ok so my best friend is a guy. lets call him Bob.
well a new girl just came to my school from a difrent contry.
she was really nice. but when i was walking home with bob he asked me if i would introduse him to her. i said no b/c all the other guys had been hitting on her ever since she got there, and i didn't want her to have to deal with a nother guy trying to put the moves on her. i was just trying to be a good friend. and bob understood me and agreed to lay off.
but now she has gone and ditched me for the pops.
and that makes me really sad b/c i really liked her and i tryed to help her. well now that I'm spending a lot of time with Bob i've relized that i cind of like him. not a lot but just inofe to feel jules of her. and bob just talks nonstop about her, and its really starting to hert me really bad. i think i'm falling for him, and it really herts me to hear him talk how great she is seeing how she really hert me, and the fact that i really like him now. i just don't know what do
2007-08-23 14:27:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh just to add i'v been haveing this thing for him long befor she was in the pic.
2007-08-23 14:38:58 · update #1
You only like "Bob" because he likes her.
2007-08-23 14:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by Buckwheat 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It was clear that you like"Bob" which was the reason you refused to introduce him to the french girl. However, it is not too late for you and Bob.While the French girl is enjoying a lot of attention now, it is only as a result of being from a different country and also being the new girl.Since Bob is your best friend already,and likes, respects,and understand you, ask to talk to him.Tell him that you have discovered that you like him more than just as a best friend.Admit that it took his interest in the french girl to make you realize your feelings for him and ask him if he would like to give you guys a chance as a romantic couple.If he says yes, then you now have a boyfriend as well as a best friend.If he says no, then you still have your best friend.Either way , you have nothing to lose.So go get him and I wish you the best .
2007-08-23 21:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you weren't trying to be a good friend to this girl, you were just jealous bcuz of all the attention she was getting, not only from Bob but from all of the other guys too. And it's quite normal.
Also, you sound too young -- otherwise you would know that they will hook up if they really want you, with or without your help, and there's nothing you can do about it. If bob likes her more than he likes you, there's nothing you can do about it, so refusing to introduce them wasn't going to do any good to you.
in any case, I think that this girl wasn't that much into you anyway cuz otherwise she wouldn't have been mad at you for this only reason. I'd say just try to keep your friendship with bob and NOT try to turn it into something else cuz you might spoil the whole thing. And if you really want to be friends with the french girl again, go and explain that your intentions were good and that you'd really like to be her friend again.. If she accepts, cool, but if she doesn't then it wasn't such a big loss after all..... good luck.
2007-08-23 21:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What i would do would be to talk to him abt it....find out if he really, really likes her......if he does then ur chance might lessen.....but that doesn't mean its gone....i think it wud be best to reveal you feelings for him....you shud invite him to sumwhere one days as friends(dinner or lunch or sumthing) then u shud explain to him how u really like him but u shud also tell him that if he doesn't like u...u still don't want to loose him as a best friend....if he likes you he will reply back that he does....if not....then....tell him u still want to be bestfriends w/ him..........but there is one think after telling him...u'll feel very much relieved wether the answer is yes or no....and u'll at least know u tried.....for him.
2007-08-23 21:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a sticky situation.
and i think its hard, but talk to him. see what is going on? i mean does he really like her or is it just an infatuation?
and tell him how she hurt you, because that might bounce him back to the fact that she is human and can be mean if he is putting her on a pedistol.
and then see where it goes from there, if you dont know what to do after that, then hey what is this site for??
2007-08-23 21:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does bob know how she hurt you? If he doesn't tell him, if he does that tell him how you feel about him talking about how great she is all the time. I if hurts you bad enough...you should calmly take it up with him. At least that's what I think I'd do.
2007-08-23 21:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by princenore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's only setting him up for failure... he should know that you can't trust the French. Don't worry when the Frenchwomanturns his life into a dissaster you will swoop in as Americans always do and rebuild!!! He'll have a deeper appreciation for you after that I promise!!!
2007-08-23 21:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by Montego 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend is a guy and we have been best friends for 18 years. in my opinion it is natural to get jealous because you know that your bff is a great guy and deserves someone who will like him for him and not someone who loves the attention from all of these other guys. if you are starting to like him, in all honesty, and not just because he likes her, than i suggest this. explain to him how you feel when he talks about her and see how his reaction is. if he doesn't care or if he asks why just explain to him that you feel uncomfortable and would rather talk about something else. if he doesn't care than you shouldn't risk putting your feelings out there. the worse thing you want to do is be too blunt about your feelings. you may scare him away completely.
2007-08-23 21:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by Melis 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him that you value your friendship with him but she really hurt you which is very unbecoming and you would prefer if he found something else to talk about or try just changing the subject.
I would be hurt too.
2007-08-23 21:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the classic girl who's best friend is a guy move: you've fallen for him and can't do anything about it. if you ask him out, he'll either not take seriously or he will blow you off forever. if you don't, you will be living with grief. i wouldn't know what to do either. sorry girl.
2007-08-23 21:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by lovelovelove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋