My husbands father married a girl who is younger than my husband, (she's 27), and she keeps on calling herself grammy around my 18 m/o son. It drives me crazy. My husband's mother died just 5 years ago, and he's still very upset about it. His new "step-mother" doesn't make any effort to see my son, any time she's seen him it was on holidays or when I invited her over. My husband doesn't want me to make a seen, but I can tell it really bothers him. What should I say?
2007-08-23 09:47:08 · 6 answers · asked by misty_dawn1100 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She does not make any effort to see your child..it trully is understandable..she would not feel for your son as much..besides it is good for you that she does not come around...anyway..you need to avoid her as much as you and your husband can...let them live their own life...and teach yor child to call her aunt...or by name..whichever you prefer..not to be disrespectful but to make it logical...
2007-08-23 10:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by SSK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you like your son to call her. She probably doesn't come around because she can tell that it is an uncomfortable situation. I am about to have step grand-children. It is a very uncertain situation from the grandparent's point of view. I am bold and asked if I can do certain things. The kids call me grammie and I don't mind, but if my son minded-I can assure you he would tell me. If she doesn't know that you don't like it, you can't blame her. Find an alternative name for her and send her a grandparents day card addressed to you father-in-law and her in the names you want the baby to call them. She is the person your father-in-law chose. No she isn't your son's mother, but five years is a long time to be alone. If he is happy, maybe you two could "cut her some slack" or at least talk about what makes you uncomfortable in a nice way and your relationship with her might be better.
2007-08-23 17:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by GrammieN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the sense of making an effort to see your son if you're not willing to accept her as part of the family. Technically, she is the step grandmother. You are more troubled by her age difference with your father in law. You should really ask yourself, why can't I allow this woman to love my child? Why can't I invite her over more often just so we could atleast be friends ? Your father in law made a choice that would make him happy, help him move on and fill his void and age is nothing but a number. Besides, grandparents are the best babysitters when you need a night off with your husband.
2007-08-23 17:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by lvchic_702 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'd say if you and your husband love his father you should respect his choice.You do not have to like it, but after 5 years ,please make an effort to accept her as a part of the family. I think your husband is concerned about the age difference.Unless your father-in-law suffers from diminished capacity just try to respect his decision.Ask yourself is he happy?Accepting his new wife does not minimize your love for his first wife.If his first wife loved her husband she would probably not expect him to live the rest of his life without companionship.Take care.
2007-08-23 17:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by gussie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, ur husbands father's a ***** for marrying somone younger than his own son.
2007-08-23 16:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by chezplz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she is married to grampa
2007-08-23 16:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by keezy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋