...for your second child b/c they said it was in bad taste. I didnt say anything b/c I have heard it was in bad taste. My kids are only a year apart even though my first is a boy and my second is a girl. anyway... since then I have helped (and been asked by these same people) to help give showers for 4 others having their 2nd child. and 2 of them were having another boy. I didn't mind helping but I also cant help feeling hurt and left out. I didn't need the gifts but would have liked the memories of the get together celebrating my daughter. I guess I'm being a baby, myself!!
2007-08-23 09:05:48 · 12 answers · asked by jon jon's girl 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well I had showers for all 3 of my children. And if your 2nd is a diff. sex then there are still other girly things you will need for this 2nd child. And not to mention diapers and wipes!!! My 2nd was another boy so i was given a diaper and wipes shower, which helped soooo much!!!! And with my third I was having a girl!!! And by that point some of my baby things were worn out by the boys and i needed not only new baby stuff but girl clothes and the cute girl things you need and diapers and wipes! I think maybe you could mention that having a diapers and wipes shower sure would be nice and helpful and maybe one of your friends could throw it for you? Congratulations and Good Luck!! And no I don't think you are being a baby, I would be dissappointed too.
2007-08-23 09:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by 3J&2A 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If these same people have had showers themselves, or thrown showers for others that were for the second pregnancy, and are saying that to you, then, yeah, I can see it. Now did you ever make the comment that you didn't think it was right to have a second shower? Maybe they felt you wouldn't want one? Talk to one close friend, and tell her while you really don't want gifts, you think it would be fun to have a small shower (I've heard it called a sprinkle for the second child), where you just get together with friends and play the games or whatever you are into, and have pictures for the baby book...if that is what you want.
And considering you are having a child that is a different sex that your first, I am surprised none of them is suggesting it.
2007-08-23 16:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by justme 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
second baby showers are not common but I see that in your circle of family and friends this is a custom. As for you not getting one, I cant answer for them...yet it seems in poor taste...perhaps there is another issue not immediately present...finances....perhaps the person getting the second shower needs the help...anyway get over it...you didnt get one...be happy with the beauty of your daughter and plan her first birthday with a splash...live into the future your creating and let the past stay where it is...as long as we look over our shoulders at the past we will constantly be missing the wonderful things in our present that we can willing take into the future we are living into....
2007-08-23 16:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by teri 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this 2nd shower thing and shower thing is getting out of control. Not just yours, but people saying they only gift cards, money, etc. Stop the madness. Celebrate the baby and family, not the gifts.
2007-08-23 16:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by lillilou 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
most people dont throw baby showers for a 2nd child and so on! a lot of people only do it for the 1st born!
i think it's kind of bogus ... you should have a shower or party for every child that is on its way!
but since it's other people that would be planning and hosting the shindig you can't get upset!
throw your own!!! then dont invite the people that called you a baby, lol
2007-08-23 16:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by samsam04 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your not being a baby. I understand why you would be upset but you can't dwell on it. Maybe they thought these other people needed the shower due to their financial situation or something like that. Try not let it get you down and throw huge birthday parties every year!!!
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2007-08-23 16:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by Emily 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't be upset about it, I'm pregnant with #4, actually my second pregnancy the first two are my step-daughters & I told my mom not to worry about it this time.
2007-08-23 16:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not your not being a baby. When you et pregnant you cant wait for these times to celebrate your pregnancy and the birth of your baby no matter if its your st second third or fourth. I would just ta heck with them and throw one yourself! Your baby deserves to be reconized too!
2007-08-23 16:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont feel bad i never had a shower with either of my kids... one boy and one girl... though ive been expected to throw showers for friends
2007-08-23 16:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by brookieboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd feel ok. Just get over it ok? Here's what my sister says,"Build a bridge and get over it!" It's in the past so don't bring it to the present by complaining.You can enjoy all the birthdays and fun times you have w/ your kids.
2007-08-23 18:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by orange_flowers 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋