if someone could asnwer this weird question then please help me out?

Question

Im going into highschool and i noticed in middle school alot of people go out becuase that person is hot?

so im wondering if in high school, people change and get more mature and acually look into people who maybe aren't so hot.

i know looks aren't everything but most of the time it is? yes no?

some people say that starting in about 11th grade its aobut whos smart, ect... and not all about who's hot.

and if they do change.. when? what grade?


weird question i know but if you could help me out

thanks

Answer 1

Well it really just depends on the person. Some people are more mature than others and look beyond the looks while others only want to date hotties. To tell you the truth, I think that most people are more into hot than anything else in high school. Plenty of them look for other traits as well, like intelligence, ambition, kindness, etc, but if they just aren't good looking they probably won't give a great person a chance. But there are always the few who do not care what people look like. It's unfortunate how things are.

Answer 2

I hate to break it to you, but I think it only gets worse as you get older. I thought college would bring on the maturity, but boy was I sadly mistaken. Your best bet is to seek out those people who share the same interests, hobbies, morals, and values, and the rest will follow. By the way, most of the people that I thought were so Hot in high school haven't done much -- the star football player is strung out on drugs; the prom queen married some wealthy guy and thought she'd live happliy ever after, but he eventually left her for a younger woman; the school brain lost his shirt to the Enron controversy -- what does that tell you about how Hot people really are -- they seem luke warm now.

Answer 3

There is no correct answer but the one you could get yourself.

At high school, hormones are everywhere. Attraction is physical (someone looks hot) and chemical (one could make a good match in terms of emotional or mental match).

So you should be looking for the person who is "hot" for you in physical and chemical grounds.
What I want to say is that maybe someone is to hot BUT when you talk to him/her there is no connection or common interests so you are not going to have a good long term relationship unless you set rules in middle grounds where both are able to enjoy time together even when sometimes one of the two should be doing a sacrifice in certain times.

In my experience is more important to have "chemical" connection rather than just physical. Physical connection only last a short period of time.

Answer 4

There is really no set time when people finally realize that looks aren't everything. There are some people i know who still don't get it and i am 32. It is actually a part of our instinctual nature to go after beauty. If we still lived in the wild the most beautiful people (muscular, nice healthy hair, etc, etc) are generally the healthiest and most wanted mates as they would produce the best offspring. Eventually most of us do realize that no matter how attractive someone is when you grow old with someone it better be someone you enjoy spending time with and talking to because looks fade but love never does.

Answer 5

Man, it's high school. Everybody is so concerned about how they appear to others, how they are perceived by the masses, that I don't even know if it's about "hotness" or "smartness", really. It's about popularity.

In my experience, whoever "everyone" thinks is attractive, will be the most sought after. For example, there was this junior varsity cheerleader I knew who was about 7 ft tall, with this huge head. She looked exactly like a lollipop with arms. I mean, to me, she was one of the oddest shaped, weirdest looking chicks in school (go figure she was a cheerleader), but the moment she started dating the varsity wrestling team captain (who by the way so short he only came up to her navel), everyone thought she was "so cute" and "so pretty". I mean, how does that happen?

Dating and attraction is a phenomena driven by the high school masses. No one wants to be different, so everyone will collectively agree on something just to fit in and not be shunned. So it's really your choice. Date a girl or guy you truly want to be with or let the horde pick your mate.

Answer 6

People start to change the minute they walk into high school,some want to be hot others popular,smarter etc etc but for those who are afraid they tend to act as if they aren't and so on.My best advice would be for you to stop thinking about those types of change and start thinking about what your going to do in the future after high school.Getting your self set this way and just being you will help you more in the long run.Look around your neighborhood and see those who walk,do you want to do that when your older? Or do you want to have what you want? the thing is to stop worrying about others and what they think and think about what you want.Then you'll try your best in school and plan to succeed and will.

Answer 7

This is your opportunity to be a non-conformist and hang out with and date whomever you want, no matter what they look like. Go for it! Be brave!
What I hated about high school: Everyone cared so much about what other people thought of them, even if those people were not your friends.
When you get older, you realize that life isn't all about who's hot and who's not. Unfortunately, most teens are only concerned with who is looking at them and are they wearing the "right" clothes.
In the real world, that's a bunch of baloney.

Answer 8

Ya' know, sadly, people of all ages are fixated on appearance. Appearance will always be a factor....but it isn't the only trait people look for.

In college, at least, looks still matter. But its also about how exciting a person is. Is he/she the type of person who makes plans and has fun........who is active and who others know they can find a little adventure just by being around them? Can they have fun on their own? Or is he/she the type of person who stays inside until they're invited to something? Do they always need others to have a good time?

An active hottie is more attractive than a dull hotter.

Answer 9

No. People who just want to go out with the "hottest" person will always do that. Most people don't change. I know that is probably something you didn't want to hear, but it's the truth. The few people who do end up changing only start changing in their 20's or 30's(sometimes their 40's). They won't change in high school.

Answer 10

hate to tell you but a lot of people will always date based on the people what people look like. Even into thier 70s. The good news is that some people stop caring what the group thinks in High school and they date someone not based on smarts or looks but personality in general. Its all about the maturity level of te person in question.

on a side note though..a relationship without any attraction isnt going to work at all.