Four years weve have been together it hasent been easy but I have stuck in thier because I had feelings more like love but thru the bumps and bruses I have tried to stick it out buy being respectfull and faithful, even when some one says that they dont want you I still stayed but after buying a ring and asking her to marry me she says yes but dose she really mean it. and things are still the same whats a man to do walk out on his family never me i swore I really wanted this to work but between diferent men and alcholic and a very unstable relationship I guess its enough Ive tried to walk but always end up back here but things arent changeing although she says that whe loves me i dont feel it. how much should I take before I walk its seem to be the hardest decesion of my life this is not my first but i wanted it to be my last. WHAT NEXT
2007-08-23 14:03:04 · 5 answers · asked by CJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Couples Counseling! If you haven't married her yet, don't until you work these issues out!! If your the only working at the relationship, then it's really not a relationship!
2007-08-23 15:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are dealing with a lot.
My advice is that if you both love each other, then you BOTH need to try and make it work. You mentioned you have a family, so you both owe to yourselves and your family to work it out. I suggest considering couples counseling. There is nothing wrong with seeking help from a professional who can help you communicate and get to the bottom of the real issues.
Also if someone is an alcoholic, that is a very difficult disease, and they need to want to get help before they can get better. Get them to AA! Counseling can help start the ball rolling.
If your partner is not willing to seek help and work things out you may have no choice but to end the relationship.
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-08-23 14:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is strange and abusive relationships make things stranger. We have all learned to take some form of abuse and the human spirit will endure. Only you will know when you have had enough. By the sounds of things I hope it's soon. It sounds like your patience is about wore out.
2007-08-23 14:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by psstoffagain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you know what you should do
it'll be hard for awhile but in the long run, this relationship would only give you great heartache
cut your losses and run
however, you saw your 'family' so if there are kids involved, take responsibility for them. if she is an unfit mother, get custody.
2007-08-24 09:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the biggest sentence I have ever seen! Buddy - you can not spend the rest of your life with someone who does not respect and love YOU.
2007-08-23 14:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋