Visting A Very Sick Friend?

Question

I'm visiting a very sick, terminally ill friend tomorrow accompanied by some co-workers.

What do you say to someone that's battling brain cancer? He won't get well. Any advise would be so much appreciated.

Answer 1

Tell him how much you have appreciated him in your life and what he has done to make your life better. This is always good to tell someone who is going to die. They need to know that they were appreciated for who they were and that they will be missed because of all they did for you and others.

Answer 2

JUst be your self, and try to be in good spirits.
You dont want to go in there and make him feel any more deppressed than he is. Let him know you all are thinking of him and have him in your prayers.
Tell him how good it is to see him, and sit around and reminse about past (funny) times you guys have had with him, to cheer him up and avoid talking about death, or medical issues, as Im sure he has heard enough of this already, talk to him about current events and things going on localy, the world has not stoped since he has been in there so he has probably missed out on some things, and it will help him to talk about normal thigs. Before you leave, ask him if there is anything he needs or wants,(like maybe some magazines you bring him later insuring another trip), food, newspapers, personal items, crossword puzzles, an extra pillow, whatever... this will let him know that you care and are concerned and will make him feel good that you might want to see him again, most people try to advoid people who are sick and dyeing, and it will make the visit seem less "finale"

Answer 3

My father died of cancer of the pancreas in Feb 2007. The best thing I can tell you, talk to him like you always have... like a friend. When someone knows they are about to die believe it or not, the also think about the ones that they will leave behind. Let that person know what a friend he or she is to you, but also "just talk to the friend like a normal person would". Let that person know that he or she is still a human being that is able to carry on a converstaion. Yes, the person is sick, but give them the credit and dignity that they deserve. You can do that, but acting the way you always have been when around them. Make them laugh, and let the share stories.

Answer 4

i myself having just had a brain tumor removed and now going through treatments all i can say is that what i liked to know is that there is someone there just to talk with.
there is not much to say or do, but just knowing that there are people who you can talk with and vent too is sometimes the best thing that can be given to someone who is not doing so well. a smile a hello and a loving touch is the best medicine.
just letting him know you are thinking about him is the best thing you can do. i wish you all the best and i hope that it goes well for you

Answer 5

i would like to recommend:

crossing the creek.com

it's very insightful.

i think the guy already knows who you are, and being yourself and acting normal is the best gift you can give him. no one knows for sure what tomorrow holds.

it's really awful having friends and loved ones standing around your death bed looking as if they're already at your wake. believe me. i've been there enough times and i beat the odds so far at least.

you can ask him if there's anything you can do for him and if he's allowed and able to eat, bring a favorite treat.

Answer 6

Be willing to listen to him. Give him news of work if he might want to hear. Let him know you care about him. Just be willing to sit, if this is appealing to him. If you see him tiring, take your leave (unless you are a very close friend). Follow his lead in what he is talking about.

Answer 7

i had a friend that was at death's door, i had my florist on speed dial, & guess what, she came through
make it personal, any thing, item, joke, between you guys
he'll like to hear, you look great/hot/
i love what you've done to this room
bring up something funny that happened @ the office, that everyone thinks is funny (even though it's really a dark time)
good luck

Answer 8

Well I know about this one. Cause I astrocytoma(brain tumor) The main things is treat him like you always have. Don't pity him or feel sorry for him.Just talk and be there for him. Theres nothing particual to say you just know wat to say

Answer 9

You need to tell him how much he meant to you and the impact he made on your life. Tell him you are sorry. And tell him you will never forget him. It is hard. Be strong.

Answer 10

Everything on earth is bounded by THE WILL OF GOD. In the case of your friend, as I say to my prayer always THY WILL be done and not my will. Thus, the suffering of your friend is an offering to the suffering of THE LORD JESUS CHRIST who continue to be re-crucified in heaven and so it lessens and soothes the pain of THE RE-CRUCIFIED LORD JESUS CHRIST. And additionally, the suffering of your friend can be offered to THE LORD JESUS CHRIST as your friends cross so that THE RE-CRUCIIFIED LORD JESUS CHRIST in heaven will be at least be comforted for a moment by giving HIS cross to your friend and thus, relieving the painful and heavy cross from THE LORD JESUS CHRIST. And in this manner, your friiend is actually in glory as your friend partakes of the honor and glory of the suffering servant. Likewise, it will be the spiritual works of your friend as a deposit of the spirit so that in the kingdom of heaven to come it is guaranteed that your friend will be born in the spirit and thus, will be transformed from a man into an angel-like.Thus, it is opportunity in your visit to pray for these things of offering your friends pain and suffertings to THE LORD JESUS CHRIST. THANK GOD; FEAR GOD; PRAISE GOD; GLORIFY GOD; HONOR GOD; LOVE GOD AND WORSHIP GOD.