What is the most challenging part of it all & how do we survive without killing each other, mom, dad, & teen. I'm only using "killing" as metaphorically. lol.
2007-08-23 09:47:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
One word...HORMONES! Now that my oldest daughter is almost 15 her hormones have settled down some and she is becoming a lovely young lady. But 12, 13 and 14 were horrible with so much drama...no body liked her, everybody liked her, she was too fat, too thin on and on :)
My mom gave me 2 tips to survive the teen years with my sanity intact...
1. pick your battles- what is really important to you as opposed to what can you you compromise on. She wants to dye her hair black-mom says No Way!
DD says how about a black streak.
Mom says ok but only over summer break.
Teaches her to compromise too and makes you look like you understand.
2. Communication- keep the lines open and let her know she can talk to you about anything and when she comes to you to talk make sure you make time to talk and answer her openly and honestly.
Remember...this too shall pass! The teen years will pass way to fast!
2007-08-23 12:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by girlzmommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that good communication is the ground of good relationships. Talk openly about your concerns, about what's good and acceptable and what is definitely not. My parents always insisted me - and my sisters- in the importance of having nice buddies as opposed to those people who cannot bring anything positive into our lives. Set rules, curfews and enforce them, if your teens don't obey, grounding is the option. Is just about having "responsible freedom" as my parents used to say. They were always like that, I used to think they were to strict but now that I have a baby girl of my own I totally understand, and I grew up to be just fine. Good luck, it's a terrible age!
2007-08-23 16:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. My dad told me to just not make a big deal out of things.
Teenage girls live in some weird fantasy world all their own.
My recommendation, start drinking heavily.
2007-08-23 16:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by Fester Frump 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Challenging is an understatement. Communication, communication, communication. For me, when talking doesn't work, because she is to busy rolling her eyes to listen, I will write her notes....it REALLY seems to be helpful, especially for my sanity, plus it doesn't make me come off as a nag.
2007-08-23 16:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by Frenchafied 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋