My niece is 14 and she screamed at my 19 year old daughter when we were at her home and told her to get out of the house. My daugther is very timid and introverted and is easily bullied. She is very nice and submissive to people. I am always concerned with the way people treat her and I can't believe that my niece would yell and curse at her in a bad way. My daughter cried all the way and now, she is still crying and hurt. I am very upset. My niece said she hates my daughter & said she hates timid, quiet, and introverted people. I talked to her parents and her parents said didn't believe me. They said "My daughter would never yell and curse at people for no reason. If she does, it is definitely because you and your daughter did or said something bad to her. My daughter is very good and would never be mean. It is all your fault that my daughter yelled at your daughter." I don't understand why my niece and her parents would be this way. Why is that? What can I do?
2007-08-23 08:38:06 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What you can do is have nothing to do with people who dont believe you. They will eventually realize what a brat they have when this niece turns on them and does it to them.
2007-08-23 08:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is an adult woman, but regardless, you have no business in their affairs. Your daghter has to know that the whole planet will not revolve around her shyness and that the real world is much, much, cruler than the whims of any 14 year old. I apologize if I'm coming off as a bit abrassive but I assure you that is just the vocabulary I employ for occasions like this. I mean you no malice, nor do I have anything against your particular way of interpreting the world around you. That being said, let' me get back to the topic at hand.
All humans need to know that their own selection of decisions will have consequences, be they good, bad or neutral. The perpetrator of said actions is generally the first to feel the effect of said consequences, period! My wife and I have brought up our two daughters like this from the beginning. They are 18 & 17 and have been responsible for their own actions and consequences since they were 3 & 2! With the conditioning your 19 year old has accumulated through the years, she has no point of reference from which to stage a proper response to such relatively unconsequential stimuli fron a sibling, or peer. Nonetheless, and for your own peace of mind, show her a few counter measures with which to at least come out even in the verbal assaults or show her how to retreat without suffering dishonor or ridicule. From one parent to another, I hope my words have offered more enlightment than confusion.
2007-08-23 09:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by SexRexRx 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She could be just a brat. My concern is your daughter. How is she going to be out in the real world with all kinds of people like your niece. She is 19 now and should be thinking of being on her own. She needs to get some self esteem and you should have had HER yell back at the kid. She can't continue to hide from things like this. What will she do when her mom is not around. You need to help her grow up and be more assertive. This is your job to bring her out of this.
2007-08-23 08:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you love your daughter and respect yourself, you'll stay clear of these relatives. Your niece is a bonafide brat, to state the least. You don't say the nature of the disruption, so its hard to see the full picture here. But were it my son or daughter, I would have given that little monster a query as to what was wrong - if she tried to "dose" me with what she did to your daughter? I'd tell her what a persnicky little brat she was and take my daughter AND LEAVE.
I feel for your daughter...she may be young for her age and not be well socialized. This is a difficult thing to help young people with...But I do know this - the niece is pretty outrangeous - her behavior, wholly unacceptable/respectable. -And her parents are livin in "la la" land if they profess not to know or get to the bottom of this matter.
Like I said, with people like that, stay your distance - unhealthy for BOTH you and your daughter. -And frankly, I wouldn't step foot in their house again WITHOUT an apology or clear explanation.
You have my sympathy for having such relatives in your lives. Life is too short my dear...far too short to put up with that crap.
Most Sincerely,
Grace (been there and GET IT)
2007-08-23 08:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one knows what their children will do when they're not being watched. The way you thing about your daughter is the same way your niece parent thinks about her. So it could have been somthing that your niece and daughter had going on together you just caught the worst part of it. Talk to them together and see whats going on.
2007-08-23 08:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by Odell W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your daughter to calmly and clearly explain each and every thing that happened prior to this screaming incident.
You need to tell her that your not taking sides, but that we need to figure out why anyone would make her feel so bad.
There's something kinda fishy here. Considering that the niece is only 14, and your daighter is 19, there has GOT to be something that set her off--even if its menial.
No one should be treated like that, and once you figure out WHY this happened it will be easier to deal with
Good Luck
2007-08-23 08:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I mean u juss need to talk to ur daught and tell her that everyone is not the same in this world and their are mean and crule ppl in the world and that she cant always juss breack down and let everything that someone say get to her she has 2 stand up 4 her self but at the point where she is now shejuss needs u to be there 4 her and support her good luck
2007-08-23 08:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by SexieIndianPrincess 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your niece is a moody little ***** and her parents don't want to accept it.Don't bring it back up with your niece cause she may say something else to your daughter just tell your daughter to stand up for herself she's 19 and her cousin is 14.Hope everything works out.
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2016-10-03 03:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your niece and her parents know you're not like your daughter and you will go off on them before you let them tell you and your daughter anything.
2007-08-23 08:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋