we had a couple one night stands
2007-08-23 07:04:51 · 12 answers · asked by silkesuperfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So you're an easy lay and he's married.
Match made in heaven.
2007-08-23 07:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by Frinn 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hugs from me to you as well. I know how you feel as I have been down this road before. In your eyes, you probably feel very special to him and he does all the right things for you, except for one thing - he can't be with you when you need him the most. This alone makes for hard feelings on your part and I'm sure, if he has any sense of feelings, he feels bad as well. There are many reasons spouces cheat on each other, and it happens more often than people would like to think. Communication is a huge thing, actually it is the number issue that couples lack - that is couples that are in a troubled relationships.
I will tell you from my past life history, that a few things are foresure. His wife will find out about his cheating. I can say with almost some degree of truth, that there are others who know about the two of you as well. I was once told that if you believe in what your doing is ok, then think how your family would feel if it was printed on the front page of your hometown paper for all your friends, paster, teachers, and family to read - would you still be doing it???
It sounds like if your just having one-night stands, he is looking for the excitement of not being caught yet, but the more you see of each other, the more connected you become and that just leads to more and more issues between you and him, and him not being with you - and now that you have fallen "head over heals for him" you are in too deep, and probably feeling like you have no escape and your feelingness of beging alone is starting to ponder your mind.
You need to tell him exactly how you feel about the realtionship. He needs to make a choice in his life and do you.
I will tell you this, if you keep going this way as the other girl in his life, it will begin takes is toll on you, physically and emotionally. I hope you make the right choice, and as hard as it will be, you cut your ties with this man. There are many men out there, who are looking and waiting for that perfect someone. I'm sure you have heard that before, but take it from me, someone who has been down the road your walking on...... honestly is a wounderful thing and an awesome feeling.
Feel free to email me if you want to chat. Like I said, I know what your going through and how you feel.
2007-08-23 08:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by Just Life, Trying To Live It. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just wanted to give you a virtual hug after reading everyone else's replies to you. Things like this happen all the time and most people do not understand (or want to) that you are probably feeling bad and torn already. As much as some people would like to make you feel bad and call you names, it is HIM that is committed to his partner, not you. But that doesn't make it okay for you to sleep around with him. Please, with all your strength, stay away from him. Don't take his calls, avoid seeing him, block him online, etc. You don't need a part-time man in your life. You deserve a man who can offer you a lot more than that. He will only give you heartache and while you're busy thinking of a man who is unavailable to you, you are passing up the ones that are available...without you even knowing.
Good luck to you and start thinking better about yourself.
2007-08-23 07:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How "spoken for" is he? is he in a bad relationship and doesn't have much of a reason to get out of it? maybe you are the reason he is waiting for but you have to trust that he is being honest and not just using you for the "one night stands"... Find out his real status and then sit and discuss the situation with him. He needs to really want out of the problem he is in and be with you, or it is time to put away your love and move on.
2007-08-23 07:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself a question - if you were a guy would you want a girl, who's standards were so low, they would sleep with someone else's man. Also ask yourself why would you want a man who would cheat on his girl. Oh I guess he will be faithful to you? Get some self-esteem!!!!!
2007-08-23 07:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by The Mrs. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this man is spoken for and is willing to cheat on his woman with you, he has shown you how he would treat you if he was yours. If you're cool with not being his only woman, go ahead and see if you can steal him from the current one. When she finds out about you you'll probably be welcome to him.
2007-08-23 07:11:47 · answer #6 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! You`ve been used. Why would you want somebody elses man? Scrap your dignity off the floor and find one of your own!
2007-08-23 07:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get your hopes up especially if he's married. Don't get too attached either. If he's doing it behind his significant other's back, do you think he wouldn't do it to you if given the chance? Just don't get into something you may not be able to get out of.
Feel me?
2007-08-23 07:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by Califiyah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you are , if he chooses to leave the one he's with, than great good for you, if not , than forget it he's not interested and you dont want to be the other woman. Lots of single good guy's out there.
2007-08-23 07:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugg....why dont you think about doing the right thing and leave him alone.....why is he still even taken and screwing with you? Its gross that there are girls out there like you who let these guys do this and get away with it......gross gross gross...you should be ashamed of yourself and how you let yourself be used like toliet paper
2007-08-23 07:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by Sales Girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋