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Question

Would you as a parent? Be mad to have found condom's lying around in your son/daughter's room or something? I want to go prepared but I'm worried my parents will just go up the wall bout it.. Thanks..x

I'm 14 and a Male.. Forgot to mention that vital detail xD

Answer 1

better to know that your kid is trying to be safe than to be in denial!

Answer 2

Well, it depends on a few things like my kid's age and whether or not the condoms were used (gross). I think if my daughter were your age I'd be pissed as hell. If she were older then at least I would know she was being careful. I can't be a hypocrite because I was 16 when I lost my virginity and was always sure a condom was involved. I also don't regret my first sexual experience and still care deeply for my first. Good for you for being responsible and having condoms handy, but i personally think 14 is too young. wait a couple of years. i'm no old fart, so don't think i'm being old fashioned. i really just don't think 14 year olds are totally aware of the amount of responsibility sex entails. i'm sure you've had sex ed class and lectures from your parents, but adults tell you these things because they're true. if you don't want your parents to find your condoms, then put them away somewhere where they won't find them.

Answer 3

At 14, I would be MAD at my son! My parents freaked out when my brothers were 17 and 18.

Condoms can break, girls get pregnant... and 14 or 15 is too young to be a parent. How are you gonna finish high school paying child support. Drop out and make $7 for the rest of your life. Have your parents pay for you until you turn 18? Think about ALL of the consequences.

Abstinence is the only solution for anyone who is not married! I know it is not what you want to hear but it is the truth.

Answer 4

I guess I would be upset to think that my daughter was having sex. I want her to be safe and prepared, but I also do not want her to have sex at all until she is married. I know there is a Strong possibility that will not happen, so in that case I would feel better knowing she was safe about it. She is only 2 1/2 months old, so I have a while before I have to worry about that one. For now it's poopy diapers and learning to roll over, sit, crawl, walk and talk!

Answer 5

If my child was 14 years old and I found condoms in their room yes I would freak out. At 14 you're still a child and are WAY WAY too young to be having sex...as cool as you might think it is now...it's not.

I do agree with some other posts that I would rather know than be lied to, and I would also want my child to be using protection...but 14 is still too young.

Answer 6

I was unfortunatly having sex at 13 and always had condoms on me (I'm a girl). one day me and my mom where talking and I just showed her my stash. She shook her head and said make sure you use them, she was alittle upset that I was having sex but was more glad that I had protection. Latter that month she took me to the doctor and got me on the pill along with the use of a condom.(I was 15 when we did this) when my brother was 16 she came to me and asked me if he was having sex since he hung around more girls than guys and to find out if he had any condoms in case he was and if he didn't she wanted me to give him some to be sure that he was safe also. She found it easier to not fight with us about it and rather for use to be safe.

If you think that the time is comming be sure to have condom. But I think that you are way tjo young and shouldn't as I regret starting so soon. I jam now 21 and wish that I would have waited it only complicated my life to have sex so soon.

Answer 7

At least you are thinking about safe sex. BUT are you ready to be a father??? the condome could break. You are too young to have sex, wait a few more years. You have the rest of your life...........I'm a parent and would not be happy but at the same time, not mad either.

Answer 8

I gave my 14 year old condoms and we discussed sex. I don't want to pretend he's not interested, but I want him to have the facts. I also want him to be prepared. I told him that, too. I stressed the facts about AIDS and STD's. I also told him I hope he waits, but if he's thinking about it, to please come talk to me. Hopefully he will. I'll keep my fingers crossed.

Can you approach your parents about sex? Give it a try. You might be surprised at their response. Parents today are not like parents from the 60's and 70's. They might appreciate you bringing up the subject so they didn't have to.

If you don't want your parents to see your condoms, then hide them in your pillowcase.

Good luck to you.

Answer 9

uuummm if my son or daughter was 14 YES! and what are you doing at 14 having sex? im 20 and i never had sex until i was 19..what the heck is wrong. FINISH SCHOOL, because you know whats going to happen. your going to get a girl pregnant..dont say it wont happen..look at all the guys out there who are suffering because of this. { and girls } finsih school, get a job, find the right girl, start a family. YOUR 14 YEARS OLD! OMG!

Answer 10

I would be very concerned, but would try not to totally freak out about it and reiterate my concerns over what we had talked about in the past.

Idealistically, I want him to wait until he is older, like 18 and on his own and even married, but not sticking my head in the sand to how things are in the world today.

You are only a kid/teen for a few years, a very brief period of your life and have the rest of your life to have sex. Enjoy hanging out with your friends, pursuing activities you like and get a good education which will be the foundation for what type of jobs you are able to get when you do move out on your own and whether you go on to college.

I have already had "the talk" with my son about when the time does come and if he choses to engage in sexual activities these things he needs to realize

1) It is his responsibility, not the girl's to ensure protection against pregnancy and STDs.

2) If the activity does result in an unwanted pregnancy, the girl could terminate it legally without even telling him about it. If she did and decided to keep the baby, his childhood is over. As a parent to-be himself, he would have get a job, pay child support and is expected to have an active role in the child's life.

At the daycare he went to as a child at an in-home daycare that he had been in since he was a baby had a son that was a few years older than him and played video games with him quite a bit got a girl pregnant at a very young age and went from being a carefree kid/teen to full blown responsibility of getting a job on top of going to school, helping take care of his baby and never having time to spend with his friends or participate in any extra-curricular activities.

3) That when a girl says "no" she means no.

4) The legal dangers of any sort of sexual activity a girl that is even the slightest bit younger than he is.

For now, my son is 14 and chosen to enjoy hanging out with his buddies, participating in football and involved in video production.

Answer 11

This is an easy situation to avoid, you're too young to have sex, wait until you're 18, legal and more mature. If you have to worry about your parents then you're too young to have sex. Even if you use a condom you can still get a girl pregnant, just wait until you're a little older.