my BF said he wanted to break up with me but then said he was unsure.so i told him to take a month to rethink it. its been 2 weeks and 1 day...its killing me...i have so much from my heart to say...i want to tell him now...but i said id give him a month...i dont want to be pushy/unfair...but its driving me crazy...what do you folks think?
2007-08-23 07:18:01 · 20 answers · asked by cometlady89 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you were trying to be really reasonable with the whole month thing..2 weeks and 1 day sounds like enough time. I think you should tell him how you feel.
2007-08-23 07:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl im in a similar situation, my bf and i broke up about two months ago and i never realised what i lost until now. i love him to bits and he loves me too. I know what you are going through and yes it is painfull not knowing what his going to do and you just sitting there and waitng. My advise to you as a women is "time waits on no-one and life is so short" approach him and ask him what the out come is going to be instead of you maybe just sitting around and then your time might just get wasted. No one deserves getting treated the way you are being treated. Let him tell you now instead of waiting for a month, you could have been long over the trauma then.
2007-08-23 14:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by Leila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough letting go someone you love! But freedom is crucial to relationships, especially romantic ones. Let him go. Don't call him!!! If you do it'll push him away. Give him the time he needs that's the best shot of him coming back. Sometimes people need space to miss each other. When that happens it reminds them just how much they love one another! But if you don't respect his need for freedom then your future together will be over. I know it's supertough!! Find some other friends to help you fill in the emotional gap while he's gone. A good book on the subject is "Love must be Tough" by Dr. James Dobson. Good luck!! I know how you feel!
2007-08-23 14:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you suggested the month, then wait the month. Be strong though. Men will respect you more if they know you are not a pushover for them. It may be hard after 2 weeks and 1 day, but NEVER let him know that.
If you make him feel that you don't need him at all, he will want you that much more.
It's a stupid concept and hard to understand, but it's the absolute truth. So be strong!!! You can do this!!!
Good luck!
2007-08-23 14:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by BaldTom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, if you gave him a month, and he's taking this long, I'm sorry to say, but I don't think its worth pursuing.
a month is way too long to not talk to someone you potentially want to be dating. what i mean is that if he is still thinking that he may have feelings for you, not talking to you for a month would be killing him, and guaranteed he would call.
most likely, he is beginning to move on, and you probably should too. i don't know you, but you probably deserve more than a guy who hasn't called you in 2 weeks. any decent girl does!
so drop this boy like he's hot, and go find yourself a new hottie!! good luck!
2007-08-23 14:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a "boyfriend".
He is a BOY until he grows up... meaning he needs to make his decisions and stand by them.
Stringing you along like that is stupid and immature, so don't put up with it.
You are not engaged to this kid, so don't put up with him trying to "own" you while playing the field and pulling these stupid little head games on you. Cop an attitude. Tell him to get it right or get gone. Yes, "push".
Date people who are more mature (not necessarily older) in their outlook and behavior.
2007-08-23 14:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Push it off of your mind. Fill up your time with activities and friends. Another two weeks and you'll know if he wants to continue or to break up. All the best.
2007-08-23 14:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by supergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg, just break up with him and spare yourself. Some guys are like that - if he worked up the nerve to tell you he wanted to break up, then he DOES.
Move on, new guys will come in to your life. Good Luck!
2007-08-23 14:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first know what is the problem that yr bf is facing and if u get the solution then tell her that u can solve the problem and u love him but if u cant solve the problem then dont trouble ur bf if u really love him. if u could try asking us here may be u could get anwer but first know what the problem ur bf facing so that he is leaving u well may ur problem get solved :-))
2007-08-23 14:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're basically a single woman now...if he was all that into you and/or y'alls relationship he wouldn't need a month to think about it, and wouldn't go weeks without contacting you.
Sorry sugar...work through this within and be ready to move on.
2007-08-23 14:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋