Hey you guys, dis is really pissin me off. I can take rejection, i swear i can. But my really close friend who i had a crush on for a while is doing my nut in. Every time i come to see him, he drags his sister out with us, sometimes she doesn't want to come. I' know he doesn't have those feelings for me, but i havent asked him out, and i dont plan to. I'm also not so desperate that i'll be forcing myself on him, and not so fragile that if he was to turn me down, i'd die and fall apart.I find it more humiliating that he has to bring her along to what..protect himself? Ridiculous. And now he's started doing nervous habbits, like biting his nails or chewing the side of his lip, yet when i talk about other guys he'll get selfishly jealous, like i dont want you, but i dont want your attention on any other guy. I need any tips anyone has, he's not interested, i accept that, but when he comes to see me..on his own might i add, i don't drag members of my family along. what do i do?!!
2007-08-23 09:40:07 · 17 answers · asked by lotus flower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow, i think you should talk to him about this and ask him wat does he really want
2007-08-23 09:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by dadumdeedoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
4get about the liking him thing 4 a second. Focus on his sister, next time he brings her along, point out that it's annoying, say it has nothing 2 do w/wanting to be alone w/him 4 a romantic reason, it's just annoying to go into a movie theatre w/him & his sister! Even make a point to ask the sister if she really likes comming along when they hang out, she'll most likly say no. After that, u might wanna talk to him about how u feel about him. Tell him that yes, u do have a little crush on him, but that doesn't mean ur going to pressure him into a relationship, it also doesn't mean that she is going 2 keep herself from seeing or talking about other guys just because of a little crush that will probably blow over soon anyway.
2007-08-23 09:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a couple different things, but bottom line is that he's nervous around you so he's bringing along someone else to ease his own tension.
It could be that he does have feelings for you, he's just not sure he wants to explore them, or that he knows you have feelings for him and doesn't want to destroy the friendship by hurting you if he doesn't reciprocate. He may just be confused and not know whether he wants to be more than friends or not.
You seriously need to talk to him and clear the air. For better or worse, you need to tell him that you like him, and don't want to ruin the friendship by dating but that his bringing other people along when you hang out is just bizarre and uncomfortable.
Let him know that you'll always be his friend and that you can accept that he doesn't have the same feelings for you (if that is infact the case!) but that you just nt him to be himself and stop feeling so nervous around you.
Hopefully he'll be able to tell you what's really going on with him, and you can move on without all the extra people tagging along.
Good Luck!
2007-08-23 09:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by firebugarts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u had it out with him? perhaps u should...it seems he is nervous of being alone with you? afraid of what he'll do? r u sure he doent have feelings for u? this is affecting your whole friendship...also if he has no feelings why be jealous of u talking to ohter guys? he needs to get his act together...next time he asks his sister to go out with u or whatever, why dont u spend the whole time talking with her? that will piss him off?! either that or maybe put some distance between u for now
2007-08-23 09:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by sharon w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rising energy on both sides .. you anger, hidden. him action, nervous. and his sister is involved. oh. lol.
read like a book.
talk to his sister. theres no point telling you you can see it. thats why your angry.
not everything happens upfront cos of shyness perhaps shock. somethings some people jsut dont handle well.
but to save hassel - turn up and go out with his sister ... time for a chat. and if shes being dragged round with out wanting to - I think she'll want to chat when you ask her.
2007-08-23 10:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by Andy C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a good friend so just tell him how u feel about the sister thing and how u feel about him that will probably put him right
2007-08-23 09:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he likes you a lot but maybe shy, afraid to admit his feeling for you. Why don't you talk to him and ask if both of you can't go along. Just talk to him he is your friend don't be afraid.
2007-08-23 09:45:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oooh.... it sounds like hes selfishly jealous of you....i feels he cant have you. or is he just annoyed? YOU should approach him and ask him. just do it. I need to do something similar myself.... :-( its really annnoying.... i hate boys sometimes hehe
2007-08-23 09:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Haley :] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop going to see him then let him come on his own, i think he's in denial of if he likes you, he probably likes you but doesnt want to gedt close,,,,,,,,,,,,,dis is one of those situations you wont understand till its over,,,,,,,,few months maybe?
2007-08-23 09:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by Xx~lovely~xX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his immature and dont be immature by still seeing him after he said no to your @ss leave him alone and move on with your life there are many many guys out there .
2007-08-23 09:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he doesn't want to be alone with you.
2007-08-23 09:45:16 · answer #11 · answered by keezy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋