So, there is this girl. She is my best friend, and I have this huge crush on her, but she doesn't know. She told me that she likes me too. The only problem is, she doesn't want a boyfriend.....ever. She's too afraid of getting hurt so she doesn't want a boyfriend or anything. Other guys asked her out and she said no, and some of these guys she liked too. I like her so much, but I don't think I can do anything about it. If you know any ways, what should I do?
2007-08-23 13:30:33 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You might try explaining to her that nothing in life is achieved without some degree of risk. Let her know that she isn't taking any greater risk than the other girls. Make certian she knows breaking up with someone you care for really sucks, but spending your whole life alone and unloved is even worse!
You could try to explain that you would never do anything to hurt her, but it probably won't work, because she knows all the guys say that! It might be she just isn't ready for a relationship yet and this is her "story". Try to stay in touch with her maybe she will change her mind as she gets older.
2007-08-23 13:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by Flying Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you seem to be the only guy she trusts, you seem to be in with a good chance. The best relationships start with a mutual respect for each other which you already have. Be bold. Let her know how special she is to you. You don't have to be physical about it. Tell her she means a lot to you and see how she reacts. It seems that she may just be nervous of letting go. I'm afraid there's only one way of finding out, but I feel you already know that and just want someone to confirm that you should go for it. Go on. You've nothing to lose.You can't carry on for ever feeling like this. It's make or break time! I wish you luck and wish I could know the outcome.
2007-08-23 13:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to switch gears to build up the attraction. Stay away from the "friends talk" and start being more flirty.
You also need to be less comfortable and safe. As long as she is comfortable being your friend then that is all you will ever be. Do something crazy and fun to "wow her". You really need to hit a home run so that she starts thinking of you in a different light. Slowly build up the passion levels until she can't help but want you.
There is a risk in all this. It could backfire and ruin your friendship. Make sure you can handle this before you go for it.
2007-08-23 13:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by Get Your Ex Back 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how she feels. I used to feel that way and the reason why is becuase i seen my friends have bad relationships and marriages. I was always afraid of going through those feelings. But, be honest with her but don't scare her ask her why she feels that way. Show her your interested by asking subtle questions and do things for her as if you were her boyfriend. Always ask What do you think? that shows her you care about her opinion and never criticize her ideas. Maybe shes not self confident? in any way never push yourself onto her. It sounds like she is not confident in her self. And that's not a bad thing just keep her trust.
2007-08-23 13:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. what a little while
but while your waiting
make shure she knows that she is the only one that you are interested in
don't dump out all your feelings for her out at once.
slowly
complement how beautiful she is from time to time
truly listen to her.
ask her how her day is going.
slowly and slowly
she will see how good of a guy you are and she will totally be your boyfriend.
mention to her that you cant believe that those guys hurt her. and that they were jerks. and that she deserves better. look into her eyes, and make sure you let her know that if you were her boyfriend. that you would do nothing to hurt her.
2007-08-23 13:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by ariel713@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her that you care. And tell her that you really care about her and you are not going to stop, that you will do anything and everything for her just so she can be with you. And that you will never hurt her ever, she is too precious for someone to treat her that way. Don't ever give up on her.
2007-08-23 13:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by Kenna Lyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hon..
Even though you like her..You have to respect her wishes, insofar as her not wanting a boyfriend right now..
But be there for her, when she needs you..It's better to love someone as a friend, than not at all..
Who knows..maybe eventually things will change, and you'll become more than friends.. It does happen!
Take care Sweetie..And try to enjoy the rest of the summer..
2007-08-23 13:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
express your feelings for her- but don't ask her out. I can understand her fear of being hurt
(heart ache can be painful enough to the point you think you just want to die!)
just stay friends for now- after a while, she may want more. Don't push her, you don't want to scare her.
Plus- another thing that girls like in their b/f's- we want our b/f to be our BEST friends, the foundation of a b/f.g/f relationship is friendship. Even the best matched up couples can't last without a strong friendship. it just won't last.
Good luck! I wish you and this girl the very best!!!
2007-08-23 13:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by blue_eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do right is exactly what she asked. Keep on being her best friend. Call her and always be there for her.
But don't push her into a relationship. And if the time comes tell her exactly how you feel, but only when it feels absolutely right.
2007-08-23 13:36:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it...if she's really your best friend she'll listen to you and you can work something out. Never be afraid to go for what you want...chances are she's actually waiting on you to ask her out and that's why she hasn't dated anyone else. And if she doesn't want to date, then you can still be friends.
2007-08-23 13:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by ncshygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋