How can I get my Mother in law to leave?

Question

My Mother in law has been living in our home for 2 years now, and I feel like I am pushed aside most of the time. Since she has been here, me husband has changed dramatically and I am really considering in leaving, but stuck because I am 7 months pregnant. She came her from Colombia on a tourist visa, but that has expired about 1 and a half year ago. I need some ideas on what I can do to get her to move out. She is totally dependant on her son, and she was dependent on him when she lived in Colombia. My husband sent her 150.00 a month for her rent, and didn't work there or nothing. Now she is working here, not paying for bills, food, or the mortgage. Her money goes to all the phone cards she buys to talk to her boyfriend in Colombia, and she sends all her money to her BF and dad down there. I look at her bank statements and she has overdraft fees left and right. I really want her out of my home, so that I feel that I am a part of this family. Please help me....

Answer 1

Call the authorities. She is taking from this country & giving nothing back, except to the bank.

Answer 2

An anonymous tip to Immigration Control [ICE] might be your best solution...harsh and horrible, true, but your mother-in-law is breaking laws right and left...expired visa, bouncing checks, not paying her share of the expenses in your home. Hey, you deserve better - let your husband go back to sending her money, it would be cheaper in the long run. You need to look after yourself and the baby, even if your husband won't.

Make the phonecall to Immigration from a pay phone somewhere, and just tell them there's an illegal immigrant described only as a female around a certain age "in the neighborhood" and give them only the block number or general description of the house and a vague description of the female [maybe hair color or height, something any neighbor might know] and then hang up. That way they won't know it was a family member, right?

Maybe when La Migra comes visiting she'll get the idea and figure it's easier to go home rather than deal with the system. The system isn't kind anymore...and certainly you don't need to be either.

Answer 3

You have a big problem. Being she is here on an expired visa she has broken the law and you are harboring a criminal. Also, who ever she is working for is breaking the law. Her financial situation being you are allowing her to stay might end up on you because she is here illegally.

You really need to have a heart to heart talk with your husband and lay out some hard facts to him. That might be his mother but you are his wife carrying his child and she is jeopardizing your future.

For the sake of yourself and your unborn child you should find out now where you stand in this relationship.

If thing don't look good I highly recommend you seeing a lawyer if nothing else but to get advise. Good luck.

Answer 4

You are in a tough spot, wait till until the baby is 6 months old, save all that you can as your get away money, and tell your husband it's either you or his mother, but be prepared to move on if she chooses his mother. Some might be willing to tell you to turn your mother-in-law into the ICE, I am not for amnesty, but if you do, it will always be between you and your husband, and when he finds out, and he will, he will never forgive you

Answer 5

First, you must speak to your husband. You are harboring an illegal immigrant, and if she is found out, maybe you also could get in trouble. I am not sure now what with the immigration thoughts being different since the insurgence of
people from Mexico. You may want to also enlist the boyfriend to talk her into coming home. But if you go to immigration and rat her out, then you are a bad person. You may be able to do it anonymously. And how did she get a job without any papers? A forged Social Security Card? You must tell your husband it is her or me and if he wants to fix your marriage he also needs to get some marriage counseling with you. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Call or contact ICE and turn her in to immigration.
You can go to the Immigration Control and Enforcement website and leave an anonymous tip, there is a link right on the front page, and your identity will be kept a secret.

Immigration will deport her deadbeat rear back to her own country.

Answer 7

1. Report her to I.C.E. as an illegal immigrant here on an expired tourist visa, and report her employer for hiring an illegal alien.

2. Put her bags on the porch and change the locks.

3. Stand up to your husband and tell him it's either you or her and if he doesn't get her out, it's over between the two of you. Then kick out your momma's-boy husband and find someone else! He is allowing her to come between you and him and is enabling her to stay here illegally, at the expense of your marriage.

Answer 8

You say "I want her out of my home so that I feel that I am a part of this family." How is kicking a member of your family out of your house going to make you feel like a member of the family. Look your BF's family is clearly not making you happy and that will NEVER change. Get out of the relationship and get a man that doesn't want to live with his mother, after all that is the American way.

Answer 9

I'm sorry to hear this. Latino boys love their mommies. Im married to a Mexican and his mother can do no wrong in his eyes. Its a tuff spot, I know that talking to him is not going to do any good, you can try and have her deported as she is breaking the law or maybe report her employer.

Good luck.

Answer 10

Tell your husband either she goes or you are taking your pregnant self elsewhere.He has to grow up and take care of you and your new family first. If it is bad now for you, it will only get worst after the baby comes.She will weave a web around your family so tight that you will choke.Good luck.