Yesterday I ask Can a person in the military get in trouble for having and extra martial affair? I need to include details so that I can get a more accurate answer. First I have been with this solider for 10 years and didn't find out he was married until he got out just a couple of weeks ago. Unknowing I am the other women he was cheating with. He is official out of the military (after 7 yrs) but while he was in he received seperate housing pay and pay for being away from his spouse of which I didn't know he was getting. I didn't know he was married and we were engaged in Sept 2001. He kept telling me that he wanted to wait until he got out for good in case he didn't survive. It wasn't until his final pay stub that came in the mail that it indicated he was married.Can he still be punish by law and if so, how do I go about filling charges or who do I tell, where do I start.
2007-08-23 10:02:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
im not quite sure on that many soliders get married just for the money so he could get introuble with the army for geting money when he shouldnt have been getting in the first place and then he will owe the army alot of money it has happend before example soliders marry asian women then get stationed in america they leave the asian in america because that was her goal to go to america and he gets stationed overseas again he gets seperation pay and the military benifits of being married when he is able to see other women the military finds out and all that money he had he now has to pay back it happens alot
he can also get in trouble with his wife if she files for adultry during the divorce as well
im not sure what will happen to him because he is no longer apart of the army but i do know that if a solider or person owes the army money they will get it even if they are discharged
but please ask your self is the hate worth it to him i know you are verry hurt but is it really worth ruining someone elses life he may have been married to another women but he seems to love you alot
plus you dont really know all the details of how that other woman treated him or rather she was seing someone else too i mean how long has he ben reciving seperation pay a person can wait for someone but alot of times wile the cat is away the mouse will play she may have cheated on him too
military marriages are verry complicated for many i used to think this man was a complete dirt bag till i found out his wife was cheating on him wayy before he started cheating.
2007-08-23 12:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Honey Badger Doesnt give a Shat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cannot be punished in the military if he has been discharged from the service. Having an extramarital affair may be punished in the military depending on the circumstances. Additionally, if he was married he was likely entitled to the allowances he received, however he was obligated to provide support for his spouse. If she did not complain, he probably was. You just did not know about it. And in my opinion, you should not file charges or "tell" anyone. Chalk it up to a lesson learned and move on. He is not worth any more of your energy.
2007-08-25 08:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by floridaladylaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely. It is the 3rd largest crime committed in the Military. Contact his commander and JAG. But you must understand, once you make that phone call there is no turning back. His career and life will be ruined, dishonorable discharge and possibly jail time on top of whatever you win in the court room. He would have trouble getting a job bagging groceries and paying for food. Probably resort to welfare and free health care. Followed by drugs and alcohol, then he is a real burden to society and the economy. He either comes out of it clean and half a person or he dies. I don't know about you but my conscience would kill me. If you are blood thirsty and you want him to "hurt" as bad as you do then go for it. I suggest going to see a counselor first. They are free for Military spouses. Good luck and keep your chin up. Hopefully you guys will work it out.
2016-05-21 01:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he just seperated from active duty - he may very well still be in the Individual Ready Reserve and therefore subject to the UCMJ. You could ask at a post's Provost Marshal or JAG office - give them a call.
2007-08-23 10:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by Patriotic Libertarian 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Technically they could recall him to active duty an court-martial him but highly unlikely. He's a piece of crap and you need to move on. It's a ***** you wasted so many years of you life on him. Don't waste another minute. Good luck
2007-08-23 10:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes it is a break in the UCMJ It does not matter if you knew it at the time or not. It is not worth a stint in the brig or loss of rank. Cut your losses and move on
2007-08-23 10:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
based on your question history..you would be better off stop obsessing over this....you are a bitter person who cant let go..face it..you got burned and now have to find a way to get over it..sorry to sound brutal..but no one else is being honest about this to you like I am..
2007-08-23 10:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by allen2859 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
he will NOT be prosecuted, the military will not.care that he was separated.. as long as he was legally married he was entitled to BAH and Family Separation.
your only recourse is to break it off with him for being a lying bastard.
2007-08-23 12:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
punishable under the UCMJ while serving but now that he's out your out of luck.
2007-08-23 10:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋