Is it ok for the woman to propose marriage? If yes, do you have any suggestions how to go about it?

Question

What do you think? Can the woman do the proposing? If yes, how could she go about it?

marriage has been discussed. he's even mentioned who he would want to invite to the wedding, we agreed where we would want it to be held, what time of year would be best to get married, etc.

Answer 1

Many women do the proposing by telling their guy to propose.

Before you propose, be sure this is something he is going to want. If you propose, you may be "cutting off his manhood" if he is at all traditional. And if you ask and he says no, then he asks later, that will feel silly.

If you have discussed "marriage at some point in the future" then I would go for it. If so, think about what you would want -- but "guy" it up. Take a trip and ask him on a scenic outlook. Get him a ring, and drop it in his glass when he turns away at a very nice dinner. Anything that would work for a woman would work for a man.

Answer 2

I was planning to propose to my bf, but he actually beat me to it!!

I hadn't really thought it through, but I had a gift and a location,

I was going to offer him an "engagement cactus" so that we could watch it grow together with our relationship...and yes it was one plant I knew even HEE couldn't kill...my original plan was to plant a tree, but he lives in an appartement....

I think if a girl is doing it you could have a more low key style than some of the intricate planned proposals that ladies expect these days, I personally wouldn't buy a mengagement ring just because GUYS seem a little more practical than the ladies...

Answer 3

Of course she can! I see no reason why a woman should have to wait for the man to initiate things. Holding onto tradition just for the sake of tradition is pretty dumb, in my opinion.

However, instead of either person formally proposing, you could just have a conversation about what you want for your relationship. I personally favor the idea of both partners taking ownership of the relationship and deciding together what they want. My guy and I became engaged that way. No one actually proposed; we just had a conversation about how we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. And so...we decided to get married.

Answer 4

Of course women can propose. I did. You could find a special place, take him out to dinner, be creative, be suprising, get a whole group involved...there are tons of ways to do it. Just make sure that its right for you and him. It doesn't matter so much where and how you do it, but the words you use. Speak from the heart and try (you'll be nervous) to be natural about it. Good luck!

Answer 5

♥ Of course a woman can propose!!! I love the idea that it doesn't have to be a man proposing to a woman. As for ideas... make it something cute... maybe go back to the area of ya'lls first date, go to the beach, etc. Good Luck!

Answer 6

It all depends on who you are proposing to. You should no your partners feelings regarding gender and roles before you propose. If you know your partner does not have a problem then go ahead but if you know they have certain views regarding gender and roles then you really need to think about what their reaction maybe.

Answer 7

Why not? No reason at all she can't do it...as for how, surely you've seen enough examples on TV ect of guys doing it to have an idea about it.

Do what feels right to you...getting down on one knee probably isn't necessary.

Answer 8

YES. I wish my gf would propose. if so, do it while watching the sunrise. and say, i want to start my days with you forever. then pop out the ring.

Answer 9

I think it *is* okay, but I think you should be wary of doing it, simply because men move a lot more slowly than women and need to take their time where emotions are concerned a lot more than women.

Answer 10

it's the 21st century...i say that a woman should go for it.