while. You can also pray (if you have a faith you subscribe to), talk to folks you trust, go volunteer somewhere, begin an active job search....do something that gets you OUT of the house and into some sunshine and fresh air.

Another thing you can do that's good for you is stop thinking you need to "snap" out of feeling bad. You have the right to feel bad when bad things happen. You are taking good steps to not be overwhelmed by it though. Keep your head up, dear!

Answer 4

Your doctor should have someone who is on call for them or that is taking their patents while he/she is out on vacation. I would call your doctors office and see who that person is and schedule an appointment to see them. If you get depressed easy and stay that way a lot they can try you on some Lexapro or cymbalta and see if it helps you. It may take about a month for you to really see and feel the full effects of the drug but it will start showing in about 2 weeks. I take an anti-depressant and it has helped me a lot. Best of luck and I hope you feel better soon. Oh yeah and try to stay away from alcohol, it will make you feel more depressed. Not just while you are drinking but the effects can last for a few days. Exercise has shown to help people who feel depressed as well. It increases some of the chemicals in your system that make you feel better and less depressed, so try doing some walking or jogging and see if that helps you some. Best of luck :)

Answer 5

you probably would benefit from counseling so you have an outlet for all your feelings. You seem to be in a real depression (as in not just feeling bad right now) because feeling at a loss on even what step to take next is one of the signs of true depression.
Call your Dr. office and try and see another Dr in the same group since yours is out. And you can try churches and looking in the phone book for other types of couseling.

Until then !

Answer 6

Hey! You can and you will. I took anti depressents for a while and believe me they truely are no fun.... they are not cure all for depression. I just kept telling myself that if I kept feeling/talking in anegative way I would never get out of my spiral. Do it for yourself and your future! Take control. Its almost like you need to talk yourself out of the funk. By mo means am I telling you not to go to the Dr. and maybe get the drugs but dont jump and think there is an easy way out. Make a change... a good change! Wake up each morning force yourself to shower... force yourself to take a walk or drive anything that can get you outside and moving. Seritonins (sorry about the spelling) I am pretty sare are your bodys natural anti depressent. Eat right... eat enough do it because it will all be okay in the end. I am sorry about the losses in your life but work it out do the best you can and dont expect it to happen overnight. If you need help call a hotline. They are there to talk.... about anything anytime.... you can find them in the phone book and they are anonomos chat about your day anything that makes you feel good.... try a councelor. You can talk to someone at a church ... I am not religious but when you need help .... you need help right? Tell a friend ask them to just listen... I hope you feel better soon... dont be weak!

Answer 7

I think the 1st answer was right. Find something you like to do, such as dancing, and do it until you feel better, or just can't anymore. You have to pick yourself up, and sometimes the best way to do that is to forget everything and everyone Forget all the parts of life that suxs (ex BF and ex jobs), and find the good in the world again. Your good. Just go make yourself have fun. Whether it's a night with friends, coffee, exercise, a good book, or whatever you like. Indulge yourself. You deserve it. Besides, you have nothing to give to anyone else until you replenish yourself. Nothing pours from an empty cup.

Answer 8

You need to take some time for yourself, and get a grip on your OWN reality.

Your job and boyfriend are replacable, most things in life are.... You need to focus on other things, yes money is the only way to get around and live these days, so maybe start with looking for a good job, something you will enjoy.. Keep yourself busy with that.....

As far as your BF, i am sorry about that, but obviously he was not the one for you, you can remember the happy times, and move on with your life.....

I wouldnt go searching for anything accept a job for now.. Something will come your way....

Remember doctors are still practicing, ALL doctors are.... You know your body MORE than they do....

Listen to your mind, and dont do anything crazy, There are ups and downs in life, and right now you are down, but think of when you were not.... Life can be good sometimes, we all have to go through it...

Think about yourself, and dont let yourself get to down, YOU and only YOU can help yourself get out of this way you are feeling..

Answer 9

sometimes people cant"just snap out of it". it may take a lil help .is there another doctor you can see while yours is away? are you currently taking meds for depression? if so,continue them until you can see someone. if you arent, then you can try to maybe go out to lunch with a friend or someone. try to keep buisy doing things to help from becoming depressed. try visiting family or friends. anything you do to help keep buisy is good. i dont know what its like to lose both a job and a boyfriend at the same time,but either one alone is enough to cause anyone to feel like you do. the good thing is that both can be replaced with time! cheer up and think positive! set a goal for yourself ! i believe that thinking positive is very important in helping you get through this. dont sit around and wait for the doc to return,you may fall into depression if you havent already or go into deeper depression if you are already depressed. niether one is good ,so pick your head up! cheer up.........everything will turn out ok in the end. i wish you lots of luck.i hope i was of help.

Answer 10

It's helpful reading all the answers and I particularly am interested in what Bella has said. It shows that many people have or do suffer from depression and that there are things that you can actually do about it to improve your emotional situation. You can gain some solace from that immediately.. and indeed I suggest some exercise followed by a warm bath with some nice smelling bath salts!