for a simple dinner (she gave good reasons), finally, she says yes to tomorrow's dinner date. We were in the same university and now that we are working people, work commitment seems to be the reason we can really meet as much as I wanted to.
I plan to bring her to a nice restaurant be a gentleman.
Do you think it's a good idea to buy her a small gift, like an mp3 player (cost about USD75), cos buying her flowers will freak her out?
But, when I look through her Friendster profile, her status is "It's Complicated". I am a little worried about what could happen if I buy her the gift, would it complicate matters? If she asks why I buy her such an expensive gift, should I say:
1. I can afford it.
2. I want to give her something nice.
3. Her birthday is coming soon.
4. I want her to have her favorite music always by her ears.
If she insists of declining it, at least I don't mind having it myself.
So what do you think I should do?
2007-08-23
08:50:58
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Ok, I will not buy any expensive gifts for her.
By the way folks, this is not our first dinner, we have been out a couple of times.
The 10 times rejections? It was because of bad timing, e.g I am free, she is not free;she is free I am not free.
Well, I will just be myself and pay for the dinner.
2007-08-23
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I think that is a bit much for first day. I wouldn't like it only because it going too fast. a simple rose would do it and make the night fun. It is not how much you spend on a girl, it's what you do with her like making her laugh or get into a serious converstation or taking a drive someplace, or even trying something new together. If you start buying her expensive gift now, she is going to expect something of a sort every time. If you insist on buying her something, buy something that you two saw on your way to dinner. Maybe some dessert to take back to her place.
2007-08-23 09:02:53
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answered by Pwincess 4
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Everything about is tough if you never met the person or you two never talk. Because if she doesnt like you or think your cute it doesnt matter how polite, gentlemanlike, or smart YOUR GONNA GET REJECTED. And even if you make the right approach if you say something wrong during the convo YOUR GONNA GET REJECTED. Even if you do that right if you ask for the number wrong YOUR GONNA GET REJECTED. Its so easy to fall flat on your face that most guys would much rather not try at all to do it. While on the other hand if a girl approaches a guy. He isnt gonna flat out say no. He may get your number and may not call back but he wont just say no i dont want your number. The only way we we will flat out reject you is if we have a girlfriend. Otherwise will be flattered and entertain the thought or be as polite as possible
2016-05-21 01:17:24
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answered by ? 3
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NO don't buy her a gift! That is coming on way too strong! You can give it to her on/for her birthday, but not before, and especially not on a first date.
If she's in a "complicated" situation (which may have nothing to do with you), and has turned you down before, then she's probably not as into you as you are into her, and you're just going to have to accept that disparity. You can't make her love you or buy her affection with expensive gifts. Just date her and let her affection for you grow naturally.
Right now you're so eager that you're forcing things. I appreciate you're trying to be gentlemanly and generous, but frankly, it's a bit selfish - three of your four reasons for giving the gifts are about YOU and what YOU want. You need to focus more on what SHE feels/wants than on what YOU want her to feel/want.
If you really want to give her something on the first date, limit it to a single but very beautiful flower. Let the date be your gift.
2007-08-23 09:01:25
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answered by teresathegreat 7
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dude your infatuated. just wait it out and it'll pass. an mp3 player as a gift for a first date is way too much. just be yourself and try to give her a good time. she might just think that your trying to buy her love. also, don't get your hopes up cause after being rejected more than 10 times, there might be a chance she only said yes this time so that you can leave her alone. anyways just tell her exactly how you feel about her. don't worry about it too much. if it's meant to be it'll happen, if it's not, **** happens..
2007-08-23 09:01:36
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answered by jesus shuttlesworth 2
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Don't buy a gift, just do a birthday card. "Complicated" might mean she is still involved with someone else that she still has feelings for.
Since you're taking her out to dinner, that is her gift....pay for her meal as well as yours. That way it's a little safer and it hopefully will not freak her out!
2007-08-23 09:01:23
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answered by h20bub 2
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take it easy you are coming on a little strong.just get her something simple I know you said you don't want to do the flower thing but a simple white or red rose will def impress her more then anything save the expensive gifts for when you know her better you don't want her going out with you just cause you buy her nice things. you want her to like you for you then you can shower her.
lol if you want an i pod just get one for yourself lol
2007-08-23 08:58:52
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answered by foxy lady 2
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ok you have to get a hold of yourself its just a dinner date. An interview shall we say. She already knows your interested in her. Just sell yourself with you. You cant buy love. Just be yourself. She will appreciate. Gift come later. Like Valentines day or Christmas.
2007-08-23 08:56:28
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answered by HottShorty78 2
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Dude, and MP3 player?? That would probalby freak a girl out more than flowers would. If her birthday is coming up, why not wait until then to give it to her?
2007-08-23 08:59:53
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answered by David 3
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no gift, bring your, mp3 player pull it out of your pocket set it on the table and if she says she really likes it then maybe a little later get her one but send it to her and let her figure out who sent it, but you have to be patient you cant just buy a girl a bunch of stuff that makes you look desperate.... just be a cool cat if she likes you she likes you if not,,,not....you askeed her 10 times you have to make a big play par-say to recover from that
2007-08-23 08:59:13
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answered by Joe M 1
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Don't scare her...You can slip her simple gifts (for girls) here and there..........
When she stops rejecting you, then you upgrade on the gifts..
Some girls love great exspensive gifts, I think most do..
I would dump a guy if he poored all kinds of gifts on me, I would think he was trying to buy my love....
2007-08-23 09:01:12
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answered by Anonymous
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