I don't want to buy a ring. I know I'm stingy, but I like saving up money. Is it okay if I just ask her to marry me without proposing to her? I don't want to lose her. I figured that if I ever wanted to spend the money for the ring, I could spend it on a PS3 or something I'll enjoy.
2007-08-23 12:23:07 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
LOL. If you don't want to loose her, think about what will make her happy, not what will make only you happy.
2007-08-23 16:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fair enough that you want to save money but truely if you love this girl she's more important than a god damn ps3! bloody hell give it a while and the damn thing will come down in price, where really no value can be placed on the love a woman has for a man,a ring is a symbol of your love if you propose without a ring it says I love you but I just can't be bothered making an effort, being an engaged girl with no ring I can tell you that it's embarrassing trying to explain why I don't have a ring, it's cause my fiance is broke, but I feel sorry for your girl trying to explain that her fiance had the money but was lazy and would rather spend it on himself! it's the most irresponsible, lazy, self centred and as the other answerers said selfish thing that I have heard! bag me out report me I don't care that's the truth!
2007-08-23 12:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You dont want to lose her? I am sorry but you are going to. She might say yes now (if she is silly) but it wont take long for her to see thru your selfishness and stingyness. Then she will dump you and find a man who truely treasures her and thinks she is worth a beautiful ring.
I am speaking from experience here. I love my partner...we are planning to marry in July next year....but he never proposed. He is kind of low key....and I have no ring. I am starting to realise I probably wont be getting a ring. We are just falling into marriage. I know it sounds superficial that us girls all want an engagement ring...and maybe it is, but no more so than you not wanting to waste money on a ring, but being perfectly happy to purchase a PS3. An engagement ring and being proposed to with one is most girls dream and probably the most special gift you could ever give her.
Not having a ring makes me really sad. It makes me feel that he doesnt think I am worth it. I am sure she will feel the same way....Even tho I know he loves me and I know he thinks that rings are a waste of money and they do nothing for him. I wish he could understand that it is symbolic, and something I would wear for the rest of my life. A token of his love.
Unfortunately I dont think he will ever wake up to that. And I have now decided that I wont marry without a ring and proposal. So next time he brings up the wedding. I am going to just say, forget about it.
Dont be like him. If you love her, buy the ring.
2007-08-24 10:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fact is, fella, if you're attitude is "why spend the money on a symbol of our blessed union when I can spend it on a PS3 that I can enjoy" you should think twice about proposing at all. When you really love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them, you shouldn't be thinking about material things like money and game consoles. If your reason was you personally don't like rings or you didn't have enough money, you could propose without a ring and substitute with a really nice speech and a romantic dinner. As things stand, PPBBBHHHT! That's the sound of me blowing a raspberry at you, sir.
2007-08-23 12:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
not to be rude but it sounds like you are very selfish. I could understand if you didn't have the money but to spend on yourself instead of thinking how your girlfriend would feel makes me wonder if you are ready to make a commitment to care, love, cherish, & honor your wife. A ring is just a symbol to show your love & affection for her, A preparation for your marriage. you really dont have to buy her a ring as long as you love her. don't you think it is approperiate to buy her something for the special occasion >this is a special moment for her.i really do not know you and certainally not judging you but really Buy her something even if is small and costly. Then ask yourself why you really want to marry her because if it is not for the right reasons you both or one of you will end up misserable & trust me you will not work. Unless you are really ready for a LIFE LONG COMMITMENT, makeing a voul to your wife is like makeing a voul to your kids when you become a father. Once you are in you are in!
2007-08-23 17:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by The Brat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is ok to ask her without the ring but trust me on this she will be expecting a ring. Sooner or later she will get her ring or you will lose her.
Imagine being in her position as people ask to see her ring and she has to reply "I'm sorry my fiance and I are saving up for a PS3... something that he will enjoy."
If you aren't willing to make this little sacrifice then you probably shouldn't be getting married. Its quite selfish.
2007-08-23 17:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by Roxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first i was going to say yes because a ring doesnt symbolize the love u two share, but after reading the full question, i would say HECK NO!!...thats just selfish of u...how would u feel if u she spent money on girlie stuff than a birthday gift for u...pretty f'd up huh? yeah thats what i thought....i hope u re think your actions before u act on them...and if u choose to do it your way...i hope she says no because ur only thinking of u and ur wants and needs...how do u think she'll react when u tell her, "oh baby i didnt buy u a ring cuz i spent it on ps3 games and crap but can u still marry me"?...i dont think she'll appreciate that or like it...so maybe u wanna re think this
2007-08-23 12:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by Troy & Aliya's Mommy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How about you don't ask her to marry you at all! Stingy men like you end up in divorce...just ask my dad! That is so selfish of you. An engagement ring is sentimental. How would you feel if she did some selfish, stingy, things to you? You would probably hate it. You should be nice and not be that way or you're going to lose her regardless. And don't be crazy and say she isn't going anyway because she loves you...thats just stupid and naive. She'll leave if you keep being stingy. And if you do it anyway without a ring, I hope she says no.
2007-08-23 12:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by 2 Legit 2 Quit 2 · 8⤊ 1⤋
That's a selfish attitude. A ring is part of the proposal, as is setting a date afterward. If you're not into buying a ring it's unlikely you'll want to support and wife and children. You don't want to be a husband. What do you want?
2007-08-23 17:35:59 · answer #9 · answered by paperpenandtea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she marries you, she's CRAZY! Are you even thinking about what SHE might want, Mr. Selfish?! My suggestion is to go to QVC.com and buy a Diamonique ring that you think she would like...you can get a beautiful one for less than $50 and use that to propose. She may never ask if it's real, but you should probably tell her it's not, but that you don't feel like you can afford a real one right now. If you don't even want to buy a RING, I can imagine what you're going to say about paying for a wedding. No girl REALLY wants to go the the courthouse to get married!
2007-08-23 12:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by avalon1 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely, but the reasoning is kinda self-fish..I can see why you don't want to buy a ring because you're saving up for a house or you want to pay for your education, but for a PS3? Come on now..
2007-08-23 13:58:06 · answer #11 · answered by baebeecakes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋