I'm pregnant and due in October. For the past 3wks my boyfriend has decided to acknowledge that the baby is his. But for the other 7months of my pregnancy he hasn't helped me at all. He has contributed $18 to buying things for the baby, I've spent hundreds. Now he and his stepmom think that I should let him claim our child on his tax returns. Then we can "split" the money that the baby brings. I think that I should get to claim him myself and keep the money, because I'm the one that will be providing full time for him, and I've already put all the money into him. Please understand it's not about the money to me, I just don't think that the father should benefit in any way right now. Opinions are appreciated.
2007-08-23 11:37:30 · 4 answers · asked by Little_Bit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I gotta say that the really sad thing here, is that he is already asking you to claim an unborn child on his taxes.
Tell him and his mother to f**k off.
And yes, it IS about the money, your money, money that you deserve to have to spend on you and the child. Children are expensive, be prepared.
Question though, this guy, for 7 months, basically accused you of cheating on him by refusing to acknowledge that the baby was his (short of immacualte conception, you would have had to slept with someone else), but he is still yoru BF?
Worst case scenario, give him his 18 dollars back, and let the court tell him how much to pay monthly in child support.
2007-08-23 19:34:12 · answer #1 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT let him claim the baby on his tax returns! You are the primary parent, you should get the credits and deductions. Also, MAKE SURE you list him as the father on the birth certificate, or else you will not be able to take him to court (if need be) for child support, even if you have to stall him on the answer of letting him claim the baby until AFTER he signs the birth certificate! He may not want to take part in the baby's life, but you should make sure that he is at least providing for him/her financially. Remember, you have at least 18 years to care for this precious angel, however its not cheap, so even though you say its not about the money, you should not have to deal with the financial burden on your own. Just remember that ! Good luck, motherhood is the best thing!!
2007-08-23 11:52:33 · answer #2 · answered by SHAWN'S MOM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. If he hasn't been there to support you, he needs to butt out now. Do not give the baby his last name! By doing so, you might be giving him the right to claim the child every other year....that's how it works when arents get divorced...one parent claims the child one and the other parent the next. You should do some more research on it. Sounds like he already has plans to be another dead-beat dad.
2007-08-23 11:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you--let him prove he will be there for you and the baby and maybe he can claim next year.
2007-08-27 03:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by happy@50 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋