he just married my mom and now he lives n my house but whenever i see him were both silent and say nothing to eachother???? it bugs cuz its really awkward!
2007-08-23 07:21:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You sound like youre shy with him. Just get up the nerve to say something to him like..."I feel awkward because I dont know you and Im not sure what to say or what to call you. I would like for us to be friends since we both love my mom...what do you think?"
Try saying something like that it might break the ice. He might feel a little shy also and that could be why hes silent.
2007-08-23 07:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He most likely feels awkward and he is in you home as you say and it's like being a guest to him. He probably never has been in a situation like this before and does not know what is the best way to have a realationship with you. He is not your father until you accept him as such and he is not your friend yet he is your mothers husband and is afraid to do something wrong that may affect his chances of getting along with you. Take the lead and talk to him and let him feel comfortable with you. Ask him to go out and do something just for the fun of it, some guy thing, and get to know him. Give him a fair chance to learn his role in the family and in your life. Most of all be kind and treat him like something your mother loves.
2007-08-23 15:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by Sheriff of Yahoo! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, I bet he is thinking the SAME THING!!!!
I have been the step father, and I know that in the beginning, it's a learning process, you are learning about him, and he is learning about you. I know that in some relationships, the kids and I stayed in touch LONG after the mother and I split up.
Ask him to take you somewhere, just the two of you, and see what you can find to talk about. Ask your Mom what he likes or dislikes so that you have a good starter point.
Later in life, make fun of him because you had to do all the work...:)
2007-08-23 16:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! that is pretty weird. I think he should have made the first move to try and get to know you, but i guess he never did. That is strange because if he is living in your house and you both dont even talk then it seems kind of awkward. Bad for him that he didnt make the frist move, but i yhink of you wanna change things, then you should try and get to know him better. If you are not sure of starting up a conversation directly with him, then try snd speak up when he and your mom are discussing something. Maybe you both would get the opprtunity to talk.
Hope things get better.
2007-08-23 14:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably gotten the really bad advice to wait and let you come to him when you are ready to accept him as your step-dad.
If you think he is an ok guy, it's time to break the ice - next time he is sitting there throw a stuffed animal or something at him. When you are eating dinner, steal something from his plate...make it light and fun and break out a smile...
then to start conversations - if he is watching tv, plop down and ask him what he is watching - or when he comes home fromwork ask how his day was...simple conversations.
2007-08-23 14:28:06 · answer #5 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I woould speak.... Say something such as Good morning or good afternoon just to break the ice. You don't want any animosity in the household you know. Especially if he'll be making the rules someday soon.... Good luck.
2007-08-23 14:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by TheDramz24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if hes a good guy you shuld give him a chance. dont be disrespectful thats not good.
if hes a d i c k then you have all the right to not say anything. and that way you wont end up saying anything thats disrespectful.
dont force it. let everything play out how its supposed to be. make sure he treats your mom right too.
2007-08-23 15:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a huge change you're going through. Time changes things...try to have a conversation with him. Even if it is a small one like "How are you?" or "Have you seen my books?" Just try to talk a little.
2007-08-23 14:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by Strong w/ Jesus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i see exacly wat u are going through.....my mom has a new boyfriend also..and when ever i visit her me and him have nuttun much to say....in a way you can exsept him as a step dad...it starts off wierd...just wait till like football surerbowl....that will give u guys some time to connect...but yeah he may seem like a step dad...i know if your mom is like any others...it will really make her happy see to you guys bond
2007-08-23 23:01:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not ask ur step dad to take u out so u guys can know each other better and bond more. u might ending up liking him.
2007-08-23 14:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋