My neice that is 6 years old tends to get a little ruff on animals. I have banned her from animals. Once she kicked my cat who is the apple of my eye cause I bottle fed him from 5 days old. She is not allowed to touch my animals without me being present. Today she killed a toad. She stepped on it and pushed it into the ground so hard you could see the indentation of its body. She lives with us, so she was sent to bed. I want to punish her and thought of her tomorrow digging a hole and burying it? I want her to feel remorse? I'm thinking this may help do that or make her even more mad at animals. Any ideas??? She really worries me!
2007-08-23 13:54:04 · 13 answers · asked by Boxer Lover 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I believe this child is ADHD but her mother refuses to get her tested. I suppose she thinks its embarrasing I don't know. My neice nad her younger sister alongw ith mom lives with us cause she is divorced living in a apartment. We felt that farm life would be a better enviroment for them till she got back on her feet. Mom doesn't see what I see in this child I suppose she is in denile
2007-08-23 14:18:38 · update #1
I'm not sure you can punish remorse into her. You just need to have a long talk with her about how animals are living things with feelings-and don't wait until she hurts or kills something else. This is worrisome, especially at 6 years old and it may be due to other factors. She may have a lot of bottled up anger that she doesn't know how to express. I'm not sure of the circumstances of her living with you but maybe she has a lot of feelings stemming from this situation that she doesn't know what to do with. If she is feeling powerless it would make a lot of sense for her to want to feel like she is taking control by bullying animals. It sounds like something may be going on with her and maybe you should consider taking her to counseling. Hurting and killing animals, especially like the way you described, its not normal behavior for a 6 year old and punishing won't do a damn thing.
2007-08-23 14:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Who is the child's legal guardian? If it's the mother, the right and proper way to handle this is to work with the mother, not the child. If you and the mother can not come to agreement regarding treatment of your animals, then you may need to look at making other living arrangements, or asking the mother to make other living arrangements for herself and her child. If you are the legal guardian, and the mother is living there at your goodwill, that's a different question. This child needs therapy. This child exhibits a severe lack of empathy which can only get worse if not addressed properly now. Punishment will not make a child have empathy or remorse, but may instead serve to further harden the child's attitude. Punishment is not the road to healing. Have love, have compassion, but bottom line, animals are Soul too and need to be treated respectfully. If you are not legal guardian, and this child can not be respectful to your animals, then you can make the choice to leave or ask them to leave. If you are legal guardian, get this child help!
2007-08-24 05:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your niece knows how sad you are about the toad. Having her dig a hole and participate in a little ceremony is a good idea.
It would appear that she has a lot of anger. Animal abuse is a warning sign for larger problems, and in adults, animal abuse can signal spousal or child abuse. Talk to her doctor. She should really be evaluated and could probably benefit from talking to a counselor. I'm not sure punishment is going to fix this problem. You need to deal with what is actually making her so angry and violent.
2007-08-23 14:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by Liza 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It is very important that you get your neice evaluated immediately. This is not normal for a child or person of any age. These are warning signs and you must heed them. Do not let your sister talk you out of this. It's for your safety and for your family. Today she takes her anger out on animals, tomorrow it's small children, including her younger sibling. Get her evaluated now. Start by talking to her doctor. If she doesn't have one, don't ask your sister. Call the hospital for a recommendation. Do this.
2007-08-24 03:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by YN 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son had problems with being cruel to animals. He had some emotional issues that had to be dealt with through therapy. One of his problems was that he has ADHD, another is that his father was abusive to me. I think you should research the issue, and she should be seen by a therapist. Like the other Lady said, we don't know why she is living with you, but there seems to be something going on in that small head of hers that isn't healthy. Please seek help for her. Here is an article that may help, or give resources.
2007-08-23 14:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by jezuzgirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have you talked to the paents about your niece's behavior?
Since she's just your niece i suggest that you talk to the paretns first about punishing her. Or maybe you could talk to your niece about her behavior.
Sometimes kids tend to be violent because they want to get your attention or someone elses attention. it is the way for kids to tell you that he wants you by their side.
If there are other kids present in the house, like for exmple a cousin, a neigbor kid, or a sibling then your niece might be jelous of the attention given to the other kids. These behavior is also normal, it's called siblings rivalry.
Best way to know what is going on with your neice is have a talk with her with the parents present,if possible and ask her the reason why she doesn't like animals or hurts animals.
Good Luck
2007-08-23 14:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by ely_girll 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not a little ruff. This is how serial killers start. Punishment won't help because she's incapable of remorse. She needs therapy to fix this if it can be fixed. Don't wait, don't let Mom talk you out of it.
2007-08-23 14:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi..I was just answering your comment from my horse pics and no..hes not an arab...he is a registered thoroughbred ...:)
lol its ok! actually, there are quit a few tbs that look a lot like them! I was surprised too..when I was lil I sometimes got tbs and arabs mixed up b/c a lot of tbs have the "indented" heads like arabs! if you look at his withers though..you can tell though..he has very high withers and a VERY long neck like a tb..besides that his butt is not squared off like an arab..lol..I know its hard to tell in the pics :)
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2016-10-09 03:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to visit an animal abuse center. Have an attendant describe to her what happened to the worst, and explain why she shouldn't.
Seeing them may make an impression.
2007-08-23 14:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by ed 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋