We were at the swimming pool club and a 9 yr old boy was screaming in my son's face to move out of his way and my son just punched him right in the face. The kid took a few steps back and seemed like he was hurt but he didn't cry or anything. And then after that moment he was totally kissing my son's butt and not trying to bully him anymore. I went over and scolded my son mildly but I was so happy and proud of him I wished I could have given him a pat on the back and said good job son!
How would you have reacted? Would you have punished your son, would you have done the same as me and said a few words to him? Would you have been as proud as me?
2007-08-23 07:35:09 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
girl next door - morals? hey I didn't teach him to punch, atleast I'm not splashing photos of my cleavage on the net. Firures, comes from a spineless Canadian! Aaaaah, love that freedom of speech! You think your Scottish ancestors would stand for being bullied - I would think not!
2007-08-23 07:51:07 · update #1
ah yes, girl next door, go ahead and remove that 360 link - whimp!
2007-08-23 08:09:49 · update #2
Guiness lover - am I supposed to be afraid of being reported on Y!A hahahahahahahahaha! hilarious.
Yes, "we" Americans fight when we need to, hence "land of the brave...."
2007-08-23 08:25:58 · update #3
zoey - nice of you to wish it upon my son to be punched in the face. Quite mature really. And btw, my son being punche dinthe face because he punched someone in the face is not the worse thing that could happen - that's called facing the consequences of your actions.
2007-08-23 08:28:03 · update #4
GND - how many times you gonna change your answer? You were a b*tch at first and you keep changing it to cover up your true colors. Relax and get a life!
2007-08-24 14:08:08 · update #5
GND- go on and drink your 6 pints of guinness and check on your online chatting hubby instead of worrying about my child. Oh and check the spelling on your rant about people not being about to spell on your profile. You totally made a fool of yourself.
2007-08-24 14:09:51 · update #6
and it's self conscious NOT self conscience, duh!
2007-08-25 15:18:56 · update #7
sounds like it went well!! good for your son for sticking up for himself to a MUCH bigger and older child. hopefully that other boy learned not to mess with other kids. just make sure your kid doesn't think that violence is a good answer to every problem
2007-08-23 07:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 8⤊ 4⤋
Firstly speak to the head teacher about the situation and suggest a meeting with the boys parents, he will let you know if this is advisable. The reason i say that is because some parents are not as understanding or easy to talk to as others and they maybe volatile. See what suggestions he recommends. Ask what has happened to the other student. He may have been dealt with in a way that you are unaware of. If you are not satisfied with the way the school has DELTA with the issue contact your local education authority and report the situation. If nothing comes from this you are well within your rights to contact the police, they may do very little but it may be enough to stop the other boy from doing anything again. Unfortunately these things do happen in schools but the school should definitely deal with them and there should be some punishment for that boy. I would ask why he was allowed to go to the football after the assault on your son. Hope this is some help to you.
2016-05-21 00:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a similiar experience. My son, a couple of months ago when he was 3, was playing soccer with some older boys (about 6 or 7). I was watching them and everytime the he would go to kick the ball, one of the older boys would pick up the ball and move it away from him. After this occured about 3 times, my son ran after him and tackled him, got up and kicked the ball. The older boy kind of pouted and walked away.
I immediately went and got my son and pulled him away and told him that wasn't what he should have done, that we shouldn't tackle people, but told him how proud I was at the way he played soccer with the other boys. However, a large part of me was very proud that he did stand up for himself.
Trying to be a "good" father, I really had no idea how to act or what to do.
2007-08-23 10:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by jjjoesi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a lot of anger issues your son may have picked up on. You asked for opinions and when you get those that don't agree with you let it pass. Don't verbally punch out the messenger.
I don't think I would have been proud, I just would have though it was funny, you were lucky on two counts the nine year old didn't let loose on your son, probably because hes a baby to him, and you son didn't do any damage to the boy.
Males do odd bonding things, the boy was probably just as happy as you that the little one hauled off and hit him. Your son could be thought of as a mascot a 'little kid with balls'.
I wouldn't have scolded, I might even be a little proud that he stood up for himself, but I also think I'd watch to make sure he wasn't using his fists inappropriately.
2007-08-23 08:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by justa 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe that he was defending himself at all. The kid was yelling at him. He didn't hit him first or cause him any bodily harm so your son hitting him FIRST was uncalled for. Legally, you are not allowed to put your hands on another person even if they are up in your face yelling at you.
Maybe it would have been a better idea to go over and supervise the situation. He is only 3.5 and should have a parent with him. Teach by example and tell the other kid to stop screaming at your kid and back off. I don't think you would appreciate it if the shoe were on the other foot. If all your kid did was get in this kids face and scream at him, then he got punched..do you think you would have just laughed that off? No way..you would have been over there in a flash.
You should teach your child to defend himself by all means but that was not defence.
2007-08-23 09:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by Crunchy Sweet 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Hitting someone in the face should not be applauded. Sure your kid should stand up for their rights but to hit someone is stepping over the line.
No wonder he acts that way when you go on the attack after other users (GND ect. ) voice an opinion. GREAT ROLL MODEL you are . Whats the world coming to when kids are raised thinking stuff like that is ok
2007-08-23 09:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by Bored @ Work 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
OK mum of two and my first response was..........glad that your son has the confidence to stand up for him self BUT that was closely followed by just how far away was your tiny one away from your that this 9 yr old could and did scream in your child's face......the close presence of an adult would have stopped this in its tracks at once and my second thought was WHAT IF this 9 yr old have punched your child back.........bet the shi* would have hit the fan at that point............personally would have removed my child as the screaming started with a word to the 9yr old to stop that at once..........maybe now the whole thing is over with it might be good for you to mention to your son that whilst what he did was not totally wrong he must not ever do that again, even more so if you are within easy reach.
regards
2007-08-23 08:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by candy g 7 · 5⤊ 3⤋
I would have reacted the same way. My son, who is three, is small for his age, and he's always gettin' picked on by bigger kids, I taught him not to hit, and I've always told him not to, until I moved into a new neighborhood, now I tell him, if some ones picking on your or hitting you, do something about it, don't stand there and take it. I know hitting's not right, but i'm not going to let my son get pushed around just because he's small.If they want to start the fight, my son can finish it.
2007-08-23 09:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I've taught my daughter to NEVER EVER hit first but if someone hits her that she can hit back....and i don't care who it is! My daughter isn't going to be anybody's 'punchbag' just because people think that hitting is wrong or that she should just tell an adult.
I am the same way, i NEVER hit first and if someone is gonna punch me they had better make it a good one and knock me out with the first punch because otherwise i'm going at them with everything i have....i might be small but i fight like a bloke, having grown up with an older male cousin who taught me how to fight properly and not 'like a girl'.
2007-08-23 09:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
it takes a strong person to stand up to a bully and I am glad that your son did what he did. I don't think hitting is the answer but he stood up for himself and made the big kid think twice about what he was doing. How come no one is commenting on the bully? What is he doing at nine years old and picking on a 3 year old? He is the one that should be punished, maybe next time he will think twice about picking on someone at all let alone someone way younger than him! I applaud you and your son.
2007-08-23 08:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by hazeleyes1279 3 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Whenever we see evidence that our child isn't going to buckle under the pressure, isn't going to take bullying without defending themselves a feeling of pride comes over us because not only have we, as parents, taught our children not to be a bully but we've taught them not to take being bullied.
You're perfectly in the right to feel that way. And the reactions your getting from the people here saying that you're wrong for feeling that way, well... I guess it's pretty obvious that their children ARE the bullies. And there's nothing to be proud of there.
2007-08-23 09:39:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋