is it bad to want...???

Question

is it bad to want a baby at my age im only 16 almost 17
and right now for some reason i want a baby really badly
me and my boyfriend have agreed on kids but not
sure when but for some reason i just want one right now...
is that bad to want 1 at my age?

i already have a pet and i care for it
but it just isnt enough...wats wrong with me?

Answer 1

I would say you are a little young especially if you live under your parent's income which you probably do if you are 16. Ask yourself these things and if you can not answer yes to all of them then you are too young and not ready at all for kids.

Does your boyfriend want a baby right now and would he stick around to help raise the child or at least pay child support?
Do you drive or have transportation to get to doctor appointments for yourself and check ups for the baby once it is born?
Do you currently have health insurance that would cover a baby, or can you afford the cost of health insurance on your child-CHIP might be your only option, or can you afford the medical bills just to get things like shots and monthly examinations?
Can you pay for the baby without any govenrnment aid or help from your parents for the basics like food, diapers, medicine if they get sick, wipes, lotions, clothes, toys, carriers, etc....
Do you work and make over $25,000/year or do both you and your bfs income = >$50,000/year? Just so you know that is barely enough for two people to live on but extremely difficult to provide care for a baby as well.
Would you be able to have a babysitter or pay for day care during the time you go to school?
Do you have any career goals that would be interupted by the 24/7 care of a baby?
Would the responsibility of a baby make your current responsibilities impossible-ex: taking care of the pet you already have, going to school, paying bills, going to work?
Do you live with your parents? If so would they let you stay there with a baby?
If they won't let you live with them can you afford to live on your own or be able to live with your bf?
Can you handle working your life around that of your baby's?...This includes waking up in the middle of the night, not going out with friends whenever you want, and can you handle the thought of possibly losing this bf and not having a guy to go out with for a while because a lot will run away when they find out you come as a package deal with a kid.

Answer 2

it's not "bad" persay, but just kind of dumb.

How about you go get a dog or a cat - a pet, that relies on you and needs you -- since I'm guessing that why you want a baby - to have a living thing that needs you to care for it, and also show it some love.

A baby is way too much responsibility -- and it's a crazy GIANT decision to make to have one - at ANY AGE!

Most people dont think of all aspects of having a child, finances, living arrangements, time -- how much time would you have to devote to the child, would you have to get a nanny? what about work - your career? what about plans you had for the future - college? Travel?

I'm gonna turn 23 next month, and no way am I ready for a baby. haha I joke and say "awe I want a baby - but maybe in 5yrs" haha...i just assume by then, i'll be married and have a good career --

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but if you're having sex at your age, be careful! use protection and birth control - dont just assume that you "wont" get pregnant if you don't use protection once -- even condoms arent 100%.

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i had an ex roommate who just assumed she couldnt get pregnant so she stopped using birth control - and her and her bf weren't even using condoms -- i know, dumb huh?! -- then a month later she got pregnant! I tried to talk to her about the option of abortion and she said she was against it being Catholic --- my response?

If youre so catholic why are you having premarital sex?

She was almost done with her Masters degree, she had been with her bf for almost a year - he even HIT her once - she told me...after that I was like -- just dump him! what are you doing?

But she kept the baby -- and now she is having twins?! And they are both poor, she doesnt have a job, her family is going to have to help her out a lot ---

but being a girl you really have to think about the situation youre in -- because even if youre with a guy who says he wants a baby -- ultimately it is YOU who will have the responsibility to take care of yourself and the baby.

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just really think this over, i cant stress it enough.

i think just deciding to have a baby without serious consideration about everything is so ridiculous - i cant believe thats still happening these days

Answer 3

Please get your head on straight.

Taking care of a baby at age 17 is not like taking care of a pet.

Do not let your boyfriend talk you into having a baby. His life will continue on without you, and you'll be left alone to care for the child.

All he wants to do is enjoy making it, not the actual fatherhood thing.

You are so much smarter than becoming a child having a child. Your question says so. You know it's a bad thing to want a child so young, otherwise, you never would have asked the question.

Answer 4

Please you don't need a baby at your age your still a young girl, and I'm sure your boyfriend is young too, I hate to say this but do you both have the money for this baby, plus you need a doctor for the little one, it takes alot of money, just think about it before you say I would like to have a baby. It is not like taking care of a pet. So think ok.

Answer 5

u are just way too young to think about a baby right now! i have 3 kids. 2 of them are teen-agers. and just when i thought i was pretty much done, well, now i have a 3 month old. my point being is that even at my age it's really hard to raise a kid. and u, my dear, are just a kid urself. u really need to get some of lifes experiences under ur belt b4 u can raise a child and teach them lifes lessons when u really don't know what they are yet yourself! be a kid and enjoy it, and when the time is right u will know it and have ur child then.

Answer 6

Get outside of your neighborhood. Travel overseas for a while. See the world and then ask yourself if you still want a child. You are WAY too young to just settle in life. This world is so huge and there is so much fun stuff out there. Go see it all first or as much as you can and then you can share all of that with your child. You will be able to give them a better perspective of this world. Different cultures and lifestyles. You want to be able to give your child the best life possible, well go get it for them!

Answer 7

BAD IDEA.
16 going on 17 is definitely too young.
I'm 16 myself and have a couple friends with children.
You may want them, but now is not the time.
I cannot stress this enough.
Trust me, you're not ready.
Take this time to enjoy your teenage years before rushing into adulthood and responsibilty. You do not get this time back.

Answer 8

its not a bad thing...its natural but I would suggest you wait till your much older. having a baby is a big responsibility. A baby takes up most of your time and money so I suggest you live and experience and learn more about life before you have a baby.

Answer 9

it's not bad to want a baby.
but at this age of yours?
im older than you by a year, i love kids, but to think of having one right now is a no-no.
that takes a lot of responsibility.
it's not just financial aspect, but also physical, emotional, too.
it's different from having a pet.
aren't u still studying?
i think you really have to think too many times before you opt to have a baby.
i must say, i hope u do the right thing.
that is, you wont regret doing it afterwards.

Answer 10

your age isnt that low for pregnancy.i hace seen many girls who got their 1st baby at their early teens.but here u have to take these notes into consideration b4 doing that:
1-u have to have a good(at least acceptable) finacial position to support the needs of your baby.
2-u must have reached a point in which percentage of divorce is very low.i mean mutual understanding and agreement.
3-u,lady,must have physical readiness for pregnancy.
4-u shouldnt c the world only through your eyes;does he like to have a baby,too?

i hope u give birth to a nice baby.
gud luck