I'm going to my fathers funeral but I din't want to wear all black and this is my first funeral in years so was wondering if all black is still the dress code for funerals.
2007-08-23 14:53:55 · 82 answers · asked by ladytee 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yeah black is. If you want to really know your answer you can look at everyone else at your father's funeral and see if they're wearing black too.
2007-08-23 14:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
No, it would not be rude...You don't want to attend a funeral looking like you are going clubbing directly afterward, however; the morbidly all black 'funeral uniform' of the past has all but disappeared. Stick with a conservative look and keep the color toned down -- grays, browns or navy are good choices. There is even some thought given nowadays to the personality of the deceased -- if your Dad was an upbeat, outgoing person, you might be less likely to feel that dressing in a severe, 'black' funereal way, would be something your Dad would even want you to do! On the other hand, if Dad was old-fashioned, and more formal in life -- maybe you should stick with the tried and true conservative dark suit. Give it some thought --- what would Dad want? I'm sorry for your loss...
2007-08-23 15:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by felixthecat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, black is not the norm at funerals anymore. However, keep your outfit simple. Black used to be standard, a must for any wardrobe. Now people are more casual. They dress the way they feel. They mourn the passing of the person, but afterward they get together, and celebrate that person's life.
My partner passed away on August 1st, and family and friends dressed casually for the visitation, as this was the type of person he was.
"No muss, no fuss, get it over with!" The next day we had a family barbecue, a memorial to him.
Consider the type of person your father was, and what he would want.
2007-08-23 15:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wearing black to a funeral has no basis and is only traditional. God neither the person who died wouldn't really care. I'm gonna request that everyone where white and light colors at my funeral when I am old because I want everyone to be in a good mood and not a sad one with those black clothes. They wear white colors in Heaven not black but it's all up to you.
2007-08-23 16:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't necessarily wear red. While black is no longer mandatory, I do think it's still classic and will forever be appropriate when it comes to attire for a funeral.
Another good idea, is wear something that your father loved to see you in - regardless of color.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my father 4 years ago and miss him still! I hope all goes as well as can be expected with the funeral services. Peace be with you during this difficult time. May your family find comfort in the memory of your father's impact on all of your lives.
2007-08-23 15:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by Marvelissa VT 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't rude as long as you are not taking attention away from the person who is being honored after passing. Wear comfortable clothes, as it is better to feel comfortable in times of mourning. Wearing something too tight may cause you more anxiety over the environment and therefore cause you to be less comforting to other loved ones who are mourning. Just use common sense, and remember that you are not the reason the get together has occured. Best Wishes and Good Luck... and, I am very sorry for your loss.
2007-08-25 11:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jack S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been to too many funerals the last couple years and don't see alot of black anymore. I personally never wear black to funerals.
2007-08-23 15:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by Choqs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No,when my daughter died,her husband,family and friends dressed in the sort of clothing she was used to seeing usin.She would have loved that.She was buried in favourite pair of sneakers and an every day outfit she loved.Some came in suits,but that was because they were working and had to return after the funeral.
As her dad I felt it appropiate to wear a black tie,but we know in our hearts she would have wanted us to feel comfortable saying goodbye.
I think black is very depressing and being a funeral its depressing enough just being there.No parent wants to out live their children.
Unless the particular religion insists on wearing black I can not see the harm in dressing casually and neat as well and I see no disrespect by not wearing black.
2007-08-23 15:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by Rick's Locomotive 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it would not be rude. Who's dress code is it anyhow? Black is a color to identifiy death mourning and thats all. Today Christians though sad of the lost of a love one rejoices knowing they are in heaven. Well that is if they accepted Christ as their Savior.
Where I live we wear anything, (of course with taste). Ift means no disrepect to the deads family and friends. Budget plays a factor in what one wears today.
People will talk what one wears but hey, who's buying the clothes? I noticed today that many are not following the traditions of wearing only black. Finally catching on it cost lots to follow traditions.
2007-08-23 15:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by airlines charge for the seat. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really not. I've been to 2 funerals in the last year, and everyone just dressed 'nice,' but not all black.
2007-08-23 15:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by fuffernut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wear something you feel comfortable in, just not to bright, and not loud colors...
The reason people wear black and dark colors is to show that they are mourning for the loss of the individual attending the funeral.. in this case you and your family, so honestly it is up to you...
Something a little on the darker side would be better...
Sorry for your loss.
2007-08-23 15:01:34 · answer #11 · answered by rockgirlfury 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋