He's only 20 months old and has started randomly saying f**k.
I dont want this to continue!
Do i just ignore it when he says it so he doesnt get a reaction and think its gona get him attention?
Or what should i do?
Iv tried correcting him and saying 'truck' but he knows the difference.
Has anyone been in this situation? Wat helped and did your child stop saying it?
2007-08-23 14:49:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
first think about where you child is hearing this word and try to eliminate his exposure. If you, his father or other family members and friend are saying it around him you need to stop it from happening. Next when he does say it try not to make a big deal about it. Simply tell him that is not a nice word and you get sad when you hear him say it. Children naturally want to please their parents. And if he thinks that word hurts you he will want to stop.
2007-08-24 01:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by nykate_winslow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your toddler is hearing that word somewhere. Start with protecting him from hearing it. Then, do a brief, 1 minute time out whenever he says it. For a 20 month old, a time out is simply placing him in a safe place and withdrawing your attention. Children want/need our attention and will seek either positive or negative attention, whatever they can get. When attention is withdrawn, the behavior will stop.
2007-08-24 11:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignoring it is your only hope. He's too young to punish without just being f**king mean to him. You'll have to explain this to anyone he's going to talk around because they have to do the same thing. If they laugh or make a big deal, what you do won't make a difference. He'll just keep it up.
My kid didn't start till about 3 or 4. Then we tried everything. When he got to college, he got involved in a campus religious group (or maybe he just matured) and quit using it. Going to church as a kid and teenager didn't stop him--well, he didn't say it there.
2007-08-23 21:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
More then likely he heard it from someone, to have it stopped the source needs to stop whether it is a person, tv show, etc. If he does say it do not really show any emoition about it...if he thinks he get a rise out of it then he will continue to say it to get attention. Unfortuantely like our moms did wash you rmouth out with soap is probably considered a form of child abuse nowadays lol. Once he sees that no one is paying attention to him saying it he will more then likely forget about it, especially when he learns more words.
2007-08-23 22:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by bpfashion123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son loved cars & trucks when he was a toddler.
He would say fruck instead of truck, we would correct him by repeating truck, emphasizing the "T". Eventually his pronunciation improved as he grew & started kindergarten, etc. The worst thing to do is laugh & I know it's hard not to- when he says this word incorrectly. If he has lost baby teeth recently this could also contribute to the "T" sounding like "F"
2007-08-23 22:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by David H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree about the imitation thing. You can't expect a toddler not to say words that they hear around the house but I have always heard not to react to it so they don't continue to say it for the attention. But I'm not really sure. I think prevention is really the best solution!
2007-08-23 21:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Summer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, is it you or his daddy he is learning it from?
My little brother had this problem (older brother and friends). I just told him that you will not say that. He didn't, but I would have popped him on the mouth once to get it across if I had to. If his father or you are saying it, that wouldn't be reasonable as you are teaching him to say it.
My grandmother had this problem with my Dad (my grandfather was an automechanic so f**K was a frequent word) and they agreed that he could say Fudge. He was 2 at the time.
2007-08-23 21:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've babysat little kids that did that and had to continually talk to them, telling them why it's bad on occassion, so they have a reason not just a that's improper for you to say... And, continue to be a good example, letting him know that his grown mother doesn't even say that. I have a friend who's in to hard core rap but doesn't listen to it without headphones anymore because he doesn't want his son to hear those words.
2007-08-23 21:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by future spa guru 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fact about young children: They will repeat what they hear.
Best thing to do: Watch what you and others say around your little guy. You shouldn't have a baby in a situation where he will hear such things. Shame on you.
2007-08-23 23:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by GrowingMama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If ignoring it doesnt work, and he keeps saying it. Definately tell him "NO. You will not say that word". I have a 5 year old who is testing his limits with bad words. When I tell him he WILL NOT say that word, it works. He wont say it anymore. No need to elaborate on what it means or how bad it is. Just tell him he WILL NOT say that word. (and it helps to not say it around him, and remind friends and relatives not to swear around your son.) Good Luck.
2007-08-23 22:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by redsoxra 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋