OK, my mom really likes this guy in which I have no liking towards....he has already been with a 21 year old while my mom was seeing him. At the time he was 38. I hate it and I don't really know how to tell her how I have so much hate for him built inside. I want my mom to be happy with all of my heart but I don't want her to be with him.I was going on the internet to check my email and when I pulled up the browser and there was all of these sites that pulled up .....i just don't know how to tell her.....please help me.
2007-08-23 08:08:47 · 33 answers · asked by Mwahahah!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's none of your business. Your mom is an adult and can be with whomever she wants. If you don't like it, tough noogies. Move out and get your own life. You have no right to tell her how to live hers.
2007-08-23 08:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Be honest with her. A seed never planted can not begin to grow. She needs to know how you feel. Tell her you want her to be happy, but don't like or respect him. Be sure to tell her that you feel he has no respect for her (due to cheating on her with the young thing), and she deserves better. Present her any evidence you have that leads you to believe he is mistreating her. It may or may not change her mind about him, but at least you will have it off your chest, and she will know you have her best interest at heart.
If you are too embarassed or shy to tell her personally, send her an email or write her a letter, then let it be. She'll talk to you about it when she gets the letter/email, or maybe say nothing at all. Either way, your opinion has been heard, and that is all you can do.
2007-08-23 08:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by tushanna_m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is your mom. No matter what you say, she will at least listen to your feelings. Good mothers don't ignore their children's feelings. I would just tell her the best way you know how, but of course do not tell her in front of him. Suggest a special you and mom day and talk to her in the car or somewhere private as to not cause a scene. This will help your relationship with your mother. Trust me, I have a stepdad and he is not always the greatest. I talk to my mom all the time and if he is doing something wrong she will have a talk with him. You HAVE to tell her though because it is not acceptable for you to be around this sleezy guy!
2007-08-23 08:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by *~*BUNNY*~* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say hey mom I was on the computer & look what is on the browser, & ask her if she knows how it got there. Your mom really needs to catch him in the act that way she feels that you are not trying to break them up, & this could save her a lot of heart ache down the road.
2007-08-23 08:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her how you feel about him. It sounds like he could be trouble for you mom later on. Maybe she just needs an outside opinion to realize how he's treating her. If you can prevent her having a broken heart, it might be worth a shot. The worst that can happen is she'll get mad at you... but she can't stay mad forever. And maybe she'll be glad you were thinking of her. I hope everything works out
2007-08-23 08:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom how you feel and why. You have a right to your own opinion. Be honest with her. I have a teenage daughter and I want her to tell me everything no matter what. I want to know what is going on with her even if it might hurt me, she is more important to me than anything. There were times that she did have to tell me things and was glad that she did. It was a big weight off of her. I can't say that I was always pleased about what she told me but I was glad she was able to confide in me.
2007-08-23 08:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can tell her and still say "but its ure choice" i would try and convince her by reminding her that if she wants him to be a apart of the family than the first step is getting her already existing family (you and ure siblings) to accept him. and you dont so either he needs to prove himself to you or this will not work, also mention how hes hurt her and cheated on her, i would tell my mom that shes come to far in life to be treated like crap nows the time to get what she deserves which is someone around the same place in their lives. this guy is not ready for commitment. bring the house down, i would never be with anyone that hasnt won over my kids (luckily im married but ya know) and i would never degrade myself to stay with someone when ideserve more. so boost her self esteem up and show her hes not right. ure opinion does matter dont act like it doesnt.
2007-08-23 08:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by toolate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is to leave it alone, she will figure it out on her own, she will resent you if you try to split them up. Just because there were sites on his browser doesn't mean he's doing anything wrong, he's a grown man he can look at porn, just because he's dating your mother it doesn't give you the right to tell either of them anything more than your opinion, but don't push the issues you have with him.
2007-08-23 08:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it the best way you know how, get her to look on the net with you and show her what sites came up and what he has been doing and where he has been and stuff like that! but do it with him not around of course! You know your mom best and you love her and dont want to see her get hurt! Be the daughter she wants you to be and protect her an dont let her fall! Help her get up!!
2007-08-23 08:13:52 · answer #9 · answered by mickey_112404 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show your mom this question and the answers you get. I think your mom will key in on the fact that you really want your mom's happiness. Your mom may hurt when she learns these facts, but a future full of hurt awaits her if she stays with this mom. Good luck!
2007-08-23 08:15:24 · answer #10 · answered by lambchops5151 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm mm.. what kind of websites did u see? Be honest with ur mom and I know that u want her to be happy. But if u dint feel good about this, then be very truthful to your mom and if she understands, than what u feel will make her change her mind about him. Show her the websites and see what she says. I know if one of my kids didn't approve of a guy that I was dating and they were serious about it, He would be cut off. Just talk to her.
2007-08-23 08:17:21 · answer #11 · answered by its not that serious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋