I know that question probably isn't worded the best but I work in a small office and I am the "new person" having only been here for 6 months. I went to a person with a question that pertained to somethin she does in the office and she answered it. But another situation came up and she told me to do somethin that I was not told to do when I was trained for my position. So I went to the person that trained me and she told me to ask the staff attorney who works in the office. I did and a big ordeal came out of the situation. She ended up screaming at me in front of almost everyone in the office and I walked away. Now everyone acts like her raising her voice at me was no big deal and I'm pissed about it. I know I haven't been here as long as her but she is not my boss. I wouldn't think that my boss raising his voice at me would be right... Am i wrong?
2007-08-23 09:56:20 · 14 answers · asked by SARA 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
This incident is completely unacceptable in any work situation, boss or not.
This is worthy of a sit-down meeting with the company's HR department. Some type of apology is warranted, as well as the assurance that it won't happen again.
I wish you luck with this!
2007-08-23 10:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by Green is my Favorite Color 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's a pity this happened...
It's also difficult to give you sound advice since I never met the person(s).
Personally I think it's wrong, yelling at people, but... I've also made that mistake a few times at work.
The worst thing about a situation like this is that you don't really know why she got mad and that she doesn't understand what she did to you. It would be best if you could talk about it with her, without getting angry...
You could write a friendly (!) letter and tell that you don't understand why she got mad, that you'd really like to contribute to the team and that you'd like to get it all over with as soon as possible.
Maybe... It will be hard for her, and other collegues, to have a conversation about it.
If that's the case, stay proffesional and do your job as you should.
With a little bit of luck you'll find out how the organisation is run within a year, you'll know when to keep a low profile and when not. You'll also learn who's liking who and what may trigger each persons into anger. With a little bit of luck some collegues will see your point and... these can be your friends on the job.
If she... keeps nagging, she'll probably already have a bad name within the company and I wouldn't spend much energy on her anymore. If she doesn't, maybe you could voluntarily help her every now and then and work on your proffesional relation that way. Don't... overdo it.
One way or another, I hope the situation gets better.
2007-08-31 03:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Bart D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is inappropriate work behavior, and anyone who is telling you to deal with it isn't on the right track. If a boss yells, then you can deal with it. If it's a co-worker, there is something you can do about it. I'm sure that ignoring the situation would prevent the ruffling of more feathers, but if you plan to keep this job and demand respect (which is hard enough, being the new person), you need to nip this thing in the bud asap. Talking to someone in HR is a good idea. They are used to handling situations such as these, and should be a good mediator if you don't feel comfortable confronting the co-worker on your own.
2007-08-23 10:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by JackiePaper 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No, it is unprofessional and uncalled for and you have the right to be treated with dignity and respect, regarldess of how bad her day may be going.
Try to resolve the matter amicably by talking to your direct supervisor about the situation tomorrow and indicate that you are doing the best that you can but you are still on a learning curve and needed information that you were told to get from her by the person that trained you and you want to be a team player, but expect everyone else to play fair also and yelling at you for trying to do you job is demeaning and demoralizing and you need advise on how to clear up the matter with the staff attorney so you she will treat you and everyone else with courtesy and respect going forward.
2007-08-23 10:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No absolutely not. No one has the right to scream at you. I'd have walked away as well.
I worked in an office as the office manager and had two employees who did not get on. They would fight and raise voices even with clients in the office. I took them aside and told them to knock it off or one or both would no longer be employed with the firm.
Both needed their jobs and started acting like adults instead of children.
She should actually apologize to you if she had a shred of decency.
I'll bet everyone is ignoring it because this is what she's done before and they choose to ignore her.
2007-08-23 10:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by Choqs 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by walking away, but if she does it again complain about her screaming at you to your boss, this is the correct way of dealing with the likes of her. No on has to put up with that sort of behaviour in the workplace no matter how long you have been there . She needs to get a hold of herself and learn to control herself. keep your chin up and don't let the likes of her upset you.
2007-08-31 03:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she shouldn't have yelled at you in front of everyone that was very unprofessional. It doesn't matter if you where only there for three days she was wrong. You did the right thing by asking the question especially if you weren't trained in the manner that others do things. Remember your lesson taught to you in school. No question is ever a wrong question; no matter who your asking.
2007-08-30 16:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by change 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, there is no excuse for acting un-professional in the work place, although most of us do at one time or another. Stress !
However you should feel comfortable and safe at work.
I would stand my ground but be professional. Stay rational and calm, and most of all...don't let your voice get too loud nor should your words be harm-full...and try and have your chat away from others....GOOD LUCK !
2007-08-31 03:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by idez9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person who screamed at you was WAY out of line.
No one should ever even raise their voice at you at work, whether she/he be your boss or peer.
This person needs to be reported and written up.
It was VERY unprofessional.
2007-08-30 02:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but that seems like a pretty average office spat. Work can be stressful, people make misktakes, and it can piss people off. I wouldn't want to be screamed at either, but you guys all have a common goal, and tiptoeing around feelings isn't it.
2007-08-23 10:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by Tim 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋