I'd been with this guy for about a year now.He has two little boys and still lives with his mom and dad even though he is in his thirties. We were very much in love, did everything together and talked about eventually living together.
There were so many differences between us, and that was driving us apart. He barely makes a living, and I do pretty well.
He loves his kids, but if it wasn't for his mom and dad supporting him he would not make it.
If he gets any money he spends it on laser hair removal or buys his pot. I know I am not making him look very special but he had other things about him that I loved. He made me feel special even though we had little in common. The sex was great. I would have to say he was the best I ever had.
For months now, I have felt insecure about our relationship, I felt he was always looking at other women, even though he said he was not. The other night I got mad at him and walked out on him. He told me he didn't want to see me again. I'm broken.
2007-08-23 08:43:25 · 12 answers · asked by dezignchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you need to do a little work here dear...on yourself. What QUALITIES attracts you to this man that you believe signify a serious relationship? He's got two kids. Lives with his folks. Makes very little money. Spends it kinda carelessly...and by all appearances, it interested in doing any better for himself OR his children. Red flags here hon, you need to pay attention. Sex is one hour out of 24 a day if even that as one gets older...so you're saying that is the root of your interest in the guy - the one thing that makes him "special" - Look again dear...and in the mirror -WHY do you want someone who hasn't grown up for a permanent relationship?
I would distance myself and start working on my head and heart to figure out the reality of my life, and what is good and right for me, were I you.
Grace
2007-08-23 08:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that you are broken.
Try to step out of yourself for a minute and re-read what you wrote. (I am going by what you wrote)
He has 2 children, he is in his thirties and does not make much money and lives with his parents.
What kind of future would you have if you continued a relationship with him?
Do you want to continue to be in a relationship with a person who is not motivated enough to take care of his own children?
Do you think that if you had children with him he would change his ways?
The sex was great. Guess what, it get BETTER!!
Girl, pick yourself up!!!
You have all of the signs you need to see that this guy, as much as you love him, is not right for you.
Look at the bigger picture.
You have to get into you before others will. Take this time out to learn and love yourself. Take this time to set standards for dating. Take this time to read the Mastery of Love and the Four Agreements.
Good luck!!!!!
2007-08-23 09:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by Juicy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two children + lives with parents + smokes pot + barely makes enough money for himself + spends money irresponsibly + looking at other women = Bad News.
You can get over your break-up most efficiently by closing that chapter of your life completely, focus on yourself, and perhaps you'll find someone much better in the near future.
2007-08-23 08:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The exact definition varies from trainer to trainer. Some people consider a horse green broke when it has taken a saddle and rider on its back a handful of times. In my opinion it is green broke when it knows all the basics but is still a little rusty and may still have "awkward" gaits that arent very smooth yet. To me broke is after at least a year of being ridden regularly, and it knows all its commands firmly, and has smooth well organized gaits. The horses has very little to know issues as far as rearing, bucking, or just not listening goes. I would say dead broke comes along after at LEAST 5 years of being ridden regularly, and it knows all its commands in its sleep. The gaits are very well organized, the horse can have anyone ride it, experienced riders or first-timers. The horse can be ridden with just a halter and lead while bareback. It takes a lot for this horse to spook or become unsettled. A rider will be able to yell and shout and swing things around and jump up and down (basically be a crazy looney) and the horse wont bat an eye. The key definition of "bombproof" the main differences I guess are just that green broke horses are just started under saddle, broke horses are well trained and ridden extensively, and dead broke horses dont even think about their training anymore and have been ridden for a LONG time. For riders I would say beginners know just the basics of riding, caring, and knowledge of horses. Intermediates know quite a lot about riding, caring and knowledge of horses, but still need lots of asistance on things and need more learning. Experienced people are very advanced in riding, know a ton about caring and knowledge of horses. But keep in mind you are NEVER done learning, no matter how advanced you are.
2016-05-21 01:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the KEY WORDS'
live with mom and dad
has kids
money spent on himself
oh..and he's in his 30's.
you'll wined up being a baby sitter, talking about all you gave up for him wondering why you just didnt stay away when you had the chance.
Sex well it's only as good as the emotions behined them if for small thing it will last a short time, but if it for the bigger picture than it will be good for a long time.(sometime it work that way) but you just have to move on giet into other things(not other people) something to better improve your self and while your at it get some motorvational books or tape to help keep that head up.
2007-08-23 08:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
best way to get over a break up is going out with ur friends, have a few drinks, and just really enjoy yourself. be a lil flirtatious too, flirting never hurt anyone. besides, its a good way to get a few free drinks here and there and its a great esteem booster.
2007-08-23 08:54:19 · answer #6 · answered by aznjedi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted it to work he would get up off his butt and prove to you by being responcible and get his own place and stop being lazy. My boy frind dumped me last week and it's hard but us girls got to move on let yourself be alone for a while and then get out there and get some dating done. Have a girls night out or something fun.
2007-08-23 08:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by CrazyGrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting over a break up is never easy. The best thing to do is to hangout with friends or people who are close to you that you have fun with and try not to remind yourself of him and have fun
2007-08-23 08:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by smile2745 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never ceases to amaze me how these types of males (not men) can even get laid, and let alone some chicky girl to brood over them. Do women really have any standards or dignity --
2007-08-23 08:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on and find someone else thats way better.Think about it do you really wanna be with someone who is on drugs and still relies on his mommy and daddy to take care of him?You need to find someone that can support himself and take care of you and his own family.I wish you the best.
2007-08-23 08:58:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋