2007-08-23 10:27:02 · 6 answers · asked by jujujuli l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You feel how you feel, and no one can tell you that you "should" feel otherwise. Even within families there are folks with whom we are really close and still others that we barely know....that seems to be a common dynamic. I'm sure that though you may not feel especially broken up about it, you nonetheless empathize with those in your family who are more closely affected by the loss. There is after all,a blood connection to you whether you knew her well or not. The same will probably be true of your children's children when your parents expire. Comfort each other as best you can and be available to listen when the active mourners need to express their grief. That's all anyone can ask of you....the rest takes care of itself.
2007-08-23 10:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't feel bad. If you two weren't close, you cannot make yourself feel sad. However I would encourage you to celebrate her life. Talk your great-grandma's children or grandchildren. Passing down her legacy is important so your relatives are not lost to time. Ask them for some information and stories and put it in a scrapbook or journal. It is important as you get older and have children that you pass on your history to your children, and your children's children. You can grow very close to your relatives by taking an interest in your family. They will be flattered and probably appreciate it. Take care!
2007-08-23 17:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by K Jak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably will feel bad for not having known her well. But otherwise it's hard to conjur up feelings for a person who is ultimately a stranger who you were not close to
2007-08-23 17:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by jaimo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel what you feel. Dont try to fake it. Just be yourself. If anyone questions it just say you didnt know her that well.
2007-08-23 17:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to feel bad. but since she is your relative, the least you could do is buy her flowers and show your respect.
2007-08-23 17:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she was obviously old so it was bound to happen..but she was family so thats why u feel a connection..so yea its only normal to feel sad..
2007-08-23 17:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋