Hey, i havent been able to do much as a bridesmaid (her mom planned the whole thing pretty much, and as much as i asked, she didnt have anythig for me to do) We're pretty young and since i am poor i am having my parents get the present and it has my name on it. (i could barely afford the dress and i know she understands!) Anyway, i wasnt able to go to the bridal shower because it was last minute and i had already made plans to be out of town so i didnt get her anything then, either. My question is, is there something special i can get her on wedding day? Like make a basket of stuff or anything? What would go in it? I've never been to a wedding since i was like 10 (i'm 20 now) so i dont really understand how it all works.
Also: one of the B.M.'s made a "bach. party" for her 3 weeks ago and didnt invite ANY of the other bridesmaids (not even the m.o.h.) just random friends of the girls. Is there anything we can do after the rehersal for her as a group or do we just suck it up?
2007-08-23 12:24:50 · 16 answers · asked by amy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just being there for your friend is the best thing you can do. The fact that you've accepted being a part of her bridal party says a lot about your friendship. She knows that you all love her or else you wouldn't be a bridesmaid.
2007-08-24 05:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have a sleepover with all the bridesmaids the night before the wedding, she will probably be nervous so it will keep her mind off of things. As far as a present goes, you could make her a picture album of the whole wedding experience, try to get pictures from all the other girls and her family and put together a nice wedding scrapbook, you could even leave a few pages blank in the back for wedding day photos! Or if you want to get her a basket, you could fill it with things that she may need on the wedding day, like cute tissues in case she crys, deodorant, lotion, perfume, mints, gum, cute little bridal stuff ...all the stuff she might forget, just to make her day easier. Good luck!
2007-08-23 12:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend knows that you don't have a lot of money to spare, then she will be happy with any gift you give her. I'm getting married next year and specifically told my maids they didn't need to get me anything. They're already buying the dresses and spending the day with me!
If the rehearsal is early then you can take her out but I wouldn't recommend it. You're all going to have a long day with the wedding and want to be well rested!
If you want to get her a basket of stuff w/o spending too much that would be really thoughful and I'm sure your friend would appreciate it. You could do like a "Newlywed Survival Kit" (my sis in law got something like this.) Depending on how close you are, it could include a variety of things. You could go to Spencers and get stuff like flavored lube or Kama Sutra game or handcuffs for their honeymoon. If you want to go funny, you could include stuff like phone numbers to take out or delivery restaurants for those nights she doesn't want to cook or Some breathe-right strips in case her new hubby snores.
If you don't get a chance to take her out before the wedding, I would suggest waiting until about a month after the wedding and getting the girls together for a dinner. The one BM was pretty rude to not invite anyone else, but don't let it spoil your enthusiasm for your friend's day, just work around it!
2007-08-27 11:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by iheartbayley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really up to you. So, far, I do not believe you have anything to feel guilty about. You could not make the bridal shower, but you let her know. You are taking a wedding gift. You should not have to 'shower' her with multiple gifts and if she is a friend she will understand that you can't afford it anyway. As far as the bachelorette party you missed...that was very unthoughtful of the person who threw it to not invite the people the bride cares about...which would obviously include her bridesmaids! You couldn't have known about it. If you want to get her something else..I would do something creative...like have a plain t-shirt printed with mrs. __?__ or dig up an old snapshot of her and her beau from their older days when they just met and put it in a cute frame. do something that she will remember or will stand out but not cost alot. Maybe prepare a "Big Day' kit with little oil blotter makeup pads, lip gloss, travel size hairspray and an airplane bottle of vodka (is she 21?) I don't know, get creative and try to have fun!
2007-08-23 12:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by snowbunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get her something for the big day, I would suggest something like a pampering basket (she'll appreciate it after all the craziness of the day!), or if there's something she and her husband could use on their honeymoon, that could be good as well. (If they're going somewhere tropical, maybe a basket with sunscreen, after-sun gel or aloe, some things like that?)
I like the idea of wanting to do something for the bride, just don't get too crazy on the night of the rehearsal - remember, she'll need to be good and rested for her wedding day! After our wedding rehearsal, my bridesmaids and I went to the hotel where our guests were staying (I'd reserved a room) and just spent a lazy night there, soaking our feet in the hot tub and hanging out. Just having a girls' night might be something she would appreciate. It's hard to say exactly, since I don't know her! But that's just my two cents. Good luck!
2007-08-23 12:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and all the bridesmaid and MOH taking the bride out is a great idea! (as long as you are not out to late the night before the big day.)
I also like you idea of putting together a gift basket. I got the most wonderful gift basket for my wedding. It had 2 wine glasses, 2 cloth napkins, and a bottle of wine. It doesn't have to be expensive, just pick a theme and put things that go with that theme. Go to crafts stores, home goods stores and even dollar stores for some good ideas.
Good luck!
2007-08-23 12:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the best gifts you can give is the gift of stress relief. You can do this by offering to pick up relatives from the airport and take them to their hotels. Or driving out of towners to the rehearsal dinner or brunch. Picking up mother of the bride clothes at the drycleaner, or running to the drugstore for pantyhose and nail polish. Pick up takeout food for the family who just dropped in to say hello. All those little tasks that eat up the day.
One of the best gifts I got was the gift of righteous anger. My centerpieces showed up partially wilted. My most experienced girlfriend stepped in as she saw me start to fume. She said, "If you promise to stop thinking about it right now, I will go yell at them for you." And she did. :-) Having her yell at them took so much tension away that I didn't think about the centerpieces until the reception was over, and by then I was too tired to care. If you've got the guts and the diplomacy skills, being the bride's bulldog can be the greatest gift you can imagine. All of the bridesmaids can make that offer and let her know that you will help her deal with the details and the hard stuff (inebriated relatives, wild kids running amok, surly waiters). The bride will love you forever, more so than any gift basket.
2007-08-23 13:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to make a basket make one for the night of the wedding or for the honeymoon. You can put diffrent things in them like wine,champaine,glasses,lotions,candles,stuff like that! Stuff you would want for a romantic night with your hunny. You could even get most of the stuff at the dollar store! Just put some thought into! As for the night before Its really up to what she wants to do talk to her and ask her what she would like to, If willing you could go out or even stay in and help with last min details there are always last min details. Good luck and have fun!
2007-08-23 13:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by RaylizD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever comes from your heart will be special to her no matter what it is.
About the Bach party take her to a strip club if she's into that or just go out for drinks without inviting that specific B.M
2007-08-23 13:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by ablockgurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing that I did for a friend was give her an "emergency bride kit" including things like tape, mini lint roller, safety pins, bobby pins, nylons, clear nail polish and a few other emergency items that she might need on her wedding day. It never hurts to give something to the groom like an extra pair of black socks, mints, handkerchief, lint roller, etc. (see link below for some items you might want to include)
As for a bridesmaid night, you could arrange a small dinner party with romantic movies, board games, or just lots of girl talk.
2007-08-23 16:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋