I've been accusing my fiance of cheating on me, because i was getting these text messages of the internet concerning him and girl. I ask him about it and he said no.
But we got in a big fight again about it. I feel kind of bad because i've been doing a lot of thinking and if he was really cheating why would he still be with me or want to spend time with me.
He goes out and he tells me where he's going and everything and he doesnt stay home late.
Now he's mad at me for accusing again of cheating and i hate that he's not talking to me.
I really want to tell him how i feel but he doesnt want to listen. i bought him a nice card with a gift to see if that would break the ice a little bit.
I hope it works. I really dont want to lose him because i love him alot. I think he's probably tired of me accusing him. What should i do to make things right, i really want him to listen to me.
Guys out there can you give me some advice and girls i could use your opinions too.
2007-08-23 07:45:21 · 23 answers · asked by Kittykat_diva69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is not your husband, he is not committed to you anyway. Move out and don't move back until he marries you. Marriage means he is committed to you only until death do you part. You will soon find out if he really loves you and that will be the day when he proposes marriage. If he doesn't then leave him behind. You have let him totally disrespect you by living with you with out being married to you. Have some respect for yourself and only give your precious self to your husband.
2007-08-23 07:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Own up to making a mistake and apologize. Tell him exactly what you wrote, that you thought he might be unfaithful because of these text messages, but you realize that you trust him and love him, and you are sorry for not believing him. Tell him that you know he's faithful and that you appreciate him being so open with telling you where he's going and not staying out till all hours of the night. If he doesn't want to listen or refuses to hear you out, write a letter or an email so he can't interrupt you on what you want to say, and it'll let you get it all out. It'd be best to tell him in person though.
It takes a big person to admit that they're wrong and to genuinely apologize. You dont need to buy gifts to win his love and trust back, just be sincere.
Good luck!!
2007-08-23 07:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i used to have that same problem with my ex girlfriend. I was told by a friend that she was cheating so i confronted her and accused her. She denied it all and i accepted that. It occured about 4 times throughout our 2 1/2 year relationship. Then one of my friends caught her in the act... she still has never confessed but i talked to the guy she was cheating on me with and it had been going on for over 2 years. So just because he says nothing is going on, doesn't mean that nothing is going on. Hire a private detective to find out! Or get in touch with the tv show 'Cheaters' You'll find out the truth eventually.
2007-08-23 07:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by krazyraider0516 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, well I'm a guy and speaking from experience (yes i can be an a** too) there probably is not a lot you can do to get the guy to listen to you ! If he is cheating, then he is going to try and position you into thinking you are the one in the wrong by being accusatory.
You are clearly too good for this guy. I know it hurts you because you love him but trust me you would feel happier without him.
You are undoubtedly a gorgeous young girl, so dump his a** and go out yourself and have fun, and find someone who deserves you.
:-)
2007-08-23 07:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by pug106man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a nice gesture to get the card but its going to take more on your personal effort. By that I mean apologizing. Hopefully that does break the ice to where you can talk to him about it. He needs to reason with you that you didn't know what to think because of those texts, tell him to put himself in your shoes for a minute. He would be having second thoughts in his head and probably accuse you too.
You just need to apologize for not trusting him. I'm sure by you making him budge he will realize that you messed up and care enough to make things right.
best wishes
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2007-08-23 07:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by artsygal_cc86 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think u were right and he is just acting upset for you could just forget it, But honey you saw the text messages what more proof do you want. He was cheating. Girl forget him don't give him any attention and you will see how fast he will come back to see if u still love him or what not. But you know what? If it looks like a duck and it quacka like a duck, it;s a duck. Don't let him make you look like a fool. U deserve better.
Up to you, but good luck.
2007-08-23 08:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Esther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie- if your instinct says he was cheating.. and you found shady im's... i wouldnt just let that go. Whats his explanation for it? WHat did the Im's say?
" i've been doing a lot of thinking and if he was really cheating why would he still be with me or want to spend time with me." <----------- um... so? People cheat on people and stay with them and want to hang out with them ALL THE TIME. People who care about their girlfriend still cheat ALL THE TIME. I think you are letting your feelings go too quickly.
Sure, if he really didnt cheat and you were wrong.. you owe him an apology. But im concerned for you that he is and your trying to look the other way :( You had every reason to be upset and questioning him if you saw something that made uf eel that way.
2007-08-23 07:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you made a mistake, but everyone does. Know that everything is ok and that he would never leave you for another woman. Just let him know that you are sorry, and give him some space. He might feel a little closterphobic with you checking his messages and saying that he's cheating. Don't worry, if he really loves you, he will accept your apology.
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Good Luck!
2007-08-23 07:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you never really explained the texts, but if your sure he isn't cheating, they just stop accusing him, but there has to be a reason that you keep accusing him... you must have a feeling. Just show him that you trust him, and it will take awhile but he will forgive you.
2007-08-23 07:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by scorch_22 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, I think you just want to make someone think in particular...Who? I have no clue, BUT I would say get rid of him...How is your business on the Internet? And why?
Teach him a LESSON on how to be a honest man, LIKE not putting your business OUT there..Is your relationship a JOKE? its meaningless, when the whole world has an opinion on your LIFE............................ the internet is trash so what does that say about your relationship?
2007-08-23 07:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋